This girl i'm interested in and I had a conversation. It wasn't an argument per se but it wasn't rainbows and sunshine either.
It started off with her telling me something she wanted that I wasn't doing. That's was all fine and dandy, until I flipped the script.
I told her how sex isn't enough I need affections such as hugs and holding hands and things like that. Not constantly mind you, it's just what I want and need.
Shit tests ensue.
She said, "but those things aren't important to me. Thats some lovey dovey high school shit and you're 22". I replied "This relationship isn't just about you, they are things I want""My life as a bachelor is amazing and I won't surrender that unless you provide something better; you can't provide something thats just as good".
Next she brings up how she never had those things growing up and how her dad didn't really show her attention like that. Oh great daddy issues. I reply yes that happened and I can see how that would effect you, at the same time do you really want to live your life so cold?"
Next she drops the "I was raped" card. It did happen and I know it. I told her "Yes that happened and I won't even try to put in words how traumatizing that was and marginalize you like that, at the same time are you going to let that define your life and keep you from being happier?"
Next I hit pay dirt. She told me something I needed to hear. She was super honest and it hurt. I'm glad she had the balls to say it though. Before I brought up what I wanted and she was telling me what she wanted her hamster was in overdrive. After I stood my ground and wouldn't let her hind behind victim cards she told me in plain English what the problem is. Fucking magical.
So yeah I ended up getting laid later that night but thats not the important part. The very next day she started doing the things I wanted. Well not exactly but she made a conscious effort to give me a little more affection then the previous day. Things will take time and that's ok. Rome wasn't built in a day.
Honestly if any other girls had pull this shit I would have just walked away. I know I can get another girl she just has certain things that a rare. Still at anytime she's only providing the same amount of fulfillment my single life gives I'll leave.
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