http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2jwp2a/5_red_pill_truths_from_my_gf/

I posted the above post a week ago of RP truths from my GF, this is a follow up post about how emotion is important in an LTR, and how to use that to your advantage.

I'm a logical guy. It might not mean much to you, but for the past 10 years when I take the MBTI test I test INTP.

Essentially there's not much of an emotional aspect to me. Before psychology classes, research, and life anecdotes I physically didn't understand it. I didn't get why people's emotions wobble in the wind, I didn't get why people cry watching movies, and I didn't get why girls were so emotional.

But finally I was talking to an old-old friend about her current boyfriend, and she said this.

"He just makes me feel so good (emotion). It's like I don't understand why I like him (logic), but I do. It's not that he's not good for me (logic), but he makes me feel so good that everything else about him doesn't matter (emotion)."

As she said this I started digging deeper. I could feel my whole opinion of dating and relationships changing by the second.

Excitedly I asked, "What does he make you feel specifically? Describe it to me."

After a pause she said, "Everything."

This lunch as a young man at college started my path towards understanding why you need more emotion and less logic in your interactions with women, especially in an LTR. I've since talked to friends and family about their "successful" relationships, and how the guy made the girl "FEEL" something. He didn't make her "THINK" something.

Quick example. Let's think of the common complaints women have about marriages. (I have four older sisters so this one is easy for me)

\t-Boring

\t-Dull

\t-Emotionless

\t-Lost its spark (emotion)

Why do women love movies where the married woman cheats? Because there is an excess of emotion and passion in her newfound romance that isn't found in her marriage. Think of American Beauty for a second (best movie for understanding relationships that I can think of). The wife and husband have the dullest relationship in the world. There is no emotion, no excitement, no variety to speak of, and because of that their relationship fell to shit.

Now think about this. Imagine someone who keeps their relationship charged with different emotions.

\t-Sad

\t-Happy

\t-Intriguing

\t-Passionate

\t-Joyful

\t-Relaxed

\t-Calm

\t-Spontaneous

This relationship is exciting! It's shifting all the time. The girl feels things in new ways. You're helping her to enjoy her ride through life, and she'll love you and be addicted to you for it.

Let me get back to my friend now. After talking with her about all the emotions he made her feel I asked if she would want to bring him over to a friend’s art show. She said they would love to. I then observed.

While watching him it all started to click for me. This guy was a natural at helping women to feel.

Here's the different ways I saw that guy take this girl on an emotional journey in 10 minutes. Emotions that she feels will be in parentheses.

Minute 1: Walk into the party. Both of them don't know anyone, and immediately he makes a stride to introduce himself to me (CONFIDENT) and proceeds to talk with me about the art and insight behind the art (INTELLIGENCE & INTRIGUE). She's intrigued and says to him, "You know about art?" (AWE)

Minute 2-3: They are walking around looking at the art. He's escorting her with his arm on her back (SAFE/SECURE) and talking about the art (MORE AWE)

Minute 4-5: She drops something. Immediately he teases her (Embarrassed), and then comes back with another joke that takes her embarrassment away (Jubilant). He continues to tease and joke around with her before turning his back on her and walking away (Sad)

Minute 6: She's trying to play hard to get but I can tell she wants to go back over to him (Unsure/Anxious) and stand near him again where she knows that she'll feel (Safe).

Minute 7-9: He smiles and winks at her once while talking to my art friend (Desire)

Minute 10: He walks back over to her, whispers something into her ear, and she grabs his suit coat---then he walks away to go somewhere----she's got the bedroom eyes. (Passion & Desire)

Some might say that looking at this much detail overkill; however, I strongly disagree. Watching my friend progress through the course of 10 minutes shows me that this guy would trigger her emotions (knowingly or unknowingly) and because of that she was addicted to him, and wanted to jump his bones at the end of the night. Through their 10 minute interaction she felt everything. She's constantly on the edge of her seat wondering what he is going to do next. AND SHE LOVES IT.

With any girl that you meet they love feeling things. They love feeling certain emotions. It's your job to encourage that emotion in your GF in a healthy way. Tease her, and then cuddle her. Pin her on the bed and kiss her before walking away. When you introduce emotion into the relationship she’ll love you for it. She’ll laugh harder than ever before. She’ll treat you well more than ever before. This is just because you help her to feel things that are new, intriguing, and surprising.

Now that we’ve got the theoretical explanation out of the way, I’ll nail down 5 ways to introduce emotion into your relationships.

Tell Good Stories

When I say good stories I mean stories that have multiple emotions. For example, I tell a story of how I got into composing music. How initially I just did classical music, and the world bored me. Playing the notes of someone else felt like something was missing. I then go into the vulnerability and anger I had when I played my first composition for someone, and how they hated it. Finally, I finish by stating that the hard work and drive paid off, and that I’ve felt redeemed through my current work. This story has multiple emotions in its longer form. It’s sad, happy, funny, confident, and more. These are the kinds of stories you need to learn to tell, and tell yourself. If you don't know how to tell stories. Learn. Watch comedians, listen to famous story tellers, and emulate the things they do to make their stories exciting.

Have fun

This is not stated enough. Tickle her if you want to. Pick her up and throw her on the bed, and laugh. Snort like a pig while you’re having sex. My friend calls this the idea of laughing inside your own head. Do things that you think are funny, even if she won’t agree. Do things that make you laugh inside your own head. Doing these things increases your “don’t give a fuck” attitude, and helps you to carry positive emotions through the night.

Tease her. Tease her. Tease her.

This is emotional gold. People still don’t do this enough. I call my girlfriend a witch when she’s overacting, or testing my boundaries. I look at her with inquisitive eyes and say, “Burn the witch at the stake for her wrongdoings! Grab the pitchforks!” You know how girls have that line of things that are acceptable for teasing, and aren’t. Straddle the line. Have fun with it. Girls don’t enjoy being teased by someone they don’t like, but they LOVE being teased by guys they do like. Keep that in mind. Banter and teasing keeps the “spark” that most people feel is missing from a relationship.

Quick emotional switch

This one is a little more difficult to get used to, but when used effectively it will make your GF turned on, incredibly happy, or a nice mix of the two. You want to push one emotion, and then quickly switch it to another emotion. For example, say you’re teasing her, and the emotion in the room is happy and jubilant, quickly switch into a serious state of mind. Change your vocal tone to an incredibly tender and slow pace, take your body language into a state of relaxed nature, and then calm her down and say that you’re just thinking of something incredibly sad. Say that something reminded you of the day your dog died…. Etc…. It may seem strange. But it works. This is why “angry sex” is a thing. The emotions quickly switch in a girls head and she gets incredibly turned on, even though she’s angry (I don’t advocate for angry sex as it leads to the wrong emotional environment around sex… at least in my opinion). However, I do something similar in strange ways. I’ll tell my GF she’s the worst person in the world and she’s pulling tricks on me (jokingly) as I press my body against her, and turn her on. These emotional switches work incredibly well. It probably needs a whole post on its own. Just know this. If you can quickly switch or mess with a girl’s emotions in quick succession, she’ll be addicted to you. Most of my foreplay is done with emotions for 10-15 minutes before sex. I turn her on mentally, and then she can’t wait to have sex with me.

Don’t show weak emotions, and don’t be afraid to show strong emotions.

Weak emotions to me are the emotions like sadness, insecurity, loneliness, etc… Strong emotions are emotions like anger, drive, and determination. I’M NOT ADVOCATING SHOWING ANGER AT YOUR GIRL. I’M ADVOCATING THAT IF YOU DON'T LIKE HER BEHAVIOR, THAT YOU SHOULDN’T BE AFRAID TO TELL HER AND DISPLAY YOUR DISAPPOINTMENT. ABUSE IN ANY FORM IS WRONG, IMMORAL AND INSECURE. Now that I’ve got that out of the way, a good example would be if a girl forgets something that is meaningful to you. Tell her that you’re upset that she didn’t remember, and that you expect more out of her. Let a little bit of DISAPPOINTMENT creep into what you say (but remember to say it extremely slow and calmly) and she’ll apologize profusely. Again. Tell her to be better next time. You know what? She’ll be better next time. When a girl sees how strong you are with certain emotions she’ll do anything she can to feel your validation, and emotional strength and security.

IMPORTANT SIDE NOTES

-Don’t be the over emotional guy. I’m telling you to learn and understand emotion, not live it. It’s up to you to be in charge of the emotion, not living it. It’s your job to be an emotional rock that can manipulate it as you will, but don’t get sucked into it like she does.

-Watch movies and just analyze the way different emotions are portrayed. Analyze different vocal tonalities and rhythms in speaking, analyze how that displays various emotions. Analyze the body language of different emotions. Get to the point where you can look at girls and know their emotion.

-Experiment with changing girls emotions. Test different things that trigger emotions on girls, and see what works for you. Find new ways to quickly switch her emotions on and turn her on. Each girl is different, but some things will work for you, and you can be happy knowing you’ve figured how to work emotion through yourself.

-Manipulating a girl to do exactly what you want at any time is completely possible. However, it isn’t moral! Don’t use emotion to selfish ends. It’s possible, but instead move her emotions so that she is happier, rather than so you’re selfishly happier. Trust me. Emotional abuse is a real thing, and isn’t right.

I get that all of this is kind of confusing and theoretical, but trust me. Analyzing and understanding emotion may be the best thing you do for your LTR’s. Ask if you have any applied questions, or general questions about the information above.