http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/14/fashion/sex-on-campus-she-can-play-that-game-too.html?pagewanted=6&_r=1&adxnnlx=1414661821-OUsj/Ak0Tfhr7HMNIflwmQ

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As a 22 year old college student in MGTOW/in monk mode, I’m torn about this article. Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too is another article explaining, from a woman’s perspective, on why “hook up” culture is dominating college campuses. I believe this kind of trend is why the American Family will continue to be destroyed in the future and why TRP is so important in this day and age of sex.

One of my first posts, so sorry if there are any mistakes. Feel free to skip around, I tried extracting RP truths throughout the article.

Ask her why she hasn’t had a relationship at Penn, and she won’t complain about the death of courtship or men who won’t commit. Instead, she’ll talk about “cost-benefit” analyses and the “low risk and low investment costs” of hooking up.

The article goes into women’s economic side of hooking up. Since the work of developing a relationship is too emotionally taxing, and since it takes away from her ability to focus on her schooling/career, it’s easier just having casual sex. Since it’s a woman taking a hard look at the economic sides of dating, she’s making a smart move for her career. When a man looks at the economic side and potentially gives up/postpones marriage, he’s seen as giving up or “not being a man” anymore.

Until recently, those who studied the rise of hookup culture had generally assumed that it was driven by men, and that women were reluctant participants, more interested in romance than in casual sexual encounters. But there is an increasing realization that young women are propelling it, too.

The debate over who’s driving the trend of “hookup” over “dating” is settled right here in the article. After reading this article, how can anyone agree it’s still men driving it more?

Keenly attuned to what might give them a competitive edge, especially in a time of unsure job prospects and a shaky economy, many of them approach college as a race to acquire credentials: top grades, leadership positions in student organizations, sought-after internships.

I will throw a legitimate argument out there, though. The economy has played some part in shifting attitudes towards women in the workplace. The cost of living has made it so people (women, men, whoever) do need to work more, so it’s not a 100 percent conscious self-implosion of women. More women working Is fine, but the pendulum has swung too far and mixing that with militant feminists’ attitudes towards men is doing more harm than good.

Almost universally, the women said they did not plan to marry until their late 20s or early 30s.

After their careers are stable, or after they’ve hit the wall…?

“We are very aware of cost-benefit issues and trading up and trading down, so no one wants to be too tied to someone that, you know, may not be the person they want to be with in a couple of months,” she said.

Bit of hypergamy mixed in, too. Apparently, as this girl, “why even get in a relationship and have to break up with him when I’m ready to move up the ladder? I’ll just keep fuck buddies around, that way I can move up the ladder with less drama.”

Instead, she enjoyed casual sex on her terms — often late at night, after a few drinks, and never at her place, she noted, because then she would have to wash the sheets.

…You lazy bitch

Nationally, women now outnumber men in college enrollment by 4 to 3 and outperform them in graduation rates and advanced degrees. Some researchers have argued that the gender imbalance fosters a culture of hooking up because men, as the minority, hold more power in the sexual marketplace, and they prefer casual sex to long-term relationships.

Now this is interesting. This says men prefer the casual sex over LTR, but this article is explaining why that’ the exact opposite. It also says men are the gate keepers, now. I think the writer might be confusing that the top 10 or 20% of the men are the actual gate keepers (or really, just the guys with the most plates, and women have a tough time getting a ticket for that line)

Increasingly, she said, many privileged young people see college as a unique life stage in which they don’t — and shouldn’t — have obligations other than their own self-development.

The age of “me.” Everyone needs to get theirs I suppose, but gone are the days where people agree that real relationships demand some level of sacrifice.

Women say, “ I need to take this time for myself — I’m going to have plenty of time to focus on my husband and kids later”

When?? When you’re about to hit the wall, yet your workload becoming “doctors, lawyers, politicians, bankers or corporate executives” (page 1) won’t even allow you to have time for finding a husband or kids?

Some women also want to wait to see how men turn out as they advance through their 20s.

That’s right. Women are getting theirs while us as men have to prove ourselves worthy like a focus group being watch behind a one way mirror. Also, bit of hypergamy? Woman waits around hoping for that Phd, and if the orbiter from 3 years ago gets his PhD first….”Oh hey!!! We should totes grab lunch soon! :)”

“‘I’ve always heard this phrase, ‘Oh, marriage is great, or relationships are great — you get to go on this journey of change together,’ ” she said. “That sounds terrible.”

You remember that time when you thought you could be with a girl, and go through the ups and downs of this thing called life, together? You can forget that.

“I’m a true feminist,”. . . “I definitely wouldn’t say I’ve regretted any of my one-night stands,” she said. . . At the same time, she didn’t want the number of people she had slept with printed, and she said it was important to her to keep her sexual life separate from her image as a leader at Penn.”

Can feminists and women in general just finally admit that their number does affect them psychologically and that it does in fact represent how you come off to other people? The bitch is speaking anonymously and still won’t spill the number because people WILL look at her differently.

“It’s kind of like a spiral,” she said. “The girls adapt a little bit, because they stop expecting that they’re going to get a boyfriend — because if that’s all you’re trying to do, you’re going to be miserable. But at the same time, they want to, like, have contact with guys.” So they hook up and “try not to get attached.”

Plate spinning. Can we all just get a long and say this is all we want. Men and women, without having this gender war on our hands.

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Rape Culture

she went to a party with a boy from her floor. She had too much to drink, and she remembered telling him that she wanted to go home. Instead, she said, he took her to his room and had sex with her while she drifted in and out of consciousness. She woke up with her head spinning. The next day, not sure what to think about what had happened, she described the night to her friends as though it were a funny story: I was so drunk, I fell asleep while I was having sex! Only later did Haley begin to think of what had happened as rape — a disturbingly common part of many women’s college experience

Not enough info to make a call on what really happened. But, it’s her words, so I’ll call bullshit. Also, it’s her word, so that means this guy could probably end up in jail/expelled, realistically these days.

The close relationship between hooking up and drinking leads to confusion and disagreement about the line between a “bad hookup” and assault.

They acknowledge this “disagreement about the line” exists but will not admit it’s skewed to get more men in trouble while absolving women of guilt. Not saying real sexual assaults don’t happen or should be ignored, but this “bad hookup” shit has gotten out of hand and is being abused by women.

She had been making out with a guy at his house, not sure how far she wanted to go, when he stood up and told her, “Get down on your knees.” At first she froze. “I was really taken aback, because I was like, no one has ever said that to me before,” she said. Then he said something like, “ ‘I think that’s fair,’ ” she recalled. When she still hesitated, he pushed her down. “It was at that point that I was like, ‘I’ll just do it,’ ” she said. “I was like, ‘ “It will be over soon enough.”

Some alpha had her way with her most likely. Instead of just (seriously, and don’t laugh) saying “no,” his aplha dominance gave her pussy tingles. But since she’s talking to a reported about girl power, “yaaaa, he took me against my will.”

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Even if this article is sad for future families, or idea of a family, and is bad for guys who prefer a stable long term deal, this is why TRP is so important on a couple of different levels. TRP preaches focusing on yourself, but also how to spin plates. This article is describing that there are an increasing number of women who only want to be plates apparently. For me, that’s a little depressing, since I was more of a LTR relationship guy before going my own way. (Couldn’t stand the game, but I still read up on it.) This is bad for me, but I like hearing plate spinning stories. If women want to play this “Fuck men, we don’t need ‘em! (But we wanna fuck ‘em)” game, then shit, I say let the games begin (or continue). This is where the “focusing on yourself, learn the game, lift, be the man she wants to fuck” is so important. She wants to fuck guys, no matter how much she won’t admit who that type of guy is, and so be one of those guys.

See, this is the thing beta’s don’t or can’t understand. They’re out there pleasing women, treating them like a queen, praising them in validation, showering them in attention, while he gets nothing. It’s ALPHAS girls like this are talking about. If they want that quick fuck, they’re going to get it from a stud since it’s only short term. They get the weekend AF and weekday BB from orbiters and her social media. All the while focusing on themselves and getting a ”you go girl!,” while men focusing on themselves gets a “you faggot, not chasing after women. Where are the real men (that are supposed to be pleasing us women”

This sets the beta up for being a pussy all throughout college trying to court girls by being romantic, trying to demonstrate he’s LTR material. The bitch wants NOTHING to do with that. Mr. Beta, she wants your time, attention, money, validation, shoulder to cry on, etc. but just not your dick. For that, she’ll go seek out the ALPHA OR…untill she’s about to hit the wall.

The article ends with a save face, reconciling story about a girl who found hooking up to be almost degrading. She thinks casual sex is odd and immature and longed for a real relationship among all this superficial fucking. It’s a nice attempt by the writer. After shoving this “new age” way of thinking about sex/relationships in our face, claiming women are just adapting instead of being the exact reason relationships/families are crumbling, she ends with a story about a girl who liked the old kind of relationships. The writer’s attempt at claiming not all women are like that even though you spent 95% of the article claiming this is what women are turning relationships into.

Also, with this kind of culture going around, it obviously opens up more trouble in the false rape bullshit going on. Some guys may say it’s not worth the risk finding a girl like this, who is actively seeking out the AF. I’m just saying that if you’re going to hunt poon like this, it is potentially dangerous since more women are opting for casual sex only.

I weep for the future. My potential future (ex) wife will be a used up, shallow, self-serving cunt who has no relationship building skills, works 60 hours a week, and wonders why she's depressed and wondering when the "this is awesome being a man" feeling is going to sink in.

*TL;DR College/younger women are giving up on the idea of long term relationships, instead focusing on their careers. Adopt TRP, be someone she wants to get spun by, and get to spinning. *