I'm 38 and have been married to my husband for 8 years. In general we are a pretty red pill, traditional couple. I work full time but then also do the house keeping, cooking, and most of the childcare. (No kids together, but we have three kids from previous relationships.)
Generally, my husband is pretty good. He treats me like a queen and goes out of his way to fix things. He is smart and has a great sense of integrity. I refuse to entertain the idea of divorce. I try by best to prop him up in life and that too generally works. He'd do basically anything to keep me happy.
Unless, that is, it falls under the umbrella of things he is not interested in. If the task falls there it never gets done even if he explicitly states it will. Examples of this are our bathroom and kitchen remodel-- there is massive structural damages to both of those places. He doesn't want to spend the money on a contractor, he says he'll do it himself. I don't nag him, but we are coming up on a decade of things not being done now. The single bathroom is a mess-- the walls are literally water-soaked and rotting. We have the money. I bring it up once every 6 months or so and he always says "oh yeah, we should start on that next month," but nothing happens.
Its driving me mad. Most things I try and let go but there are certain one's I'm having a really hard time with. What can I do? Help me find some peace to this.
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