I have known this woman for years. I basically became an orbiter because, she was a hole in my record. We dated in highschool but never fucked. When I came back to my home town I wanted to clear that spot in my record. This was all well before I discovered TRP. I have always done ok with the ladies, so PUA philosophy wasn't something I had ever really delved into. I don't care about clearing that blemish in my record any longer because of how childish she began to appear in my eyes. But recently she took that to a whole new level.
She has two kids with two different men; and a third (with a third guy) on the way. She said it wasn't an accident, even though the third guy doesn't have a job. She met him on the internet he had a job where he was living but he is trying to find work locally. He speaks with a fairly thick accent, and she apparently doesn't realize that this area is still very racist. I'm sure he could find plenty of labor work, but he is a pilot by trade. That is all besides the point.
She is rather dependent on the child support checks she gets from the first two baby daddies. Early this morning I got a text from her that said "I feel like I'm going to die. My life got so fucked up in the last 24 hours."
I responded, "What's up buttercup?"
and she tells me that Baby daddy number 2 is trying to take their daughter for half time.
My first thought was "fuck off" my next thought was "good for him"
I hadn't responded at all when she said, baby daddy number 1 "will follow suit then I will never be able to leave" then another text before I could respond, "attorney wants 5000"
I told her that the new guy really needs to find work.
That's when she said she was thinking "Old self destructive feelings. Abortion. Wishing my car would crash" There was a bit more complaining about life, and I tried to play nice. She responded with "I want to die, baby too" then I sent her these three texts in a row: "want me to come punch you in the stomach? or kick you down a flight of stairs? Shitty jokes aside, I think every single dad out there SHOULD want at least half time. It should be important to them."
she responds "Fuck you"
So I decide to let her know what I'm really thinking, "I didn't realize that you were quite so dependent on other people's money"
she responds, "Again, Fuck you" followed by, "It has zero to do with that"
I don't really believe her but I want to let her state her case before I make any more assumptions. So I step back slightly, "Ok... sorry I misread the situation. What is the problem with [baby daddy 2] trying to take [her] for half time?"
no response.
I tried to reiterate. "Maybe I just don't get it. Do you have a problem with [him] spending time with her?"
still no response.
I mostly just wanted to share this here and see what reactions others have to the situation. Could I be misreading it? Edit formatting spelling and this: I don't need her in my life, but I don't need to cut contact with her. She's never going to have any sort of hold over me again, this shit just underscores that.
TL;DR woman is dependent on child support payments, denies it.
Update 11 hours after the last text where she left me hanging I receive two texts from her
"I'm sorry for being a dick today. I love your face."
and
"Seriously though I love you. I hope I wasn't too big of a dick."
now I'm not sure if my flair should be men's rights cause of the child support issue, or field report cause of her response.
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