Shit-tests while traveling

AsianWater · 2019-05-13T20:29:17+00:00

You passed her shit tests, you didn't cave in and become a little bitch, you gave an IDGAF mentality = she gave you shit tests because she wanted to see what kind of man you truly were and you passed with an A+.

If the bitch doesn't comply, she gets the goodbye. Good job.

This post is a perfect example of "Abundance mentality" for all ASKTRP posters to see.

Refer to this maxim

IM MAXIM #1: “The tougher the men around her, the softer she is. The softer the men around her, the tougher she is. The toughest woman is the fatherless woman, for the fatherless woman seeks a surrogate by whoring herself.”

cuztrp · 2019-05-14T01:16:55+00:00

I don't think she was conscious of it, but traveling would be a good time to shit-test a guy. You'd get more accurate results because he'd be tired, have his guard down because he's looking forward to a fun day at the beach, etc.

For this reason, traveling with a girlfriend/wife can be hell for a beta. He's trapped in the car/hotel/plane with her and when he fails a shit test she'll throw more at him, have a meltdown, want to go home, etc. I knew a couple who broke up after driving from Minnesota from Key West.

opper-hombre1 · 2019-05-13T21:36:56+00:00

jokingly told her that the bar downstairs is very nice, must be a perfect place for hooking up for people who travel without spouses.

Can anybody dissect this line. Was it good for him to say this? (Get the hamster going/strong dread game), or was it dumb to say this because it creates unnecessary drama?

no_condoments · 2019-05-14T00:26:46+00:00

Next day she started a talk: - we're long term, right? - we'll see how it goes - really? maybe I need to re-evaluate then and start seeing other guys? - you do what's best for you

This one doesn't feel like a shit test, nor were you cocky-funny or anything good. It seems like she was asking if you guys should break up, and you basically said that yes, you'd like to start the process of breaking up and she should start sleeping with other guys.

It was a comfort test and you failed so hard.

MattyAnon · 2019-05-14T11:24:12+00:00

I went on a trip with a GF (6 months) and we stayed in an expensive hotel

Who paid?

said that she'll go to a bar and maybe spend time with somebody.

Shit test for sure, but what's the motivation here.

what if I remove IUD without telling you and get pregnant from you? I think it's 99.99% that I'd be able to do that, and then get a baby?

err

really? maybe I need to re-evaluate then and start seeing other guys?

To me this looks like she's pushing hard for beta provisioning from you (likely started by you paying for things coupled with loss of attraction for some reason).

Hate to tell you, but this relationship looks like it should soon be over. You could run dread, but she looks like she's doubling down on wanting a beta. How old is she?

Fall1n_1 · 2019-05-14T00:45:42+00:00

I'm not so sure I'm buying this post as legit.

In shit test one he states his answer to her going out and hanging with someone a bar is "go ahead, here is a condom". The very next line is shit test two where he states they are exclusive and don't use condoms.

Also in the comments someone says that OP strikes them as the kind of person who would get upset if his girl flipped the script and said the same thing he did about hooking up at the hotel bar to which OP replies he would as he'd see it as disrespectful. Yet when she did EXACTLY that in the first shit test he didn't get pissed or leave like he said he would. Instead he offered her a non-existant condom.

IMO 2 +2 is not adding up to 4.

FilthyStylish · 2019-05-13T22:41:13+00:00

You sound like probably the dumbest person i have ever seen. So you take girlfriend on a trip and joke about hooking up at a bar, like who says that?

You seem really insecure about yourself by the way you talk. Trying hard to act all cool, lmao your girlfriend is going to dump you just watch.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-05-14T07:36:26+00:00

Congrats, you held frame.

Lambdal7 · 2019-05-14T13:00:05+00:00

This was a comfort test. You failed with flying colors and told her you don’t give a shit about her and your relationship with her.

Now, you wonder why she acts distant. Are you autistic?

[deleted] · 2019-05-13T20:46:16+00:00

Well played man, she's just being a regular woman. Good example of red pill in action.

[deleted] · 2019-05-13T22:41:57+00:00

congratulations, you passed.

rDiothe · 2019-05-13T20:31:02+00:00

“What that was about” is that she’s just being a girl

send_it_for_the_boys · 2019-05-14T03:54:30+00:00

If this is all true, I do believe you held frame through it all well. I also believe it could have been avoided, how you’re making it sound through your post is that you just like to make snarky remarks to prove your “alpha ness” to your LTR in which seems more insecure than it does confident, like why would you even be thinking that? IMO it’s almost like you were assuming that’s what she would think about the place so you brought it up beforehand to let her know how many fucks you don’t give, which making that remark is going to make her wonder..hm maybe he thinks I’m going to try to cheat on him or something. Reason I say this is because in past Relationships of mine I was guilty of similar things. But like I said you still held ground through it.

Classy_Amir · 2019-05-14T06:45:31+00:00

I think it's time to evaluate yourself. What did you do to deserve so many shit tests? Whatever it is, it's working. I'd say it's your IDGAF attitude. Keep up the good work but be ready to walk away if she starts to disrespect you. Set boundaries, reward/punish, and once the boundaries are broken, leave and never look back. You'll find garbage.

Godspeed!

jackandjill22 · 2019-05-14T10:29:09+00:00

ButMessiDeservedIt · 2019-05-14T01:14:25+00:00

You definitely passed my brother.

handybh89 · 2019-05-14T04:56:26+00:00

You got issues dude, you need to chill out

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-05-14T03:08:32+00:00

This sounds like an awful lot of shit for your bitch to be dealing you during a single trip.

It doesn't sound like you're maintaining discipline. You should be issuing commands for her to follow, then rewarding obedience and punishing defiance.

endertheend · 2019-05-14T01:27:02+00:00

Maybe i'm off here (correct me if I am) but why are you going on trips with her in the first place?

Isn't that signaling "provider" and "serious"? Of course she's going to start shit testing you in this case.

Shit test #1 shouldn't have been answered at all. Shit test#3 recovered you though. "well see how it goes" is great.

garebear19959 · 2019-05-14T01:02:54+00:00

Props on holding frame.i think I’ve had it easy mode with small town girls.

That whole exchange sounds draining as fuck.i would’ve kicked the bitch out after the first sentence.

Title	Shit-tests while traveling
Author	okuli
Upvotes	149
Comments	59
Date	May 13, 2019 8:25 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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