Pretty much the title.

A lot of people have their own opinions as to what constitutes valid dating advice, which mostly amounts to a squabble between "what benefits me" versus "what is beneficial to other people."

This is why there is a lot of confusion surrounding dating in general. People don't know what advice to take and in what context it is correct. The "what benefits me" crowd is mostly filled with manipulative advice akin to PUA tactics that are designed to create an attractive image of someone rather than express who they are while hiding or obfuscating their flaws and intent. Anyone who talks about "game" does this, because that's primarily what "game" is.

Then we have the advice of "be yourself" and other bloop tropes that only really work if someone is already high-value and socially capable, which is often bashed by the "what benefits me" side because the people that have to use game are not high-value, and therefore not in a position to "be themselves" and attract the opposite sex.

A lot of people think that the only "good/valid" advice is the advice that "works" or gets them the most of what they want, and conveniently with the lowest amount of effort possible. That often results in turning to "the dark side" and pursuing manipulative advice that artificially/actively creates attraction rather than naturally/passively creating attraction through being someone who has put in the work to be an "attractive" person.

That being said, those who are well-adjusted, mentally healthy, secure, and mature because they've refined themselves to be a high-value person are mostly going to be the ones who are able to give advice on how to be attractive and valuable to others, and to themselves. Even if "fake it til you make it" works, if you don't actually become high-value, you'll always be a low-value person in disguise.

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