It seems every week we see a few posts discussing how racial minorities navigate the SMP and whether their race has a negative impact on their SMV. Many are downvoted as race-whining and most don’t get meaningful exposure. We criticize women for not understanding general statements (“Any generalization is too big for a woman's mind, including this one.”), but some RPers look towards the individual successes of minorities and use that as proof that race has no effect on SMV.

If you ask men if they like black women, most would honestly say no. Their answer might be for any number of reasons: they’re ghetto or ratchet, they’re not feminine, or “I just don’t find them attractive”. This seems like an uncontested point. Likewise, if you asked women if they liked Asian/Indian/etc. men, most would say no and give similar reasons: they’re creepy or weird, they’re not masculine, or “I just don’t find them attractive”. But then some RPers still refuse to recognize the advantage that white men have, despite evidence to the contrary.

Ultimately, minority men can compete and succeed in the SMP, but they operate at a significant disadvantage. Recognizing that disadvantage is paramount because you cannot overcome an obstacle without first acknowledging it. The problem when race threads get downvoted is that it limits discussion on the issue of race and how men of low-SMV races can improve their rate of success. When advice is given to minorities, it’s the basic TRP lift, dress well, make money, read the sidebar. Obviously that works, but it’s fundamentally the same for all RPers.

What I offer is a guide SPECIFICALLY FOR MINORITIES that covers topics that might not be in the sidebar. This is based on my own experiences and observations, as well as those of friends of various races. Ideally this guide will not only help minority men close the gap compared to white men but even surpass them, although I believe white RPers may also find some value in it.

Disclosure: I am North African and living in Los Angeles. Your Mileage May Vary, but I believe this guide will be successful for any race in any cosmopolitan area.


1 QUIT WHINING

It needs to be said. Yes, you would probably do better with women if you were white, but you are who you are. You cannot change, only improve; but that is impossible so long as you remain in that “woe is me” mindset. Your game will suffer for it, and women can smell that shit a mile away. You can't fault women for preferring white men when you also want a white woman.

2 Maximize Your SMV

At first this seems like the same ‘basic’ advice I criticized earlier, but sexual success as a minority depends not only on a high SMV, but UNDERSTANDING why maximizing your SMV is critical. For example, I stated earlier that most men do not find black women attractive. However, most of those same men would eagerly have sex with Beyonce because her SMV is so high that it overcomes any reservations they may have about black women. She's so hot they wouldn't care. The same applies for us. As a minority, it is key that your SMV be high because you need to compensate for the reservations women have about minority men. The truth is that all other things being equal, 9 times out of 10 a woman will choose the white man over the minority. Therefore, the solution is to make sure that all other things are NOT equal. Your body must be fitter, your game tighter, and your wallet fatter.

3 Avoid Stereotypes

High SMV women are always looking for reasons to disqualify you. This is doubly true for minority men. They have stereotypes in mind and they’re just waiting for you to confirm them. You must be vigilant. Watch your words and actions and defy their expectations. For example, I’m not even Muslim, but God forbid I ever speak in favor of “traditional” or “old-fashioned” relationships. Then I’m the backwards patriarchal misogynist who only likes circumcised women. No wonder the Middle East is a shithole. Substitute gang rape, daughter abortion, hood mentality, or Machismo as needed.

Law 38 (Think as you like but Behave like others) is especially vital. Obviously we have better things to do with our time than debating women, but when it comes to discussions about gender roles and relationships, white men have much more leeway in what opinions they can voice. Keep your head down when it comes to controversial topics unless you’re in a known, comfortable group. But also, referring to point 2, the higher your SMV the less you rock the boat. Think of the difference between ‘creepy’ and ‘funny’.

This isn’t limited to conversations, but to all potential situations where you might be judged. If you’re Indian, don’t try chatting up girls on your way back from the gym or after a fragrant meal. If you're black, make sure you're well-read and informed on current events. If you’re Asian and a ‘grower’, rethink those boxer swim shorts when you hit the beach. You know the stereotypes. Don’t give them weapons to use against you.

4 Avoid conflict

This is related to #3 but is so important I felt it needed to be addressed on its own. When you as a minority go for a girl of a different race, people WILL give you shit. Mainly guys who feel they are above you on the ‘hierarchy’ of race (White>Black>Hispanic>Arab>Asian). Sure, you two might have shared a beer 10 minutes earlier, but now they see your girl, they like your girl, and they want your girl. In their minds they can convince her to ditch you and “upgrade”, and THEY’RE NOT WRONG. If you lose frame, that’s exactly what she’ll do. If you get jealous, mate guard, lash out, or talk back, you play right into their hand. Especially if it’s a white guy banking on you being an angry minority. Obviously you have more leeway for an LTR, but not total immunity. A cool head must always prevail. Amused mastery is your friend. "It’s 2014, I thought racism was dead." Ideally your opponent will seem backwards and insecure instead of you.

The more subtle and insidious threat will be the people who try to shame you for not going after the girls of your own race. Fuck them. They’re either jealous guys or girls of your own race who want a soft BB landing when they fly off the carousel. Black women especially are pros at this (and all the Steve Harvey "Think Like A Man" bullshit from recent years has made it worse; watch them change their tune when they actually get some non-black attention), but even white girls get in on the action trying to shame white guys into staying away from Asian girls. Don’t engage them or try to debate them. I always say that I’ll start dating Middle Eastern girls when they do the same, but even that I feel is too much.

5 Embrace your culture…

One tactic I’ve seen for minorities is to bury their ethnicity, whitewash themselves, and try to blend in as much as possible. That is the equivalent of a 5’2” man wearing massive platform shoes to the club. On the small chance he’s not immediately ridiculed, he does not hold up to any kind of close inspection. The shoes have to come off eventually. A minority who tries to ignore his looks or heritage performs a similar act of insecurity. We are not white and never will be. Don’t pretend otherwise. Women love pride and confidence. And trust me, there’s nothing better than boldly saying “I am X” with that strong sense of culture and history, especially when the random white guy next to you “thinks his grandma was German, maybe” before trailing off mumbling something about 1/16th Cherokee.

(Exception: The only people who can pull this off are minority guys who are half-white. Often times they have to 'pick a side'. Stay true to your roots, but play up the white aspects if you're trying to get girls. White girls will like you because you're exotic and different enough to be interesting but still white enough to not be alienating. Minority girls will like you because you allow them to satisfy their white hypergamy but you're still ethnic enough to not make them feel like they're selling out.)

This is counterpoint to #3. Don’t be ‘the foreigner’, but know your history, culture, and where you came from; and don’t be shy if an appropriate opportunity comes up for you to discuss it. This leads into the next point. Embrace your heritage…

6 …But give them what they want

White girls love war bonnets, dream catchers, moccasins, and those vaguely tribal designs they find on clothing at “vintage” stores. But how many of them care to learn about Native American history or, God forbid, actually visit the rez? They love all the flashy accoutrement of foreign cultures (especially the food…) but care very little for cultural significance or respectful admiration. To them, appreciating another culture means appropriation and accessorizing. Think of how much women love ‘travel’ and compare that to what they actually do while abroad. Hint: it’s the same fucking shit they do at home, just with a foreign filter and a smug sense of false worldliness.

(Semi-off topic: perhaps I’m generalizing, but every guy I know who went abroad came back with all kinds of crazy stories, amazing experiences, and a smattering of the local language. The girls only talked about foreign clubs and partying abroad. Take it with a grain of salt, but still.)

When pursuing Western women, you need to give them a similar experience. I am North African. When I’m with girls and culture comes up all they care about are khamsas, mint tea, hookah, and belly dancing. That’s what appeals to them. And even then you can see their eyes glaze over and their hands twitch for their phones if I mention the history and significance of those things. They want superficial enjoyment without any deeper understanding. Don’t try to educate them, just sweep them up in the ride. I can take them to any shitty ahwa (Arabic café) and they act like it’s something out of Arabian Nights. Figure out the equivalent for your race/ethnicity and learn how to present it, and make damn well sure you know the best place in town for [insert race here] food. With shining eyes they will look at you and profess how wonderful it is that you thought they were special enough to introduce to your culture. Try not to roll your eyes.

The question remains as to when to bust out these cultural big guns. Honestly, if you're at the point where you can take a girl to a bhangra show, tea ceremony, or cultural art exhibit, then you're pretty much already in. In fact, some of these things might be too intense for a first meetup. Rather, you want to dole out ethnic theatrics gradually. Unless culture was explicitly discussed and she expressed interest, you want the first date or two to be normal RP. Feel free to tease her about how awesome your culture is and that you might bring her around if she's cool enough. Don't dump it on her, allow her to 'explore'. Then throughout the relationship you can periodically "include" her in the ethnic activities. The point is to not make it a gimmick, but another tool in your arsenal.

Again, keep point #3 in mind. Don’t lay it on too thick or you’ll be typecast. We are more than our ethnicity, all of us. Respect yourself as an individual. We defy stereotypes and racism because we refuse to allow others to define us solely by our race. Don’t do the same to yourself.

7 Know your demographic

This point seems antithetical to the rest of the guide, but the truth is that you are going to do better with certain women and certain scenarios versus others. It’s the concept of diminishing returns. Yes, you can and should go for any women you want, wherever you want, but if you want the biggest bang for your buck (pun intended) you’ll know how to strategize. Pay attention boys, this one's a biggie.

7a: Location

For example, unless you are extraordinarily fit or good looking (top 5%), Tinder or online dating is not your best bet. Whereas the top 20% or so of white men can compete online, only the top 5% (Asian and Indian) and 10% (Latino and Black) can do the same. Online dating massively enables a woman’s hypergamy and there’s no point in her settling for you when a better option is a few swipes away. I had a white roommate who is shorter, chubbier, and less attractive than myself, but he matched with girls on Tinder FAR more often than I did. (Whether he actually closed is another thing entirely) However, if we walked into a party together he would be invisible. In real life, my confidence and swagger shine through in a way that isn't possible on a phone screen. While he was matching with girls every week, I was consistently picking up girls on the weekends. It’s all about context.

Likewise, for a minority a cold daygame approach is an uphill battle. Yeah we’ve all seen the videos where the Asian PUA gets phone numbers, but how often do you think those girls text back? In my experience it’s not worth the time and effort unless you can establish some connection (ie not just talking to her on some random sidewalk) Your best bets are parties and social events, through your circle of friends, and clubs and group activities; basically any situation where you’re not judged solely on your looks. If you’re lifting and taking care of your appearance, girls will find you attractive, but these are situations where you can use your game, confidence, presence, and force of personality to overcome any hesitation a girl may have for your race. Also, surprisingly, concerts and music festivals are a great place to find receptive girls. I think it’s the drugs.

7b: Geography

Not all areas are the same for picking up women. Obviously you should never uproot your life solely for women, but if you have the choice of locale or you're visiting then bear this in mind. Essentially, geography can be broken down into three areas: climate, competition, and scarcity.

Climate: Not the weather, but the vibe of the city and what the ideal is. If you're in Santa Barbara or another beach town and girls are running after blonde surfer beach boys then you're gonna have a bad time. Likewise if you're in the deep South and there's lingering racial tension. Compare those locations to a place like south Florida. Proximity to the Caribbean and multicultural demographics make it much friendlier for minorities.

Competition: Who are you running up against? In a world-class city like New York you're competing with the cream of the crop. Lawyers, brokers, Old Money, male models, etc. TRP advocates BECOMING one of those world-class men, but until you do so you're playing out of you're league. Compare that to the Pacific Northwest (Seattle and Portland), crawling with politically correct SJW/BP beta guys. Frame and game will take you far.

Scarcity: Where the white women at? If you want a white girl, then find out where they are. Attractive white women are rare in San Francisco, and on top of that there are plenty of Asian and Indian guys to go around. Their value becomes hugely inflated. Compare that to the Midwest where pretty white girls are a dime a dozen.

Understanding these concepts is understanding why I have trouble with white girls in Los Angeles but I'm fighting them off in Boston.

7c: Race and Culture

The other factors to take into account are the race and culture of the girl you pursue. After a certain amount of time you will find out which girls are the most receptive to you, and act accordingly. For myself, if I put in the base amount of effort, I can close an attractive Latina or mixed girl, a decent white girl, and a below average Asian. So I tend to go for Hispanic/Black/mixed-race women, avoid Asian women entirely, and handle White women on a case-by-case basis. Therefore the overall quality of the women I date and my rate of success are significantly higher than if I approached all women equally. The farther away you are from a woman's 'racial ideal', the more she will shit test you. In her mind, you have to compensate for your race by being especially Alpha.

By 'culture' I mean the social situation and preference of the girl you pursue. This also depends on where you are meeting women. For example, white men dominate Hollywood, government, and business. The closer women are to those spheres, the more they are going to pursue and value white men. Likewise, look at black men in athletics, music, and entertainment. The same applies. Different scenes will have different standards. A ‘country’ girl might exclusively date white guys, while a girl who actually lived on a farm will be open to minorities. Distinctions are paramount. Girls who overly value ‘image’ will take significantly more work.

7d: Breaking it down by race

What has been true in my experience. If you don't know where to look start here. Obviously not including girls of your own race.

Black: White girls blasting Childish Gambino and Drake, hip Asian girls on dance teams, and any Middle Eastern girl who isn't too religious. Seriously. Kim Kardashian isn't doing anything new. Arab girls LOVE black guys, anything to piss off baba.

Indian: Asian girls are receptive and Hispanic girls are down for the brown. Same color, different flavor.

Middle Eastern: Just like Indian guys, Hispanic girls are fair game. If you tend towards the white side (Lebanese, Armenian, Persian, etc.), then white girls are a viable option as long as you keep that SMV high. If you tend towards the black side (Moroccan, Egyptian, etc.), then black and mixed girls are gonna be all over you.

Hispanic: Keeping up that cultural exchange, middle eastern girls are great, especially if you're a good dancer. And like Arab guys, if you're whiter (Argentinian, from Jalisco, etc.) you can go after white girls and if you're blacker (Puerto Rican, Dominican, etc.) go after the black and mixed girls.

Asian: White girls that read too much manga are probably down. Joking aside, there's no real race out there for you that's easy pickings. You have to approach all girls similarly. The 'easy' way is to get really good at something then plow through girls in that area. See Jeremy Lin. The Asian guys I know that get hot (including white) girls are creative types (singer, dancer, artist, etc.) that are great at what they do.

If you’ve been working on your SMV any girl is worth a shot. Don’t let this point dissuade you. Just be aware of the context within which you pursue any girl and decide if you’re making progress. Evaluating your interaction is a dynamic process. The key here is to not put the pussy on a pedestal. Sometimes for guys the idea of fucking the blonde sorority girl (who herself is an ideal) is more appealing than the actual act.

8 NEVER DATE A RACE TRAITOR

We all know these girls. Asian and Indian girls are the worst offenders. They are a liberal and 'educated' veneer over a damaged, self-hating core. Race traitors ride the carousel HARD for years before eventually finding a nice same-race BB at 29 and getting married at 30. TRP does not advocate anger against women but if anyone deserves it it's these women. This might seem like a small point compared to the rest but the massive hypergamy of race traitors further skews the SMP, necessitating this guide. They're usually smart enough to at least not be single mothers by the time the wall hits, but they will ALWAYS find their BB.

If you keep working on your SMV and dating women, eventually these girls will come around. You're the perfect package. The AF they crave so much wrapped in a socially-acceptable same race package. They get to ride the carousel with no stigma. They're happy, their parents are happy, everyone wins...except you. DO NOT FALL FOR THEIR TRAP. They will work hard to rope you in and pretend they are the perfect package. Even if you ignore the whore past, the facade will inevitably crumble. Do not date them, do not marry them. They are only good for the pump and dump.


This is not a comprehensive guide, but I think it's a good start. If anyone has questions, rebuttals, critiques, additions, or death threats, please feel free to share them. And as always, thanks for reading!

Edit: Thanks for the gold! This received much more attention than I was expecting and people are still commenting. I've gone through and made some additions and improvements.