If you have never been the casual sex guy, you do not know women

Summary: Women wear masks and put on performances. They behave one way for a man they’re not interested in, one way for a man they want a relationship with, and another way for a man they’re meeting for casual sex. Only one of these sets of behaviors is her real self. Believe it or not, it’s the side of herself she shows to the casual sex guy. That guy will know what she’s really like and experience a level of intimacy from her that even her future husband will never touch. Racking up a casual sex history with women is how you learn what women are really like, and how women stop surprising you. If you have not had casual sex with women, you don’t know women. You don’t understand them. And no amount of reading about it will suffice. You need to get out there and be the casual sex guy to learn.

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Many men end up at The Red Pill after being surprised, sometimes repeatedly, by things women say or do. What women are like. Women that they thought they knew and thought they understood ended up doing something that seemed completely unlike them. These men felt tricked, as though these women hid themselves and manipulated the men around them. But the fact that women wear masks and exercise filters, putting one face forward with one guy and a completely different face forward with another, isn’t tricky deception. It’s just how women are. If you don’t understand that and it makes you angry when it happens, then you don’t understand women.

Every guy has a story about the mousey girl from work, the cute nerdy girl in his math class, the innocent girl next door, the cool girl in his friend circle. A seemingly normal, mostly innocent girl that he’d probably have dated if she seemed interested. Like most women, she seems tamely interested in guys, but not overtly sexual. She giggles with her friends about creepy guys and about how men are only after one thing, and confides that she hopes she meets a nice guy who makes her laugh one day. Then one day, he overhears her gossiping with her best friend about the pair of guys the two of them went home with last weekend, and the way they’re talking, it’s obvious that going out and meeting guys to go home with is a fairly common occurrence for them.

She’s slutty! And he had no clue. He’s just some guy in her social circle that she’s not interested in, and in front of him, she acts like a mostly innocent girl who’s tamely interested in guys, hoping for a nice, sweet guy who makes her laugh. But behind the scenes, she’s going home with guys from bars the night she meets them and hooking up with guys from Tinder after work. She just keeps her casual sex life on the down-low, because if a random guy she’s not interested in from her social circle knew she was like that, he’d probably judge her.

Every guy has a story about the ideal girlfriend who he was sure he was going to marry, and she was sure she was going to marry him. Their relationship was perfect. They were in love. Then she gets a new job or starts a new semester at school or goes to her best friend’s birthday party or goes out one weekend with her girlfriends, and almost immediately, she’s cool, aloof, and distant, but insists that it’s nothing and that everything is fine. A week later, she ends her perfect relationship, seemingly out of the blue. Two weeks later, she’s dating some new guy from work, school, or that she met while she was with her friends. And it turns out that it’s not even that serious with the new guy. It’s a mostly sexual thing. She traded away her extremely serious relationship with a guy that yesterday, she would have told you is the perfect guy, for a casual sexual relationship with a guy she met the next day.

Every guy has a story about a girlfriend he thought was a fairly conservative, tame woman. Came from a good family, educated, decent circle of friends, doesn’t drink or use drugs, dresses well, behaves well while they’re dating. Then one night, while meeting with some of her friends from college or grad school, the girls get to talking and it turns out that she has a casual sex history a mile long. And when asked, it turns out that this wasn’t just a phase in college. She’d been a “down for anything” girl, meeting guys in bars and online right up until a month before she met her current boyfriend.

She’s slutty! And he had no clue. Because for him, she wore a mask and kept her sexual side hidden. She didn’t want him to look at her differently. To judge her. So for him, she donned a filter and acted a certain way, while for others, she was a cool, casual, forward, flirty, dirty little girl.

Every one of these guys thought that he knew the woman in question and understood her. He thought that he knew women. But he was surprised when the woman in question did what women do. Because he didn’t really know women. He just thought he did.

The guys who really know and really understand women are the ones these women are meeting casually. When a woman meets a guy for a casual hook-up, she doesn’t care if she sees him again. He’s not part of her work life or her social circle, so she doesn’t have to maintain her reputation with him. She’s not trying to impress him or get into a serious relationship with him. She’s just letting loose and having fun. So when she meets a casual sex guy, she can be fun, forward, flirty, dirty, slutty, and let her sexual side show. She can let go and be herself, without any filters or masks. She can be more true to herself, more liberated, and more genuine with a guy she’s meeting for casual sex than she will ever be with her future husband five years from now. She will do things that she would never do with a serious boyfriend, and love it. Then fiercely hide the fact that she was ever like that with any man she actually wants to impress.

When you are the guy women are meeting for casual sex, you see a side of them you’ve never seen before. Women seem completely different than they did when you were the guy at work or school that she wasn’t interested in or the guy she was dating seriously or trying to get into a relationship with. When you are the guy women are meeting for casual sex, you are seeing what they are really like. You are seeing women being their most liberated, genuine selves. There is more intimacy and more honesty in your casual hook-up than there will ever be between this woman and her future husband. You are having sex with the real her. Her husband will have sex with the mask she wears for him.

When a woman only wants you for casual sex, she doesn’t behave like a good girlfriend. She fucks around on her phone after you’re done having sex. She even messages other guys in front of you. She doesn’t get all dolled up to go out to dinner with you. She just throws on whatever and shows up for a few drinks and a quick fuck before going home to shower. Some guys get offended by this behavior, but those guys still don’t get it. This is a woman being truly genuine. This is a woman showing you her true self. She’s not trying to protect her reputation from you or trick you into a relationship. She’s just enjoying herself and using you as the conduit for doing it. This is what women are really like.

Until you have been the guy women are meeting for casual sex, you do not know women. You do not understand them. If you have only been the guy at work that women aren’t interested in, or the boyfriend women try to impress by hiding their true selves, you do not know women. Even reading stories about what women are like on the internet and raging to yourself doesn’t teach you what you need to know. If all you’ve done is read about what women are like on the internet, you do not know women. Until you have been the casual sex guy and felt, firsthand, what women are like when they let go and enjoy themselves sexually in a way they only can when they don’t care if they see you again, you do not understand women.

In summary, if you are not a casual sex guy, shut the fuck up and quit telling people what you think women are like. You have no clue what women are like. You should be here to get advice, not give it.

If you are a causal sex guy, help other guys learn the ropes and how to break into the casual sex culture. No amount of essay writing and online woman-bashing is going to teach guys what they need to know, but a few months of being the guy women fuck casually will teach them everything.