Every girl I meet is fucking damaged in some way. Where do you guys find girls that are LTR-potential? Seems impossible in my late 20's to find a decent girl.

Borsao66 · 2019-02-23T21:13:04+00:00

If you're not happy without a woman, you won't be happy with one. Happiness is an inside job.

SalporinRP · 2019-02-23T20:53:32+00:00

Try looking for women in different places. When I first started my RP journey 2 or so years ago and was in the anger phase I would lament the state of women but then I did some introspection and realized I was basically gaming women from 2 sources: Bars/clubs and dating apps.

Once I started joining clubs and doing social activities that didn't involve getting wasted I met some higher quality women.

I'm not gonna lie and say it's easy though because I assume you have certain requirements for women just like I do and when you start looking for someone that checks all the boxes the numbers get really small.

CptGoodnight · 2019-02-23T22:09:51+00:00

Society has neutered most men's ability to raise women worth taking as a wife.

Therefore, go to where big city society has less of an influence. Smaller town girls.

boom_bostic · 2019-02-23T23:18:06+00:00

Women in their late 20’s are going to have baggage. If they were such a great catch, they would have been snatched up already.

Aptote · 2019-02-23T18:27:19+00:00

to find and select my current LTR, i made a list of attributes/qualities that i wanted

18/19 year old chicks can be LTR material, you as the man must know how to handle them

they are like horses, so to speak, horses need to be 'broken' before they can be ridden, once they are broken they respond to the reigns of the rider

kellykebab · 2019-02-23T19:19:45+00:00

Damn, so much anger. Take a deep breath for god's sake hahaha. Now keep breathing. Meditate. Realise women cannot bring you happiness. Realise it doesn't matter if you ever find one LTR material. You'll find someone if you find someone. Until then, keep looking. In a nutshell, outcome independence. You're making their problems your problems, when really your problem is just to not have low quality bitches in your life beyond plate material. For what it's worth, I've also found if you're a high quality man, you tend to attract high quality women, and don't give your time to low quality bitches, so don't be afraid to look inside and learn what this may say about you.

Glowv2 · 2019-02-23T18:45:02+00:00

It Might just be the Vibe your putting out there. If all you get is damaged girls As you proclaim, then look inwards

GiraffeOnWheels · 2019-02-23T22:53:08+00:00

You're on the verge breaking through to the next level of RP awareness, that hookup culture utterly destroys women. If sex were just a fun pastime and not an intense chemical/bonding experience for women, you wouldn't see so many borderline suicidal CC riders and relationships destroyed by women running back to exes. It's pretty rough for men seeking LTRs right now.

I wrote up a green flags list I'll go ahead and copy-paste here. Use it responsibly since since those rare uncorrupted/minimally-corrupted girls shouldn't be toyed with until they lose their minds and become more roasties.

Dad is present and is military, farmer, teacher, tradesman, etc.
Her apartment is clean(messiness points to mental illness or being allowed to skip chores and sit around being a princess as a child.
Religious or culturally-religious. Avoid atheist and new age-y girls who talk about karma and crystals like the plague.
Exes are kept at arm’s length.
High-quality friends. Birds of a feather...
No tattoos or piercings other than earlobe.
Interest in the outdoors.
Chose a practical major. Accounting instead of women’s studies etc.
Bookworm.
Likes kids.
Doesn’t care about politics.
Likes animals but doesn’t impulsively collect them. One cat is a good sign, 6 cats or a large dog living in her studio apartment is a bad sign.

Gobraves44 · 2019-02-23T18:16:21+00:00

look for mid 20s. Offer the maturity you are looking for, without hitting the wall just yet

jackandjill22 · 2019-02-23T21:15:39+00:00

We’re all human

Besthater · 2019-02-24T01:48:03+00:00

I like my women as I like my cars. 22 years old and full of issues. its more fun that way.

0io- · 2019-02-23T23:24:49+00:00

It's not easy. You could try to go for some girl who has never dated before. Sometimes the straight-A student is so focused on school that she never went to the prom. The problem with girls like that is they may be so serious about their studies that they don't have much time to hang out and have fun. Girls in medical school and top PhD programs might suit you. They won't fall into your lap. You have to go out and find them.

leftajar · 2019-02-24T02:02:41+00:00

Welcome to the West, man.

Join a church, conservative group, or date foreign women. Or hope for the needle in a haystack.

i-ren · 2019-02-24T03:52:59+00:00

You´re not offering love and understanding. Confident women run when they feel treated as an object.

zxcvb7809 · 2019-02-23T23:48:07+00:00

You have to be content being alone first and foremost, this takes time.

Second once you are capable of being alone, when you spend time with women it has to be an experience. They have to have a great time. And when they are not around you be distant. If you need me to expand I will but I think it is pretty straight forward.

Best of luck.

sehns · 2019-02-24T04:25:43+00:00

Find ways to meet hot women that aren't in bars and clubs

pridebrah · 2019-02-24T08:28:49+00:00

You attract what you put out there ... this might sound stupid at first but change your mindset and you will literally find the vibe/frequency you seek. The world will set you up.

[deleted] · 2019-02-23T21:20:26+00:00

Put simply they’re damagaed because you are. You are unconsciously seeking them out.

Get therapy and undamage yourself.

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-02-23T19:26:42+00:00

At church

Btw why you want ltr? You don’t need perfect girl with all green flag is normal to have some orange or red flag

You have to learn her if want good ltr

That’s my perspective

MurkyArtichoke · 2019-02-23T18:17:10+00:00

Where are you meeting them?

Do you pursue any women who make it even slightly difficult?

TheGoldenFangBang · 2019-02-24T01:03:14+00:00

Okay, so there's this thing called the Universal Hot Crazy Matrix. It’s everything a young man needs to know about women...

LordMarkStark · 2019-02-24T06:40:13+00:00

Try to see the best in people. Develop some sympathy/empathy or tolerance to the problems. You don't need to solve them in order to enjoy people in the main though sure some problems explicitly inhibit any interaction/enjoyment with some girls just like guys in reverse, and you don't need to settle down with them either.

But you are right - there's a lot of damaged young girls out there. Its a society problem. At one point girls had their heads screwed on earlier than guys for various reasons including being sheltered more - but now they're out there amongst it and with the single mother epidemic across the globe, of course they will get more scratches and bruises and they will seem even less mature (for a girl) than you may have expected, and they will be less contented in general as they are on career paths and don't want to settle down as readily. I can only speak generally.

You might want to try presenting yourself differently and attracting a higher caliber of girl according to your tastes. It could be possible you are meeting the wrong people in the wrong places, so de-prioritize what you are doing in that regard.

As young girls remits on their lives expand; whereas in the past they were more narrowed in homelife/kids/supporting a husband, - well now you must take existing and limited female faculties and apply them over more areas - so their lives will be more hectic and their hedonism heightened since they are not tied down or expected to be tied down. So in essence by and large we have older more loserish girls on our hands. Maybe not the best words; but remember they're going through life as best they can. Girls take longer to find their feet in many cases and some of their lives get derailed more easily than before - because they are exposed to more risk. With freedom comes risk.

But just keep that in mind, because being happy with yourself more than being happy about anyone else on a personal level is far more important for YOU.

If you're out on dating apps or clubs then you are going to proportionately come by more single mothers and party-ho's or girls just out of relationships, more generally unstable and deliberately or otherwise unavailable girls. You might want to like I said look at meeting them in different places - and you will have a different relationship trajectory because of it.

Your problem is moreso you expect too much from women or you want too much from these women causing you unhappiness. Don't worry about it if you can't do anything about their situation, and don't try to.

Still, get in while the going is good - you're young probably so the time is now. Don't let it hold you back. Don't fight the world. Ride it. You don't even need several plates to ride the world, take them one at a time.

Women won't solve your problems in your life they only exacerbate problems. But then there must be more extenuating circumstances to your case. I do absolutely agree though that its the most bizzare thing.

There's good ones out there though certainly. Also most young girls are batshit crazy, start thinking of them as on the level of little sisters basically, and don't judge or criticize them too harshly for it. Have more fun with girls in general, so I think the problem lay in your own perceptions of the situation; because no one can change the world, its too big a thing to change. Start to accept it and see the good (or what there is) in people.

Most importantly have the relationship you want to have. Girls have to learn this crap but the best season for any woman in this modern day, maybe it always was, is the early and mid 20's - they are her golden years, in todays world if she is knocked up as a teenager the prognosis of her life lowers. And yet in todays society a relationship is not the go-to thing for women in her 20s' to do in the main.

But talking about it is pissing in the wind, go find yourself a young one and give her a reason to fuck you, stay with you, whatever you want. You could actually improve two lives then. Its ideal for you, you're late 20's, right? So this means the girls who will be highly into you will be young and mid 20's. Go for girls around 24, 25, 26 maybe. They haven't hopefully seen too much dick and are still relatively whimsical and prancing, and not pragmatic enough to be down on themselves yet or spat out from a bad relationship/experience. This is why above I said the time is now for you. Until about 35 you have an enormously good chance to settle down (or just go out with for the long-haul be however long that is) with one of these mid 20's birds. Dont squander it in dislike. Who cares about the ones you dislike. Even then only fools rush in. Just try and go for it.

look in the mirror and tell yourself you want to make some bitch happy in a red pill way, just because it makes you feel good. See a few girls, see where you're at and pick the best one that comes along and focus on her slightly more. Let things happen as things get proven enough.

alphafili · 2019-02-24T06:44:19+00:00

Bro find a different approach, you ought to have been giving off a “I wanna help you solve your problems” type of vibe. Focus on a different “Us fucking weekly is a good idea” type of vibe. See how that plays out

HurricaneHugues · 2019-02-23T20:43:14+00:00

Let me guess, youre seeing these plates one by one aren't you?

hrm0894 · 2019-02-23T23:03:37+00:00

You don't. Instead, you wake the fuck up and go MGTOW. Finding a LTR in today's society is like jumping into a venomous snake pit and hoping there will be one that doesn't bite.

nidham21 · 2019-02-24T00:34:34+00:00

Watch coach red pill video about where to find women. I hope that helps

mickymark1 · 2019-02-24T02:10:59+00:00

Set your intentions. LT relationships mean genuine and clean intentions. The way you talk about rotating plates leads me to believe your true intention is to have a long term fuck buddy. Not the same thing- they rarely pass one year.

trpppp123 · 2019-02-24T05:00:33+00:00

I'm a bit in the same boat. Not sure about LTR material, but when I've been on my travels in Central America and parts of SEA, I've noticed the local women quality to be much higher. Unfortunately I don't live there or plan to so I can't say what their long-term quality is like, but it did seem that way.

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-02-24T07:50:26+00:00

That just means you're damaged. not everyone is super fucked up, but you do create the reactions in other people

cadaemos · 2019-02-24T10:52:32+00:00

Ahm... Depression... Lots of them with some kind of "depression" or along the way of hating their life.

htowntrav · 2019-02-24T16:46:36+00:00

I’m gonna try my luck in the rock climbing community. I’m going to work on my skills and my smv in this community before I start gaming. It takes a fair amount of physical capabilities, skill, patience, persistence. Plus the people I’ve come across have a charismatic atmosphere around them. So I’m working towards finding an LTR. If that’s not in the cards for me I still have an amazing and versatile skill/hobby that will push my strength/stamina.

lonewolfsrise · 2019-02-25T08:52:59+00:00

The harsh truth is that we are all damaged and you gotta settle for someone who's good enough not perfect. Learn to accept and live with people's imperfections.

Hyper_Sonik · 2019-02-23T19:48:21+00:00

Don't be looking for LTR, That is a bluepill fantasy.

[deleted] · 2019-02-23T21:31:07+00:00

What makes u so special? These chicks are flakey? But don't u just want a "easy" regular lay?, join the long queues...

Crixusgannicus · 2019-02-23T23:44:19+00:00

Learn the ways of the For-- no no..not that ..Learn the ways of the Crazy/Hot Matrix

https://imgur.com/gallery/ik9LqSX While like anything else, it doesn't always work but its close enough to reality to be useful.

thesquarerootof1 · 2019-02-24T03:19:56+00:00

Jesus, did I write this post on another account or something ? It's like everyone sucks and has some sort of "loophole" with them. Not only do a lot of women have a lot of issues, but they are hard to get because there are so many dicks trying to get with them. There must be somewhere in the world where I can literally just choose whomever I want (with a few limits of course) because it is sure as hell not in the US. The US is way too competitive. Even ugly girls here have a lot of options.

TrimHer · 2019-02-24T04:20:54+00:00

The question is what do you want a woman for? If it's for anything other than to procreate, spin plates. If it's to procreate, make motherfuckin' sure you keep screening as tightly as you are.

phoenix_md · 2019-02-24T00:21:44+00:00

Become Christian -> marry wholesome, virgin, Christian girl.

Title	Every girl I meet is fucking damaged in some way. Where do you guys find girls that are LTR-potential? Seems impossible in my late 20's to find a decent girl.
Author	MurkyArtichoke
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Date	February 23, 2019 6:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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