This was posted on one of those "creative writing" subs, but still a good example of wanting something for nothing.

>So I feel pretty crummy even typing this out to complete strangers but here goes. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we have a 1.5 year old together. He works and I agreed to stay at home since the birth of our son. I was earning only about 1/8 of what he was anyways, so we decided the most sensible arrangement since getting married was that I'd become a homemaker and SAHM when we had a baby.

Even if she was making $20k a year, her husband is making at least $160k. ​

>I've been a stay at home spouse/mom for about 3 years now and it was fine before the baby. But now there are a lot of things I want to change but don't know how to, especially when it comes to finances which I feel like I have no power over. My husband earns good money but he's very frugal about nonessential spending because he wants to be financially independent (no job, earnings from investments) at an early age. Granted he was like this when I met him but I had also had my own salary at the time to do what I wanted. I'm looser with my money because I like eating out, going out with friends, going shopping, etc. All the normal things people in their 20s buy and do.

Hubby is making sacrifices, she isn't and just wants to blow his money. So much for his plans of an early retirement.

>Well now that I stay at home we have mini fights every time I want to buy anything over $150 (which is the limit he set that needs a "conversation"). This means if I go out to get clothing, makeup, brunch, little treats, etc. and the amount exceeds $150, I would need to call him beforehand and talk about what I'm buying. It feels extremely restrictive and quite frankly humiliating. He spends so little on himself that it seems like to him that I'm the one spending all the money on myself every month.

Where is a SAHM going on a regular basis that requires all this money? Read her comments, her husband spends less than $200 a month and she spends $900 on non-essentials.

>I've been talking to my sister who's also a SAHM and she says her and her husband have an agreement where she's "paid" for childcare/homekeeping. Essentially she gets "paid" a few thousand every month to spend on whatever she wants because in their relationship he's also the stingy/frugal one and she wants to have more pocket money for fun things. Right now she says she gets about $3,500 a month because that's how much it would cost them to hire an outside nanny where they live. It's a bit cheaper where we live so I wouldn't be asking as much, but would I be the asshole to suggest a similar arrangement with my husband so I don't need to go groveling for money every time I want to buy myself something nonessential?

>$3.5k a month to do what you chose to do as a parent? What the hell?