Understanding Men and Women; Why They See Things Differently

Summary

  • “For the masculine, they will feel safe and secure when they have the greatest opportunity to produce results, and that comes when they are respected and trusted.”
  • Women experience safety and security when the people around her give her a nearly constant sense of being connected and when she gets their attention
  • Men and women’s instincts antagonize each other
  • Example: Men tend to be “single-focused” which may cause the woman to feel ignored
  • Example: Women want to be very accurate in their details; if a man says X happened on Tuesday when it happened on Wednesday, the woman interrupts him, correcting the man (in front of others), which the man interprets as a lack of respect
  • Suppressing your instinctual urges and thinking for a moment before you speak can solve many problems, for both men and women

Analysis

The key point to understand is that women and men go about achieving the same end goal, feeling safe and secure, through different means. The problem is that since our instinctual behavior is at odds with each other, what you do may not make sense to your man and vice versa.

One goal I believe any person should have is to minimize their conflict in a relationship. It has sadly become a common trope that fighting in a relationship is normal. Nowadays people say things like "there will always be arguments, there will always be fights," and you'll hear things like how she’ll throw something at him because she’s mad, he’ll hit her because he didn’t like what she did, she stormed off when he tried confronting her about her behavior, he ignored her and drove to the bar when she complained that he didn’t do what he said he would. Of course some issues are legitimate and no amount of communication will solve them. I don’t think not correcting an alcoholic’s detail in a story he tells will suddenly make him want to quit drinking. However, by understanding the differences between you and your partner, the probability that conflict will arise decreases.

The mainstream/feminist media wants us to believe that conflict is a normal part of a healthy relationship. I disagree. If you respect your man and you’ve chosen a good man, I believe the need for screaming and yelling at one another isn’t there.

In some hours many of you will be at your dinner tables with family and friends celebrating Thanksgiving. Despite it being a joyous occasion, there is ample opportunity for conflict to arise, which could lead to an unpleasant night and unnecessary fighting and drama. Use this post as a reminder that though your man may make a mistake when telling a story, or may not talk to you for a 20 minute period of time because he’s busy talking to other people he hasn’t seen in years, he still cares for you, and is simply trying to feel the same way you want to: safe and secure.

TL;DR Think before you speak

Happy Thanksgiving