I don't use TRP terminology when I chat to my wife, but I don't shy away from expressing the ideas.

Last night in bed I was brought up a discussion on here around the study that found half of married women admitted they had a back up husband in mind. We chuckled a bit about it before she came up with "well I'm one of the half who don't!"

I smirked and replied with one of the comments in the thread. "No, you're one of the half who don't admit it."

She got mightily offended and demanded to know if I had a back up wife.

I snarled and stated that I was never getting married again. Ever.

That started the hamster spinning. She wanted to know if I was not happy. She wanted to know if she had offended me. She insisted that I appeared happy and that she hadn't noticed that I was not happy. On and on it went. I let her go without interrupting.

Once her hamster actually stopped spinning long enough to let me answer I just said that my priority would be to our daughters and that I would not risk any of my labour and resources going to some gold digger. And that I was shocked, shocked I tell you, that her first thought was otherwise.

That answer earned me a nice massage with a very happy ending.

Dread works. Adding a dash of beta to the mix makes the wife happy.