Hi Everyone,

I a little background for context.

Split from Ex for 4.5 years now. She has made it clear that i am the devil. She has had police called on me twice (both false accusations). Have evidence of parental alienation that is ongoing. Kids have suffered. Son is very unsure of himself and is unmotivated (somewhat normal for a 17 year old). Daughter (15) has anxiety issues and migraines ( i suspect due to mothers attempts at alienation and pushing daughter into a surrogate spouse role).

Ex still in formed home and is refusing all attempts to get my money out. This is still a source of conflict even now.

Now to today's problem.

Woke up at 2.15am ish to hear daughter talking (on her phone) in her bedroom. The conversation doesn't end so i go in there to tell her to put the phone down and go to sleep. When i enter her room, she's lent out the window phone in one hand cigarette in another.

I shout that she needs to hand over the phone and get to bed NOW. I continue that "who the hell do you think you are, smoking in my house, after all i've said." I'm not a smoker, and no one smokes in my house, not family, not guests, no one. I hate the smell. She knows this is a hard rule.

When she is in bed i go back to my room.

10 mins later i hear her going downstairs and follow. She's dressed and packed and is insisting she's not staying here any more. She's not listening to me so instead of her walking the 3 miles to her mums at 3am i drive her.

On the drive over i tell her that this is all her. I had every right to be angry, and her choosing to leave was not my decision. I loved her.

Arrive at her mums, explain what happened to her mum and leave.

Honestly, unless she shows some respect to me I'm done with her (this is a long long line of disrespectful actions).

I don't really care if she smokes, but i will not have it in my house. It's the blatant disregard for my wishes/rules, coupled with the "screw you I'm going" attitude.

Did i over react?