How do you guys deal with people still plugged into the matrix who act like your the strange one for avoiding monogamous relationship in order to foucus and improve on ones self? (21 years old)

rnsbrum · 2019-03-24T14:06:47+00:00

Yeah I have the same problem and my parents think I'm gay

berna_maia · 2019-03-24T11:13:58+00:00

Don't spill them redpill theory, but just clarify to them that you have other goals in mind and a LTR isn't a priority to you, avoiding will just make them more curious and make them talk about it more. Be honest and tell them you aren't looking for one right now.

Atheist_Utopia · 2019-03-24T10:21:37+00:00

You really shouldn't be caring.

BurnoutRS · 2019-03-24T14:08:02+00:00

"Have you got a girlfriend yet?" yes

"Whats her name?" which one?

macheagle · 2019-03-24T13:50:46+00:00

OP, I have the exact same issue with my family and relatives. All my bluepilled cousins married “early” with toddlers and more kids on the way, and all I get asked at the family reunions and BBQs are when I will have an LTR, because you know, apparently my time is “running out” at early 30’s LOL. Seriously it is becoming such an annoyance that I actually wonder whether there are certain things I can say to make them understand my POV without explicitly spilling RP theory on them.

I’m focusing a lot on my career and physique, and while IMO some of my plates are LTR worthy, I have a good feeling they there will be more of them and likely even better ones as I hit my SMV peak probably a few years from now. So I am not at all rushed in any way. However literally no one in my family circle understands this. My parents are actually ok with as I am redpilling them gradually (it’s working), it’s my relatives that are completely clueless.

ShinyRedKetoPill · 2019-03-24T14:01:13+00:00

The people asking this feel so much sadness for you. But if you look at yourself and look at them 5 years from now you will see you chose the right path.

When they are in their sex-less marriage with their second child on the way and 40 lbs of body fat gained and you are doing your thing. Unshackled and empowered.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-24T11:55:27+00:00

Crabs in a bucket, fuck it. Most people want to live in their bubble, and expect life to be handed to them. Hold frame. Tell them they can join you at the gym if they want to lose the love handles.

Or 'I see where sitting on their ass gets people', and give them a sly wink.

WoodWizzy87 · 2019-03-24T13:18:25+00:00

Here’s your problem. If you’re plate spinning that much and you can’t find a girl that even worth a short term relationship, you need to up your standards like a lot dude.

Always just say your casually dating, and say that you haven’t found one that’s a right fit. Because as you know, most girls besides like 5% are trash

good-look · 2019-03-24T12:32:08+00:00

brah just tell em u havent found the one yet maybe theyll hook u up w new plates too

[deleted] · 2019-03-24T11:56:46+00:00

It hurts at the beginning to say to the people you love and who are your friends to be against them. The best thing you can do is be quiet, nod and agree and then do what you want anyway. It's just one of those things of becoming a TRP high value man.

On a side note, the idea that plate spinning is an audition process for finding the One is of someone that's still plugged in and needs to die. Read Plate Theory I.

thisisnotme__-- · 2019-03-24T16:18:02+00:00

They probably think you're gay and are too afraid to come out. Seriously.

Victorious666 · 2019-03-24T19:01:03+00:00

Just tell them you're happy being single and to mind their own business. If they insist on setting you up, take them up on it, pump and dump, and they will eventually stop setting you up with their friends.

DirtyBastard13 · 2019-03-24T15:38:19+00:00

"'I'm too busy to with work/school to date", "I haven't found the right one, I guess", "So many out there who aren't marriage material" tends to work.

SexualOnion19 · 2019-03-24T17:32:00+00:00

Don't talk about TRP like you need to impress others or get buy in. Just say you don't like monogamy and you're all about self improvement. If someone asks enough of the right questions, redpill that faggot and save a life. But don't go looking for reasons to talk about keeping frame and spinning plates.

nevalutionary · 2019-03-24T20:16:46+00:00

I went with my dad to meet some old friends of his. A man, his wife, their adult children, and children's children. I haven't seen them since I was a little kid. They're doing the usual, commenting on how much I've grown (sub-communication: damn you're a stud now)

Towards the end the wife says, "When are you bringing us a wife?"

I turned to her with a smirk and said, "I'll bring you several."

She laughed and that was that. We said a lot with a little.

Moral the story:

1) You're young and you're still taking people's inquisitions seriously. Maybe on some level you haven't truly broken from their approval. Ultimately what they think doesn't matter, and many people, especially people much older than you, are out of touch with the realities of dating today.

2) Confidence and frame wins. You choose your life. Do it righteously. Have fun. If people think you're losing rather than choosing, maybe on some level you're communicating that you're losing. And this may loop back to point #1.

UEMcGill · 2019-03-24T15:10:32+00:00

"All the stripers I date just keep stealing my money."

"There's only so many single moms I find attractive."

"You know any girls I can save? I love fixing girls!"

they just don't want to drop the topic

This isn't about them not wanting to drop the subject, this about frame. If people want to ask intrusive questions give them absurd answers. You joke because it's uncomfortable, and want to change the subject. Instead of that, own it and make them uncomfortable. Eventually, people will learn not to ask stupid questions.

warburgio · 2019-03-24T17:38:15+00:00

have you got a girlfriend yet - yh, ive got few gf. End of story

RedSkeller · 2019-03-24T18:07:02+00:00

You'll get shamed well into your 40s, better get a good line for it.

xddm2653 · 2019-03-24T19:20:51+00:00

Ask them for an arranged marriage

alpha-zach · 2019-03-24T19:23:55+00:00

Hold frame and treat it like a shit test.

It’s only annoying because you are in their frame. (Which may make some sense because they are likely your elders)

Just latch onto the knowledge that as you improve yourself you’ll be improving your SMV. One day you’ll walk in with a smokin hot girl 5-10 years younger than you, well vetted, and submissive. Their jaws will drop, and it will have all been worth it.

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-03-24T19:42:21+00:00

Depends on the context.

If the people in question can impact your prospects for career advancement, then feed them a pleasant-sound Blue Pill flavoured lie ("I just haven't found The One yet").

If the people in question have no impact on your ambitions or prospects for advancement, you can mostly ignore them.

WindIsMyMusic · 2019-03-24T19:53:18+00:00

Say "not your fucking business" in the nicest and least offensive manner possible.

The skill of doing so will serve you very well in many, if not all fields of life.

youngbull24 · 2019-03-24T11:38:34+00:00

Redpoll information makes you sound crazy. They are going to find the info themselves because they’re open for the info to seek in their head or stay plugged in because it’s more comforting it’s a choice

[deleted] · 2019-03-24T15:50:30+00:00

I just had very short 'relationships' but that was mostly out of personal laziness and convenience. I'd 'commit' to shitty girls but never really invest. They'd be more like a crappy live in maid that I fucked for a few months then I would get sick of her and ask her to leave.

It helped me recognize and deeply understand that few people have the ability to change. Most of who a person is, is set by the time they start having sex, true adaptive souls are rare.

Tell them plainly that you are looking but you haven't had the one. I'd say I was saving myself for someone that fit me.

WiredT · 2019-03-24T16:10:54+00:00

Keep walking your path and make a great life for yourself and eventually theyll stop asking that and ask if you can give YOUR advice. Thats when you speak, or at least thats the point im trying to get to. But until then, other people have better advice to side step it.

[deleted] · 2019-03-24T16:27:23+00:00

If you've done the required reading, then you have the tools to deal with this. Start with fogging.

Zegiknie · 2019-03-24T17:55:14+00:00

Some people just want to watch the world burn.

If you are one of those people, ask them to set you up with a nice girl. Then plate her.

Nov51605 · 2019-03-24T18:00:05+00:00

man, be a diplomat , be smooth and "naive" . Luckily youre young enough to where they wont scrutinize as hard.
use lines like , "well if the right one came along, id get married", "just dating right now", etc...
We all know there is no "right one" - they are all hypergamous whores due to long programmed evolutionary biology, but just use the "right one" even when asked by women regarding if you are married or have been married before, etc...

htowntrav · 2019-03-24T20:00:17+00:00

Weak frame?

_Anarchon_ · 2019-03-24T22:30:56+00:00

I've had a number of friends tell me I'm the smartest guy they know for never having been married. I don't have that problem. But, if I did, I imagine I would challenge them on it. The problems in their marriage will be obvious. If they start pressing you, press them...and point out how miserable they are, how much less of a man they are, how cucked they are, etc. They won't bring it up again.

StopGaming1234 · 2019-03-24T23:02:34+00:00

You probably make too big of a deal out of it.

Since I started having one girl after another I get way more respect everywhere, especially in my own family.

When people ask "How's your girlfriend" I usually answer "Which one?" or "Which of those?". I always get a smile and positive reaction.

Dad is proudly telling everyone that I am spinning multiple plates at once (Of course he doesn't use TRP vocabulary).

I always thought you would get looked down for "cheating" or having multiple partners. But even my own mother suprised me when I once showed her a picture of my latest plate WHILE I was being in a relationship and all she said was "What a bomb!" with that proud look. One of the best moments in life as a son.

Just1515 · 2019-03-25T09:09:08+00:00

I dont. Realise that they are PLUGGED IN. They all WANT a relationshio, and or kids etc. They want to find “the one”. A relationshio and maintaining one is of it ost inportance for plugged in men and women at all times. Not just for sex or their sexual fulfilment, but even a shitty relationship. Its a status thig and also a blue pilled goal.

They probably genuinely feel sad for tou are are genuine worried. You are not seemingly succeeding in this extremely important blue pill want and goal, and thry assume you want it(how can you not? Thats the way it is!) because they believe you are plugged in too.

You cant show someone the other side with words. At best they will just look at it through same lens but change it a little for your situation.

Dont bother. Just say you would perfer not to deal with a relationship or kids for now. It’ll mindfuck them.

U cant convince them. Blue pilled plugged in people will have ego identification with their relationships, even the shitty ones. A sexless mariage, with overweight wife, annoying kids and no time for yourself or your goals is “making it” to them because if it wasnt they would be forced to stare at the red pill truths in the face and it hurts.