How to not be the provider male

jay_jay_man · 2019-04-18T00:40:46+00:00

Don't ask them out, invite them over to your place and fuck.
Don't talk about your career, money, education

Do be muscular.
Do be clean and groomed
Do escalate quickly and if she isn't receptive, leave.

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2019-04-18T00:14:38+00:00

Provide dick, not cash.

SOLODOLOGUY · 2019-04-18T06:18:23+00:00

If you’re sexually attractive, girls want to fuck you.

If you’re not sexually attractive, girls want to use your wallet.

Get attractive first.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-04-18T02:24:41+00:00

Don't invite chicks out to cookie cutter romantic movie dates like dinner. Take them out for drinks instead. Get to the venue ahead of time, get a drink and pay for it, and wait for her. She'll show up, she'll see you already have your drink and might make a comment on it. But It's really irrelevant because she'll believe your tab to still be open and she will order a drink too. When it's time to leave just start walking to the door. She'll ask you if you're not paying, and that's when you'll say that your shit was prepaid and that you'll be waiting for her outside.

Bruchibre · 2019-04-18T03:18:28+00:00

In the end you have no choice other than being a provider male because of the currency is not money it is time or attention and girls crave for it. So it's more about playing on scarcity, tweak the market to your favour: be desirable and not available.

latinasonly · 2019-04-19T13:17:43+00:00

it doesnt matter if you pay or dont pay. its about whether you command respect or not. a provider gives without being respected.

whether you are respected or not is your choice.

Tombert_Williams · 2019-04-18T01:16:54+00:00

If you do take her out for dinner, go somewhere fairly cheap but focus on a place that has something unique about it. Larger cities should have published restaurant reviews that can tell you about hole in the wall ethnic restaurants that nonetheless have good reviews. You want to talk up how great the place is, not focus on the prices.

Or you could take her just for a coffee or drink.

Try to think of some task you can assign her, small enough that she won’t revolt, but enough so there’s no free ride. If you’re having dinner at your place, ask her to bring something.

GeorgePottasium · 2019-04-18T00:08:49+00:00

It’s fine, and is expected of you to pay for the first date or two. But after that you should expect her to pay for at least half now and then. And if you are not fuckin, you shouldn’t be paying at all.

Title	How to not be the provider male
Author	NobodyP1
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	April 17, 2019 11:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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