RPW is not "one simple trick" to fix all relationship problems

southernRPW · 2016-01-25T16:33:15+00:00

Great points! While we are on the subject of RPW is 'not one simple trick'... it also isn't one size fits all! We are not robots. We don't have a feminine nail polish. We don't have a feminine way to eat soup. Actually, this should be another post entirely! I just dislike when people say things like there are 'rules' to being an RPW and that if you follow this formula, your romantic relationship will be 100% better.

TempestTcup · 2016-01-25T16:46:20+00:00

Seriously, the number of "I have a loser BF, what do I do?" posts RPW gets is ridiculous. You have been with him for 3 months, you aren't married, you don't have kids together: lose the loser.

southernRPW · 2016-01-25T19:01:16+00:00

men aren't broken toys that can be fixed with RPW superglue. some relationship problems are down to the PEOPLE IN THEM, and the only RPW or PRACTICAL solution is....NEXT!

So much this. When I first started lurking on RPW, I was with a low motivation, low dominance guy. I started applying RP tactics to desperately try to fix my relationship but no matter how many new dresses, new hairstyles, new makeup techniques, or new ways of being pleasant I produced NOTHING worked in turning that slacker into the captain of my dreams.

Being RPW desn't mean lack of self-respect and willingness to put up with constant unmitigated bullshit at the expense of our own happiness. In fact, 1 year later I'm engaged to the man of my dreams all due to the new found self respect I've unearthed due to RPW.

Sometimes I want to shake these poor girls because I remember being one of them. Hint: If you can explain your relationship with the words "Everything would be perfect except for INSERT HUGE GLARING ISSUE..." then it's time to move on. Save yourself the disappointment and don't waste time you could be using to find a good man.

little_red_ · 2016-01-25T16:31:24+00:00

Thank you for this

2016-01-25T17:06:39+00:00

Great post, unfortunately the people who would benifit most from this won't listen because, clearly they are special snowflakes that can motivate any man to be a winner if only they had the right RPW formula.

tintedlipbalm · 2016-01-25T18:19:39+00:00

men aren't broken toys that can be fixed with RPW superglue

Brilliant phrase <3

closetrpw · 2016-01-26T17:39:33+00:00

Drug addiction, alcoholism, mental illness, weirdness...definitely grounds for nexting.

Some other reasons for nexting (before marriage):

Loss of respect for your man. This is incredibly hard to get back once you lose respect for him.
Loss of sexual attraction. You cannot find sex out of a relationship (unless yours is not conventional), so this is honestly extremely important.
You feel like a plate/you do not feel desired or valued/you do not feel he is as committed or takes the relationship as seriously as you do. This might be something that could be solved when you communicate or become less of a controlling shrew but if he doesn't give a f# about you, you can't make him care more, and if this is happening 3 months to a year into a relationship before marriage, you shouldn't have to work to the point of crazy anxiety and exhaustion for scraps of his affection. This for me is probably what I need to work the most on identifying in my own relationships.
You're really, truly miserable and you'd be better off single and alone without him.

rpvelvetcupcake · 2016-01-26T12:01:29+00:00

If your SO is not a captain, not dominant in general, defectively weird in 100 ways that dont need to be listed, a pretty dress, a BJ and a more yielding state of mind isnt going to fix anything

Yes, yes, yes -- never defer to a man that can't be a good captain. All of the effort you put in will be in vain. And you'll drive yourself crazy.

Edit: typo

littleteafox · 2016-01-25T17:06:37+00:00

Yes yes yes yes yes!

cxj · 2016-01-25T18:56:45+00:00

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Title	RPW is not "one simple trick" to fix all relationship problems
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Date	January 25, 2016 4:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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