To thrive, we must evolve. Such premise is based on what the world inflicts on us and how we respond to it. Ultimately, it is pain that scars us over. It is the armor we will need in order to become formidable, and is the protection that women insatiably crave from men.

Many a men inquire the question:

How does someone truly and genuinely reach a state of self-love, self-centeredness, and self respect?

If the entire foundation of wanting self-love is based on self interest, then we’ve already achieved it. But this is simply the beginning. The realization.

The practical answer to gaining self love is simple:

We find someone who is selfish. Continually have them push our boundaries until we’ve experienced so much pain and so much suffering, that we have absolutely no choice but to say “Enough”. From here, self-love is born. It will be a mere infant at first, but it will be the integral foundation that holds the rest of us up. And this process, no matter how long it takes, is something that happens without conscious effort.

Superficial name for self-love: frame.

A relationship with a woman is not required for this. A business partner, an overbearing parent, or even a close friend can give you the experience necessary to conceive self respect.

Men end up here because of the overwhelming, gut-wrenching, hair pulling sensory experience of having gone through a relationship they were ignored and viciously betrayed.

But reality is only a reflection, a mirror, of who we are internally.

If we continually ask, “I want love and respect”, reality will respond in kind. It will provide us with an environment in which we do not have it, because “want” implies “I do not have.”

But when love is focused on ourselves, reality will provide us with an environment where others will do the same for us. And desired relationships with women begin to bloom.

But this doesn’t happen until we experience the pain of being betrayed. Unfortunately, it is a necessary evil for the expansion of male energy.

“Men love women. Women love children. Children love puppies.”

A staple saying here on TRP, and yet there is another component to it hidden beyond its words. If puppies look up to children, children to women, and women to men, who do men look up to?

There are different words for this: God. The Universe. Allah. Enlightenment. The Self. All different names, but all pointing to the same thing.

Some may argue that Mother is the right answer. Perhaps. But a mother’s love is entirely giving, and a son’s experience with his mother is designed to return him to The Self, or “source”. As the Cherokee proverb goes:

“A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source. Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.”

Blue pill energy is feminine by nature. It is giving. It is selfless. By the law of polarity where positive attracts negative, feminine (selfless) energy will attract masculine (selfish) energy.

Because of the nature of feminine energy and its purity, it will inevitably transmute into masculine energy through pain. It’s implied when speaking of male experiences (military boot camp, relationship betrayal, divorce rape), but this can be seen in women, as well.

Women who continually go through multiple bad breakups or divorces, are hurt or severely abused, will scar over just like men, and will become masculine by becoming more aggressive. It’s quite fascinating.

But women are much more fragile. They are not designed to suffer except for their children. It is our job as men to be protectors of women. If gender roles were reversed, attraction would be confusing: you would have a masculine essence in a woman’s body, and a feminine essence in a man’s body. Better to put everyone in their rightful place.

Just as the purity of an entirely white outfit will lead to a spill of red wine, we are designed to scar over. But foremost, as men, we will suffer, and we will suffer immensely. Yet everything about all this, about life, is designed to return us to ourselves. Naturally.

Pain is necessary, but the reward will be waiting for us on the other side.