Be His Soft Place to Land

[deleted] · 2015-11-14T19:11:26+00:00

A Rock cannot cling to another Rock to steady himself.

:)

always-be-closing · 2015-11-16T15:39:02+00:00

Yin and Yang.

Women adore men for their strength and resolve and eschew men who are weak and unsure.

Men adore women for their sweetness and softness and eschew women who are bitter and hardened.

Male womanlyness and female manliness are detestable because they are never useful - they are each poor copies of femininity and masculinity, directed at the gender looking for something else.

Feminine men are little use to women, masculine women are little use to men.

Woman is the soil of the human forest. When she is warm and nurturing, man grows tall and strong and unyielding. When she is cold and barren, he is stunted, withered, and fruitless.

femiyogi · 2015-11-15T20:20:52+00:00

First of all, I really liked reading your article. It made me reflect on my role as a supportive girlfriend to my SO. Thank you for that.

I would like to add my experience to this. I am still studying while my SO works full-time and on days when I see him (often after his work) he has so many anekdotes to tell. And whether it is about this colleague of him that he doesn't particularly like or a new project he's been working on, I always try to listen to him very carefully, hear him out and add a comment or two. Sometimes, this does feel quite passive, but it really is an exercise in being empathic towards a loved one. He works in a field different than my own, but I try to understand where he's coming from and support him as much as I can.

This is only one aspect of our relationship, but I think that my SO appreciates the effort. He has even literally called me "soft" and "fluffy" in a very loving manner :-)

Promotheos · 2015-11-14T17:52:48+00:00

Poetry

freebumblebee · 2015-11-14T18:14:24+00:00

This is beautiful. Thank you.

katsumii · 2015-11-22T04:54:10+00:00

Hello Stingray,
Thank you very much for sharing your post. This is exactly the number one issue in the foreground of my mind lately! In fact, it's something I'm struggling with, and it's a personal problem I'm working on.

In the comments, I saw the link to Elspeth on "Types of Wives." My default girlfriend behavior is mostly "stimulation," and that is what my boyfriend likes. But he needs solace as well, and that's what I'm struggling with. Like, he really needs it. And I'm really bad at it, but am working on it.

Your comments also resonated with me, especially this:

2) Women want to actively do something, to be overt like men. It’s what we’re taught is best. It makes it very hard to see that the covert is what is often needed.

Yes, so this is what I am trying to un-learn... :P Plus, I have some kind of anger/reaction issue, and it's a challenge for me to remain soft while the negative energy in the room flairs up. >.<;

Anyway, a well needed message for RPW. Thanks again.

-kat

shinesunshine · 2015-11-14T20:15:10+00:00

This is beautiful, advice to live by. Right now I'm failing as I'm very ill in bed and my husband is doing EVERYTHING. :(

Beligirl1972 · 2015-11-17T00:58:17+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. The anecdote about being a soft place to land on really resonated with me. My husband didn't grow up with a loving, nurturing mother. Until me, he never had a soft spot. My own mother was nurturing and lovely. She died in September and I am deeply grieving. My husband loved her too and also mourns her passing. He has been my rock but I find that I am pushing him away. This hurts him but I haven't cared, being selfish. You reminded me that I am his soft spot. I cannot allow my grief to harden me towards the one person who loves me nearly as much as my mom.

Title	Be His Soft Place to Land
Author	StingrayVC
Upvotes	75
Comments	18
Date	November 14, 2015 3:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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