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source: https://www.volkskrant.nl/mensen/zijn-datingapps-alleen-voor-snelle-seks~bee1da36/

Are dating apps only for fast sex?

The Internet has radically changed our data culture. What influence do dating apps have on our love life? And how do we deal with that?

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The massive use of the internet to find a partner is the biggest change in our data culture in the past hundred years. We have never been able to come into contact with so many potential partners. People we would probably never have met otherwise. And flirting and dating have never been so anonymous and private. De Volkskrant wanted to know more about how and why dating apps are used. That is why we conducted a survey among eighteen hundred people from all over the Netherlands. The lion's share of respondents was younger than 40, highly educated and living in the big cities. The findings are therefore not representative of the Dutch population. The research nevertheless provides a fascinating insight into the dating app use of a considerable group of people.

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  1. Is there still a taboo on the use of dating apps?

The use of dating apps is becoming established and our respondents are often, but not always, very candid about their use. Among friends, almost none of them are silent about his dating app usage. But this is different when it comes to family or colleagues. Then about half of our respondents stop using the applications. Also, the negative reputation of dating apps is still a reason not to get started. For our single respondents, this is often mentioned as an argument not to use them. The taboo on the use of these technological tools therefore appears to still partly exist.

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  1. Why are people actually on dating apps?

Our respondents give numerous reasons for using dating apps. But both male and female respondents say that the search for 'a permanent relationship' is the most important thing for them. Followed by 'looking for sexual adventure' and 'pastime / entertainment'.

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It is striking that the motto 'women want relationships, men want sex' is not valid for the respondents. Our male and female respondents are emancipated when it comes to sexual and relational desires.

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Also striking: a significant proportion of our respondents are on a dating app without wanting to meet fellow users. One fifth of the respondents who use such an app are only there for entertainment.

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  1. How efficient are dating apps?

Dating apps are said to have volatile contacts. Co-users often do not respond to your message. And even if you have a nice conversation, there is a good chance that it will not be continued. Meeting fellow users therefore seems to take a lot of effort. How long do you have to swipe and chat on average for a real date?

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On average, it takes our respondents a full working week (38 hours) of swiping and chatting to meet one person in person through an app. Finding your great love is also hard work. On average, it takes a full month (162 hours) to find a permanent relationship. And not every dating app is equally effective. The number of swipe hours per date and per relationship is much lower for apps that are connected to a traditional dating website such as The Inner Circle or Lexa than for apps that only work on a smartphone (Tinder, happn, et cetera). This is probably because many users of the latter type of dating apps are only on it 'for entertainment' and do not necessarily want to meet someone in real life. This makes searching for someone who wants that more time consuming. Incidentally, in our research it hardly matters whether you are male or female, gay or lesbian. The number of swipe hours is practically the same for everyone.

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  1. Are dating apps only for fast sex?

Dating apps have the reputation to only provide contacts that lead to fast sex. Yet that is certainly not the case for all our respondents. Through the most used app, Tinder in this case, they do not meet many sex partners. On average our tinderaars had sex with around two (2.32) fellow users. What is more striking is that a quarter of these parties provide a permanent relationship.

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We see a similar distribution for the lion's share of the other dating apps. Grindr, the app for homosexual contact, is an exception. The average number of sexual partners of our users is much higher there and relatively few established relationships arise.

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Our male dating app users have more sexual contacts than women. This also applies if we only look at our heterosexual respondents. Our male tinderaars have met on average just over three (3.3) sex partners through the app, while our female tinderaars have shared the bed with two (1.95) fellow users. On the other hand, the number of permanent relationships that are created via the app for men and women is virtually the same.

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A nice side effect of all that swiping and chatting is that there are also quite a few friendships. In fact, across the board it is more likely that you will find a nice friend through a dating app than you will have a permanent relationship. The idea that you mainly find loose sexual contacts through dating apps does not seem to be true.

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  1. Do they not see potential partners offline?

Previously it was thought that the internet was a 'last resort'. For example, if you were unable to bump into a partner in a traditional meeting place, such as nightlife or work. But does this also apply to our respondents who use dating apps?

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We asked how many offline dates they have had in the past year. Of the dating app users who are looking for a partner, 60 percent say that they have found one or fewer dates offline in the past year. Apparently they encounter few possible partners in their daily lives.

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Perhaps more remarkable is that many others in their daily offline interaction do indeed meet some potential partners. No less than 30 percent of the respondents who are on an app with the aim of meeting someone say that they have met more than two dates in offline life last year. For them, dating apps seem to be one of several search strategies to find a partner.

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It is also striking that our respondents turn up dates in not very obvious places on the internet. Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn are often mentioned. But perhaps this is also not surprising, because many of our lives take place online these days. There is a chance that you will also meet your great love there.

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  1. Where do dating app users meet?

Our first respondents rarely choose a romantic candlelit dinner. Instead, a drink in a cozy cafe is on one. Followed by 'starting a fun activity together', such as a walk on the beach, or a theater or museum visit. Many first dates also take place in the own house or the house of the other.

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Both our male and female respondents indicate that they find it important that a location is 'cozy' and that it is 'close to home'. But there is one big difference between men and women. Women also find it important that the location is safe. Unfortunately that is not always the case.

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One fifth of our female respondents say they sometimes feel unsafe on a date, compared to a fraction of men. When male respondents feel unsafe, this is mainly because they are uncertain about how they should behave on a first date. This is clearly different for women. A part of them feels unheimen at the location of the date. Often because they are at home with a man and have the feeling of losing control.

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More worrying is the frequency with which women describe situations in which their physical limits are not respected. In more than half of the situations experienced as unsafe, a man is intrusive or simply pawed in a way that does not serve his female date. One woman writes: "I was with someone who was determined to have sex with me and I had no intention of doing so. He insisted for a long time and even started to hold me. " There are also more extreme cases, such as a woman who writes: "I was assaulted on my first date, so from now on I would rather go through life single than to run the risk of having to experience something like that again."

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(author: Jitse Schuurmans is a cultural anthropologist and researches data culture for the University of Amsterdam, including online dating.)