Bored of people who says that I am stupid because I got married at 22yo. Need advices

X-Trem0 · 2019-05-28T07:42:29+00:00

Are you looking for advice or reaffirmation? because from where I am standing it really looks like the second.

You can't be happy because of other people's opinions? Go back to the side bar, please.

side bar, side bar, side bar. Don't ask us to do your work please

stoicstephen · 2019-05-28T08:01:51+00:00

Damn.

Do you want to be single because people make "fun" of you, or because you really want to be single?

Move the fuck away from her father, go to a different country if you need to. You and your wife are living life in his frame. How can you make your wife follow your lead if there's someone else pulling the strings?

So here's what I would do if I were you...

Follow 100% of the sidebar, you clearly need to read NMMNG and WISNIFG.

Find your core values which will be the foundations for your frame. Then build your frame by defeating challenges and little missions which will be provided to you during your readings of the sidebar.

After you have a solid frame, start to lead your wife out of her father's frame. You can't control your wife, so she will only accept it if she really wants it, and if she really trusts you to be her oak.

After you both get out of her father's frame, you can do "everything" you want. You can divorce her, or not, you can have children, or not, you can go back to being a frameless chump, or not. All up to you.

But if you don't want to do all this "hard" work, go ahead and divorce her. Make sure though to be out of her father's rifle sight.

And I'm not married, so I can't tell you how marriages are like. The only thing you need to know is how you wanna be in this marriage.

redwall92 · 2019-05-28T09:29:00+00:00

I knew everything about the mentality of TRP

I call bullshit, you don't know anything about TRP. You are a pathetic faggot.

Evidence:

** My English is not very well, so please correct me if I'm wrong **

I've met her in Tinder and now we have a relationship, but I realized something that she has a demand to look other guys. We almost have sex every day, and she never rejects to talk to me at the workplace she works in. The problem is not that. The problem is that we're good, I mean we're almost having sex and we're enjoying while we get together etc, but how can it be possible that this girl looks other guys and makes me feel that she is interested in them?

I don't want to be the jealous guy but she makes me crazy when she looks other guys in street. She works in a company as a sales person with at least 7 guys. A new guy has started to work in there 3 days ago. I realized my GF searched the guy's name on her facebook and when I ask why she did this, she said a girlfriend of her in the workplace, wanted her phone to search someone on Facebook, and she said that she didn't do it , her girlfriend did that. But I don't want to believe it. She makes me the jealous guy when I'm around her but she never tries to do that. I'm just being. Please just give me some tips. I feel bad about this situation. What do you prefer me to do?

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I got married at 22 years old and now I am 23.

Doesn't sound like the actions of someone who knows TRP.

My wife is 20. We both didn't want to marry so early. I knew everything about the mentality of TRP. It is a long and very annoying reason why I got married.

I'm finding you annoying already.

Yes I love my wife if you wonder. But again; we didn't want to marry so early, we just had to because of her dad insisted and threaten us to break up. He is an alcholic man. He asked me to break up with his daughter or he said he would kill me. I didn't give a fuck about him and he locked her daughter to the room for 3 days and then she ended up to came to me and we suddenly got married. I know that sounds very strange or maybe stupid.

well you sure showed him, why hasn't he killed you yet?

Anyway, there is nothing to do. I just want to be happy but I can't because of people who always say that I am a stupid man because I got married so early. They always say that I can't live my life anymore. I can't get other girls when I want bla bla bla....

You claim to know everything about TRP, why aren't you using it?

What is your advices for me? Marriage life is very hard. I have been trying to earn money to get our life in order. We don't want a kid yet. She has some dreams about our future like having a baby, having a beautiful house, living without stress etc. But I don't want to dream like her because I always got a thought in my mind that I can't live forever as a married man. I will die one day and I want to live like a free man. Sometimes I see other single guys who live their life as a free man and I say I wish I didn't get married so early. I don't know.

Why does this girl want to have kids with you? you sound like a child.

No wait, I get it. Her dad is a pathetic alcoholic without control and she sees that in you.

I know most of you are in your 30s/40s of your life. I know you have got valuable informations to give me about life, marriage. How should I live my life?

read the sidebar
stop being a bitch
lift weights
shut the fuck up

Thanks.

You're lucky I replied before SBIII did.

dbayraktar · 2019-05-28T12:34:09+00:00

How should I live my life?

Lift, sidebar, STFU.

However the fuck you want. Don't ask us such a unique question to YOUR life. As for the marriage shit - I was married 2 weeks shy of my 22nd birthday. After being with my wife for 5 years prior. Do I regret that decision because of what pussy I may have missed out on? I did once... but you made your decision, you can't go back in time, so you move forward and keep being the best YOU. What you need is some goals. What are your goals? I don't mean for this week, I mean what does your life look like 10, 20, 30, 40 years from now?

Marriage life is very hard.

It doesn't have to be... but you HAVE to put yourself first and foremost. This is the key to your happiness.

living without stress

HAHAHAHA. Not going to fucking happen - to anyone. Don't you dare buy into the fantasy life is supposed to be all white picket fences and happiness. It's hard fucking work - but it's so fulfilling once you start doing that work.

I will die one day and I want to live like a free man

What's stopping you from living like a free man now? Stop thinking you're 'chained down'. That's some negative bullshit right there.

I just want to be happy but I can't because of people who always say that I am a stupid man

This right here is the crux of your entire problem. You care what other people think. There's no shortcut here and you're young. So here's advice I'd give my younger self: you are fucking awesome, you are going to great things, you don't need to give a shit what ANYONE - other people, your friends, your wife, her dad think about you. You are the fucking prize - act like it.

But again; we didn't want to marry so early, we just had to because of her dad insisted and threaten us to break up. He is an alcholic man. He asked me to break up with his daughter or he said he would kill me. I didn't give a fuck about him and he locked her daughter to the room for 3 days and then she ended up to came to me and we suddenly got married.

That's some fucked up shit,

Countpudyoola · 2019-05-28T12:17:20+00:00

If you want a happy marriage then read the sidebar books. Every other year or so, reread. Or as needed if more often.

You need to care less about other peoples lives or opinions of yours and just live your own and follow your own path. This is a very young comparative mindset and it matters less and less the more you age.

That being said, make sure you are on the path you want to be on. You "captain save a ho"'ed the hell out of that situation and "rescued" her. You may realize down the road it was a set up to get you to take ownership of her and bad-dad pawned her off to you. Doesn't mean you have to stay in the situation.

She can be a compliment or a hindrance to your life plans and goals. Being married or not does not define freedom as I know many free married men and single old men who are not "free" so to speak.

whakahere · 2019-05-28T08:53:22+00:00

"I knew everything about the mentality of TRP. It is a long and very annoying reason why I got married."

Nope, these two sentences don't match. You are wrong in your knowledge about what TRP means. I am sorry but you failed like a beta male and need to re-educate yourself by reading the sidebar.

redwall92 · 2019-05-28T12:45:21+00:00

So you feel bad because people are call you stupid for getting married so early, at 22yo.

Well, duh, stupid. Don't you know 20 1/11th is the prime marrying age for males?

There. Does that make it better. Get enough voices on the other side, then you'll be OK with the choices you've made in life.

Listen man. I don't have valuable information to give you about your life or marriage. You already know what you want. But you're afraid to figure it out and do it. You want something valuable? Then ask yourself what you want. Figure out what you want. Do that work. Then live your life.

Nuwanda206 · 2019-05-28T17:36:39+00:00

Hey there, first, don´t say that you know everything about the TRP mentality, because you clearly don't.

I am 31 as of today, but I got married at 24, so I understand how you feel. However, the fact that what is keeping you from being happy is other people's opinion is really fucked up. Read the side bar man, if you rely on other people for happiness you'll live a depressed life forever. Chances are you are disappointed at who you are, you need to focus on yourself and improve yourself instead of blaming other people for your unhappiness.

So I got married at 24, my wife is a gorgeous woman, I fell in love with her and lost my virginity to her. I didn't know anything about RP or anything about what interactions between male and female are really like. I look back now at my 24 y/o Mr. Nice Guy, and I can conclude I got married for the wrong reasons.

That led me to a couple of sexless years, I let myself go and got very fat, got addicted to video games, got drunk every week, and then I found RP. My disconnection process was very painful, but I went through the side bar and I've kept reading and learning ever since. I improved myself, and I am still going down that path, but that led me to feel curious and frustrated about having had only 1 women in my life and that I wouldn't know anything else for my entire life. (I'm guessing you are felling this too, but you are blaming other people).

So long story short, my SMV went up exponentially after my disconnection, I am now a competitive powerlifter in the best shape of my life, I keep my wife happy and she is now submissive and basically worships me. BUT, I couldn't ever get the feeling of "I'll never know what is like to sleep with other women" since I got married a virgin and at 24. So I made a decision and I went to another town for a couple of months, and hooked up with a bunch of gorgeous younger girls, I couldn't even believe it myself, but these girls were extremely hot. Eventually this started to make me depressed and I didn't understand why, so I came up with 2 conclusions:

Us men do actually look for an emotional connection when we have sex, otherwise its fun, but you'll end with this "emptiness" feeling afterwards.
Even after studying all the side bar, I put my happiness in other people's hands. I shifted from my wife's frame, to my frame, to random girls' frames. It was really not a matter of sleeping with other women, but rather a matter of building and living within MY frame (that's where true happiness lies).

I do not regret anything I've done, because that´s how I learned and came up to those conclusions.

I wish this story helps you, and BELIEVE me when I say that you won't be happier with another woman, or as a single man, you'll just be changing the scenery if you don't fix yourself first.

You'll find true happiness within yourself, read the side bar.

SelectAirline · 2019-05-28T11:44:11+00:00

It is a long and very annoying reason why I got married.

No, it really isn't. You were Captain Save-a-Ho for your oneitis, and now you regret it.

The first step toward living like a free man is admitting to yourself that it isn't your marriage that is preventing you from doing so.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-05-28T21:36:43+00:00

Wow. You sound clueless. The primary reason marriage so young is an issue is that you have little time to understand how to choose a high quality woman. You also have little time to enjoy multiple types of women or learn to develop frame.

Just hg the way you talk it sounds like you are already struggling with basic concepts. For instance, who cares what other people think about you?

becoming_alpha · 2019-05-28T19:47:41+00:00

How should I live my life?

Asking this question shows us you have zero frame.

You got bullied into marrying your wife before you wanted to, you're getting pushed around by her and her dreams of your future (spoiler: there's no such thing as living without stress), and you "can't be happy" because people say you're stupid for getting married so early.

You don't have a clue what you want in life or where you're going. What's your dream? What kind of life to do want to live? Do you want to live in a van and eat out of a dumpster? OK, that's aiming low, but you do you. Do you want to own your own house and be financially independent? Good, go do it, and do it because it's your goal, not someone else's goal for you.

If you wife is helping you along that journey to reach your goals and is a benefit to your life, keep her around. If not, divorce her and go do what you want.

Once you know what you want to do in life (a mission), you have something to build your frame on. Until then you'll continue to be a puppet, pushed around by everyone who has the slightest clue what they want and figure out how to pull your strings.

When you develop a mission and some frame, people calling you stupid will be amusing to you instead of shaking you to the core and preventing your from being happy. Your happiness will come from within, and you'll finally be a real boy (in case you missed the reference, look up Pinocchio).

Rogue68486 · 2019-05-29T04:43:09+00:00

You want to be single and project that onto the world.

Own your decision like a man. Then decide if you want to stay married. You made a choice to get in. You make the choice to stay or go.

You were worried youd lose her so you got married.

FereallyRed · 2019-05-29T06:25:19+00:00

You're stupid because you got married at 22yo.

RStonePT · 2019-05-29T12:36:00+00:00

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adeptintact · 2019-06-02T05:27:28+00:00

I got married at 25 and now am in my late 30s. I see for myself that I was an idiot for marrying early. I wish I would have taken the red pill back then. Post divorce my life is so much better. I have learned from the error of my blue pill ways. So yes you're an idiot for marrying young. Deal with it. Life's best teacher is learning from your mistakes.

Eminencemiddle · 2019-06-08T01:47:08+00:00

You need to ask her Dad what he wants you to do.

eddielovett · 2019-05-28T19:52:50+00:00

I got married at 21 and my wife was 18. I’m about to turn 30 and my life is better than ever. It’s not your age or the marriage that’s the problem. It’s you. You’re a dumb bitch.

ibelieveican1982 · 2019-05-28T13:05:21+00:00

Grammar suggests ESL.

I think you should talk to your wife about it. Both of you could continue being married and have an open relationship. You can travel and go other places and she can come along if she wants to. Take control of your future and aim at something that you think will make your life better no matter where it is or what it is or what she thinks about it.

Move away from the crazy drunk father, look for work 50 or 300 or 1000 miles away from where you currently are. Join the military. Just get away from where you are so only you have control of your life. Worry about the divorce later if your wife doesn't get along with your path, but have her try it first.

Title	Bored of people who says that I am stupid because I got married at 22yo. Need advices
Author	dbayraktar
Upvotes	15
Comments	56
Date	May 28, 2019 7:35 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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