The little baby is sad and anger

BobbyPeru · 2019-05-19T02:13:51+00:00

Cool. Where are you with the sidebar, lifts, and dread?

resolutions316 · 2019-05-19T02:42:03+00:00

Zero context means zero useful answers.

Also, is the angry baby supposed to be you, or your wife?

IRunYourRiver · 2019-05-19T03:19:16+00:00

Many of us came to Red Pill with our wives or LTRs on a pedestal. Most of us needed affection in the beginning. At some point the focus goes off of the woman and on yourself. Could be tomorrow, next week, a month, 3 months, 6 months, maybe longer. But you won't make any progress until that happens. Lift. Sidebar. Repeat.

SBIII · 2019-05-19T10:41:26+00:00

You haven't worked for four years. You've been a Stay at Home Mammy for the entire time. Changing nappies, cooking meals, cleaning the house and getting fat. A proper little housewife.

Last week you were crying in a coffee shop like a fucking baby because life was getting to you. Like a sad and angry baby.

You got a job this week. So you went out with the wife to celebrate. You were expecting her to warm to you but she was cold and distant. Why? Probably because - among the other things that make you unattractive - you haven't worked for 4 years, she has no respect for you and - just a few weeks ago - wanted to leave you. Now, after finally deciding to be a responsible adult, you're taking her out for dinner and expecting her to be all over you. But she wasn't.

Now you're a sad and angry baby again. A 260lb fat fuck of a sad and angry baby.

In your last OYS, you said you were now "indestructible". I warned you that you "have a long road ahead of you, but you've stepped out of the bottom of the hole and onto the first ring of the ladder." That's still where you are at - the first rung of the ladder that might lead you out of the gigantic shit hole that you dug for yourself.

Don't expect things to suddenly change. You have a shit load of work to do and you've only got started, so don't go crying now that Mammy isn't giving you the affection you want.

Quit being such a fucking pussy and man the fuck up.

FereallyRed · 2019-05-19T03:24:13+00:00

You're 5 weeks into MRP.

Nothing has changed from her perspective.

Keep your course, follow your map.

You're still living in mommy's frame, reacting to everything she does or doesn't do.

YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GET AFFECTION. For a really long time. Make peace with that.

It is possible to live like that, you're proof. Otherwise just go nuclear and blow up the whole damn relationship. Walk the fuck out.

No? You can't? Well then you made your bed.

The best advice I can give you is do this for you.

Not for the kid, the relationship, for her, for your dream of a blue life with a white picket fence....

If you don't internalize that everything you're doing is for you, then you will fail. And you'll make the exact same mistakes with the next woman unfortunate enough to contact you. And the next.

Pump the brakes.

Back to basics, take a breath, refocus. You have a week to enjoy how it's like without her around. Revel in that. Then you'll have a baseline to remind yourself that you don't have to put up with her shit when she's being a cunt to you. Remove your presence.

Carrot and stick. Since we can't use stick (Rule of wrist), you have to remove carrot.

FinancialLeopard5 · 2019-05-19T02:30:34+00:00

The more you do to try to fix her, the further your going to get from your goal. Enjoy your week with your daughter, try to get in your gym time, and do t worry about her shit attitude. Have somewhere to be after she gets home, "Oh great your home, kids had her bath and theres leftovers in the fridge, be back late" and go fucker off and do your own thing. Dont sit there like a chastised student waiting for the principal to show up. Women control access to sex, you control access to your time and affection/commitment when shes not holding up her end of the deal you dont have to either. You really really really need to be running the Mindful Attraction plan if you aren't already, I went through all of this over the last year, mine unfortunately is ending in divorce, not because THE MAP failed but because my wife was a closeted lesbian. Ide had my suspicion when we were still kids, but it finally came boiling out a few weeks ago after 15 years of marriage.
You have got this, but seriously buy the MAP tonight, the kindle version is like 5 bucks.

helaughsinhidden · 2019-05-19T15:08:09+00:00

Living like roommates

That's your problem. GAME her. Find it in the sidebar.

Short version: From her view, IF you found her attractive and valuable, you'd smile at her, give her some attention when she acts right, slap her butt when she passes, tease her, touch her, etc. If you DO NOT do those things and initiate without building tension it will seem forced or as if something other than her has you excited.

As others have said so eloquently "You have to heat up the pan before you put in the meat".

Search yourself for the root problem in you and fix it. Are you so afraid of rejection that you freeze up during regular interactions? Are you filled with resentment and walking around like Captain Soreness the butt hurt pirate? Did you forget or never knew how to be fun and flirty?

ChokingDownRP · 2019-05-19T02:56:34+00:00

Sounds like she's not attracted to you. I'd suggest sidebar and lifting. Should improve your outlook on getting what you want from life.

Taipanshimshon · 2019-05-19T03:03:20+00:00

How do you take her out when she's not acting right?

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-05-19T09:10:31+00:00

Here is the thing you need to realise, you took her out for dinner and she was cold cunty and I bet ungreatful.. she dosent want to spend time with you. You are pulling her into your frame. That's not attractive, try focusing on something else more worthwhile I don't know like maybe YOU.

YOU feel her moods as something you need to fix because it's YOUR fault... Something YOU need to discuss... But the reality is YOU DONT. These are her issues. No more Mr nice guy and when I say no I feel guilty. Chuck in the subtle art of not giving a fuck and Lift and you might start looking attractive in about a year or so to ALL women. Less her more you. Easy to say, hard to do. We are all learning the hard way mate... Crack on. What are you going to do today!

FinancialLeopard5 · 2019-05-19T10:51:23+00:00

My wife went to travel now. Simply said: the taxi is waiting for me. GOOD. I'm forging my mind to doesn't give a f***, although I'm posting here...lol Also, I don't think she'll miss us because she's workaholic...like her job is her primary priority above all. What surprises me most is that behavior like I'm a fucking stranger. Good. Let's digest and learn from that.

FinancialLeopard5 · 2019-05-19T23:18:30+00:00

I was wondering here....
Which is the limit to say that I miss her since she's travelling and doesn't show like I'm looking for acceptance/validation?
If there's a limit, btw....
Or I'm just being the abandoned poor baby?

Title	The little baby is sad and anger
Author	FinancialLeopard5
Upvotes	10
Comments	51
Date	May 19, 2019 2:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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