Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my Coworkers

LuckyPeaceful · 2019-04-21T11:43:37+00:00

Unfortunately, they do seem to be really uncommon now. I'm 23 and have only just started learning how to sew (having been inspired by a vaguely RPW YouTuber) and I'm very aware of the fact that the women around me don't know how to sew either. I very much agree that it's ridiculous not to be able to cook or clean... they're just basic adult life skills. But I also think your coworkers are not just surprised by your skills, but by the fact you use them to go out of your way to care for others. Most people wouldn't care about the tear in the sheet or providing a treat for your clients, but you did. That kind of pro-active, caring attitude is rare, but I'm sure your clients appreciate it and that it improves their quality of life, even if your coworkers don't get it.

topsul · 2019-04-21T12:07:50+00:00

Are these things so uncommon in modern society now?

Yes, they really are. The craziest part is, we have faster knowledge sharing than we have ever had in history. If a person didn't know how to bake a cake, they could search it on YouTube and find hundreds of how-to videos within seconds. Despite that, people are still so willfully ignorant that they would rather brag about not knowing something and spend hundreds more per month on restaurant food than learn a basic skill that hundreds of millions of people in history relied on for survival.

okayestwifey · 2019-04-21T13:26:04+00:00

A lot of people are proud of their shortcomings now. It's why the term "adulting" happened.

stay_rad23 · 2019-04-21T14:10:01+00:00

I feel like this attitude is a defense mechanism. I just turned 24 a few weeks ago. I cook meals from scratch regularly and can sew. My sewing skills could use some improvement.I can patch things, sew a button on, and I've even made a basic summer dress. Today I'm doing Easter dinner for my fiance and my future in-laws. I don't feel suppressed by the patriarchy. I feel so proud of myself. I have coworkers that have their mom bring them lunch, or eat take out leftovers every single day. These are the same people that proudly say they can't cook anything. I think some people substitute pride for shame so they don't have to admit a flaw. If they're proud then they're in control of what makes them self conscious.

artemis286 · 2019-04-21T14:27:13+00:00

I legitimately love cooking. I have a few recipes I've created myself, and make several other very labor intensive meals. I say that my kitchen is my zen place, and all I think about when I'm cooking is being right there in the present. It's highly meditative for me! I enjoy baking as all, and bake bread frequently, and have even tried my hand at sourdough a few times.

Even within my conservative religious circle, these skills are dying. I come from a religion the replaces a high priority on marriage and family, but of course many are still raised in the world so to speak and affected by the culture. So women are getting married without a clue on how to cook a thing, or sew, and without basic household management skills. And as a result, as a generation we eat out and convience foods more than any other generation, and are paying for it with our health, not just our bank accounts.

I find that young men are similar affected with traditionally "masculine" household tasks. How many young men do you know that know how to change a tire, fix a bike, or fix anything for that matter haha! I was very blessed with a husband that served a religious mission in a forigen country, on top of parents who taught him basic household tasks. He recently assembled and fixed my bike for me so I could ride it now that it's spring! He changes my headlights and tires on my car too, and has some basic carpentry skills. And we are in our early 20s!

It's really pushed us to a more highly consumer culture. We buy cheap things and replace them when they break, many don't have a clue on how to grow their own food, or how to even make much food themselves. It's made us more reliant on consumption, rather than home production. It's not a pretty picture totally outside of traditional relationship values! We hope to change that with our children. We plan to loosely follow a Montessori approach, and I plan to homeschool, and actually teach my children practical skills at young ages, and have them help in a large garden and potential homestead in the future!

Kara__El · 2019-04-21T06:09:30+00:00

I work in an extremely liberal environment. Several of my coworkers don't shave anything and regularly make comments against the patriarchy. One even said my husband doesn't cry because of his "toxic masculinity." It's exhausting, considering my bachelor's degree is literally in home-ec.

Just be glad that this is your competition. You look more put together and more competent (and apparently better at your job), next to the feminazis.

jkgal · 2019-04-21T14:42:43+00:00

I would say basic sewing and cooking skills are just adulting. Are you going to throw out a shirt when it looses a button? And are you going to always order food? That sound really wasteful...

organicsunshine · 2019-04-21T12:49:08+00:00

I don't understand it either. These things do not require talent or special knowledge. Just takes doing.

taurusbaker · 2019-04-21T16:07:09+00:00

both men and women should be able to cook and have basic sewing skills

allmycatsaregay · 2019-04-21T19:15:14+00:00

I made my husband a shirt a couple years ago. Every time he wears it and mentions that his wife made it people act like he said his wife is a literal wizard.

pennynotrcutt · 2019-04-21T16:00:20+00:00

Quite frankly men and women should know how to prepare at least one decent meal, and sew on a button. We learned this is Home Ec in junior high.

AtDaLastMinute · 2019-04-21T20:29:01+00:00

It's not you. It's an inferiority complex. Think about how the straight A kid gets made fun of for being smart and useful.

Hannelore010 · 2019-04-22T13:40:12+00:00

Parents, 4-h is a great resource for both your daughters and sons to learn these skills (and compete for recognition!) I’m not a great sewer, and making all our own clothes would be too expensive, but I know the basics because I had 4 years of sewing (and you model your clothes after judging, too, which is a good experience). I can crochet, knit, embroidery, weave, and quilt also because I had an elementary art teacher who taught me all those skills

I agree with the commenter who said in general the current age 20s-30s generation (including myself) uses WAY more takeout and convenience food than our parents did. I remember getting McDonald’ s or going out to eat maybe once a year, if that, in the 80s. In grad school in the mid 00s I was made fun of (in good humor—I wasn’t offended) for having people over for dinner, like an old lady :)

MrsMisery · 2019-04-21T20:35:17+00:00

I personally don't know much about sewing but could stand to learn, so I can't say anything about that. However...shouldn't everyone know at least basic cooking? Eating out for every meal adds up no matter what your income may be.

I have so much fun experimenting with new recipes, and feeding the people I love brings me so much joy. My now-fiance lived with me for a month before I had my daughter (long story, not relevant to topic at hand) and I made sure to cook for him as much as I could. Think a nice hot breakfast every morning, if we didn't have work that day I also would make him lunch and dinner (if we did, our boss covered food at the end of the day). To this day he looks back on that time extremely fondly specifically because until I came along no one had ever taken the time to make him nice meals like I did (and still do whenever possible). But...I'm 25 years old with a toddler. I need to know how to make more than just ramen and it's discouraging to me that so few people my age have basic life skills like feeding themselves a home-cooked meal.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-04-23T17:21:42+00:00

Home Ec isn't taught anymore, and with two-income houses and single mothers, the wifely skills have mostly fallen by the wayside. After all, who is there to teach them? Mom's at work, extended families aren't respected so grandparents aren't there to teach them, dad's at work or kept away by divorce, society only loves the pretty, new, and shiny, not the frugal, practical, and thrifty... more and more people don't even change their own oil or fix a flat - and often don't even know how.

Title	Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my Coworkers
Author	taurusbaker
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Date	April 21, 2019 12:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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