These are questions for older and more experienced guys (like me) who have been with a lot of women. What sort of feelings do you get when you think about your old flames, like STRs, favourite plates, ex-LTRs? For me when I review my past relationships and think about the women I get warm and positive emotions. Even with one former LTR who gaslighted me and hurt me a lot, I still have some love for her. I have loving feelings towards most of my former STRs/ LTRs and plates of note. Seems to me that men can love many women and it is a genuine feeling. I would happily live in a big castle and they could all be part of my harem. In fact historically powerful men had harems, concubines, mistresses and multiple female partners. The ability to love many women comes very naturally to a man as men are the true romantics. It is not that I am blind to their faults, or that I forgive or forget the terrible things they have done and are capable of. I know how terrible they can be but it is like a child really, they are simply acting the way a child (or woman) acts. In some ways I think this is the final stage of swallowing the pill, the ability to accept and love a deeply flawed and dangerous creature such as an attractive human woman. Does anyone else with a long string of exes feel the same way?