LTR hid her location on Snapchat and showed suspicious behaviour changes. How to emotionally prepare without completely detaching?

jinxmix · 2019-04-17T07:55:38+00:00

She’s got some dick. She’s not overcompensating. The nude was not taken for you. You just also got a copy.

TheHyperHuman · 2019-04-17T09:36:57+00:00

You've got a gut feeling something is not right.

Listen to your gut feeling.

bittr_n_swt · 2019-04-17T08:52:49+00:00

I’ve heard it before and I’ve heard it again. When a woman becomes more affectionate than usual, they’re compensating and they’ve cheated.

Soft next

caius100 · 2019-04-17T09:29:19+00:00

Your gut is right 90% of the times. It's over. Hard next.

mleko69 · 2019-04-17T08:33:46+00:00

I presume you've soft-nexted her, right? Slowly degrade her to "friends with benefits", then to "fuck buddy", and everything will naturally fade away. Her behavior is a red flag IMO, but I'd wait for more solid proof which will appear sooner or later.

TehJoshW · 2019-04-17T10:21:16+00:00

If you feel the need to check your girlfriends snapchat location, you probably shouldn't be in that relationship to begin with

redhawkes · 2019-04-17T10:06:59+00:00

Trust your gut. Up the dread and pay attention to her behavior.

The thing is that you fully operate in her frame, which speaks that you don't follow any of the tenets here. I'd demote her to plate and add more to the roster just to see what abundance feels like.

willso86 · 2019-04-17T07:35:32+00:00

She got some average dick and has been thinking that you are better at hitting it

SemperPrimus · 2019-04-17T10:41:37+00:00

Uuhh how can you find someones location thru snapchat? Edit: man this is fucked up, no wonder my ex kbows what im doing all the time!

Casd12 · 2019-04-17T14:38:31+00:00

Hide your location, disappear for a night see how she reacts. If she doesn't care then you could be over thinking this and she didn't fuck some other dude. If she over reacts and gets all nervous then she probably did cheat. This won't confirm it 100% tho. Regardless, just be prepared

Kommanderdude · 2019-04-17T13:21:51+00:00

Part of feels like this is your male hamster spinning because you lack abundance. Why do you have the time to track her location on snap chat? Perhaps she is worried that you’ll mess around without her there so she is sending nudes to keep you happy. I’m gonna need more info than that to make a determination. Not everything is as black and white as the Virgin sperg lords on here will lead you to believe

KoolAidMan7980 · 2019-04-17T11:02:06+00:00

Youre throwing around all the buzzwords but not listening to what ALL the comments are telling you. She is not acting appropriately for a LTR. Demote and personally I would next.

sstidman · 2019-04-17T13:34:53+00:00

It's insecurity when you experience typical behavior but fear something is wrong even when there have been no red flags. But that's not the case here. You checked her location because her behavior suggested she was possibly cheating. You're suspicion is mostly based on a change in behavior that is obvious to you but I'd bet there were other subtle changes that you've picked up subconsciously that you are not aware of. It's a combination of the conscious and subconscious clues that led to that guy feeling.

As a guy who has too much experience with a cheating wife, I see what you've described as serious red flags.

KeenanTheBarbarian · 2019-04-17T12:22:30+00:00

As far as purposefully hiding her location maybe she turned on airplane mode and GPS location was lost? I'm not entirely sure how it works while I have it I don't snapchat to be honest it feels like a waste of time.

You are thinking of one possibility but the truth is there are many. Maybe she does actually feel bad for being cunty. Sometimes when I'm with a girl too frequently I can't stand her presence/little things annoy me and after we're apart for a while I realize I miss parts of them I'm sure it happens to all of us.

You have choices to make. Trusting your gut is important and it's also important to note you don't have any proof of anything. I personally would continue on with the relationship keeping in mind you don't feel it's right so being open to new opportunities. Hit the gym, live your life and when someone new comes along if you still feel the way you do - take action.

When I get bitchy behavior I call them out on it immediately and pull back until I feel like they've invested enough effort to make up for it. A simple "sorry" isn't good enough - it's just words. If you like repetitive behavior accept the apology and move on until it happens again (and repeat every time exams come up or they have period or what have you) otherwise shut it down completely. Sometimes girls act this way when they're questioning if you're into it too... It's impossible to know so again trust your gut and live your life how you want to live it.

[deleted] · 2019-04-17T09:32:56+00:00

she fucked some other dude and felt bad about it. dump her brah

donkeydodo · 2019-04-17T11:05:24+00:00

Mentally impregnate a picture of her being gangbanged by AC Big Black 10''; get it through your thick skull that she's using you as a backup-dick, perhaps a BetaBux - it hurts man, for sure, but man the longer you wait the worse it'll get.

lacaguana · 2019-04-17T15:06:32+00:00

Always trust your gut

alleyteris · 2019-04-17T09:22:42+00:00

Trust but verify ( im kidding ,never trust )

cafeitalia · 2019-04-17T15:30:24+00:00

Location is turned off. A behavior she never exhibited before. So there is a change that happened. Enough reason for dump-truck to floor the gas.

max_peenor · 2019-04-17T16:37:54+00:00

she's been fairly affectionate out of nowhere

Ding ding ding. That's the big one. Changes in physical behavior are a golden tell.

You have been lining up other women, so it really won't be a big hit when she is gone. Right? You have been doing that, yes? Meanwhile, keep sticking your dick into her until it becomes a chore instead of fun.

yettymonkey · 2019-04-17T11:33:08+00:00

detach and back away some. You need to up your SMV and apply dread. If she does not respond after all of that and the truth does not eventually come out then soft next her. She could still be a future FWB if that's what you want. But she is not LTR material as more then likely she did something that would go against the LTR code. Let that be getting some dick, going to a party, club, making out with a dude, etc..... What is interesting is that you got the nude pic also which sounds like whatever happened was enough to just excite her and give a "spark" back in the relationship that was no longer there in her hamster. Remember you guys are young and she in the prime of her SMV so if anything take this as a blessing and a lesson to learn about the true nature of women. The sooner you can except that the better a man you will become.

Rerel · 2019-04-17T13:59:49+00:00

/dump

/next

Whisper · 2019-04-17T18:32:05+00:00

I get the feeling you guys are going to tell me she got some good dick and now she's overcompensating out of guilt or to satisfy the beta me that cares or something.

Like most people who ask questions here, you already know the answer.

You just don't want to believe it.

Retstortion · 2019-04-17T16:43:34+00:00

It’s over.

nothestrawberrypatch · 2019-04-17T18:02:15+00:00

I don’t give a fuck where my woman is. If she’s got nothing to hide I don’t need to know her location. The fuck is this bullshit about tracking each other? I’ll never let an LTR track my ass, nor would I ask her to do the same.

mickymark1 · 2019-04-17T19:51:28+00:00

If she’s never sent you nudes before she’s DEFINITELY overcompensating, especially when hiding her location. And IF SHE’s hiding her location that means she knows you know that location/lack of her not being where she’s supposed to be.

DoucheBiggalo · 2019-04-17T09:21:01+00:00

Chill out bro, you’re definitely overthinking. You shouldn’t even be bothered by checking her location. That shit is such an invasion of privacy imo. I get it. It hurts thinking she might be unfaithful, but this short term change doesn’t mean much. It’s not evidence of anything. Get a grip and stop relying on her behavior to feel content with the LTR. At most treat her like a plate and proceed with caution.

[deleted] · 2019-04-17T13:58:44+00:00

Tell her to share her location with nobody but you. See how she responds. If she’s not hiding anything she shouldn’t care.

Dustin_Bromain · 2019-04-17T16:41:13+00:00

Using the location feature on Snapchat is a fucking retarded way to try and judge her behavior. Also, a nude out of the blue could literally mean that she wanted to show you her value/sex appeal.

Without hard evidence you have nothing to go off of. Sit her down, talk to her in person and judge her reactions to your questions. If she avoids the questions or won't answer you in a completely honest fashion, then you know something is up.

yumyumgivemesome · 2019-04-17T16:56:40+00:00

OP, I think you're still in the information-gathering phase. Your hunch and everybody else's hunches are very likely correct, but maybe you're not ready to drop her outright. Find opportunities to learn more without letting her know that you are suspicious. In the meantime, you psychologically "next" or demote her. This will make it easier to literally next or demote her when your suspicions are confirmed. Also keep in mind that you may never know the truth, but that doesn't mean you need to remain in the relationship if there is a very serious issue of trust.

zxcvb7809 · 2019-04-17T17:48:51+00:00

She was looking for someone to bang when she was ovulating. Someone who she saw as more of an alpha than you for whatever reason. After she satiated that desire she goes back into comfort mode (beta.) I read about this recently.

You don't own her, it is just your turn sir.

asktrp4433 · 2019-04-17T18:04:24+00:00

as for the snapchat - if her score isn't going up and her location isn't updating she hasn't used it.

if her score is going up and her location isn't updating she hid it, likely for sus reasons.

keep in mind that the score updates whenever a snap is either sent or opened, and the location updates whenever the app is opened.

Flintblood · 2019-04-17T19:23:08+00:00

Whatever you do, act from a place of abundance. Always be independent and not reliant on anyone else.

Quietly slip back and move along. Don’t be needful or seek approval.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-04-17T22:06:59+00:00

Where there’s smoke, there’s flames —mother fucker

Kabuki431 · 2019-04-18T04:28:28+00:00

Wow so most of you guys dont know how women react on their periods ? Not saying she didn't get side action, but c'mon women on their periods are a different beast all together. I have closely seen women withdraw, isolate and go off grid on period. Optimistically she might not wanna go all bitch in OP.

But again AWALT

faustian_talos · 2019-04-18T08:46:12+00:00

She is fucking around. Ditch her.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-04-18T10:25:18+00:00

You know... I’m 35. Been with dozens of women. Never in any of my relationships has my gfs mood or sexual interest changed because of where she’s at in her menstral cycle. She was only moody with you bud.

You know what else I’ve learned in my 35 years on this planet? It’s ALWAYS what it looks like.

addwater · 2019-04-18T17:06:15+00:00

More red flags than a communist parade breh.

I'd be demoting to plate before I get cucked and start self improving.

Gdubs76 · 2019-04-19T03:15:23+00:00

Sorry, that was mistype. Should have read 'you blame her for "his" actions'.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-04-17T13:40:17+00:00

You already know what she did. So you know what to do.

But, if you want to, just to humor yourself, do this- talk to her as if nothing is wrong. FaceTime her later. Talk to her like normal. Pop the question- so why did you turn your location off last night on snap? She may or may not tell you the truth but pay attention to the way she says it.

Gdubs76 · 2019-04-17T14:35:59+00:00

Its creepy that you would check her location.

Title	LTR hid her location on Snapchat and showed suspicious behaviour changes. How to emotionally prepare without completely detaching?
Author	adhdrp
Upvotes	128
Comments	144
Date	April 17, 2019 7:14 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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