Intro: In the past installments we learned about to how personality is layered, how the brain is build correspondingly and how society reflects this as a whole. We learned about Trauma, how it affects our behavior and how it is generated. In this post, I will talk about how to fix Trauma for good.

Summary: If you want to heal yourself from Trauma, you have to systematically dig up repressed memories and relive them in a fully conscious manner.

If you want to read up background information about the topics discussed, these are the past posts:

Remember - Trauma is an ingrained pattern in your psyche, created in times of diminished consciousness.

Depending on the strength and target of the traumatizing experience, it will drive you to react emotionally and physically to both external or internal stimuli related to the traumatizing experience.

The more often your experience said stimuli, the deeper the pattern gets ingrained.

If you want to heal yourself from Trauma, you need to dig it up by following the Chain of emotional events back to the source.

Preparations

  • Set aside about 90 minutes of your time.
  • Make sure you are not disturbed.
  • Make sure you are well fed (ideally a light, plant based meal) and that you are not going to get sleepy anytime soon.
  • Try not to work on your psyche after 10pm.
  • Get a stack of paper or have a computer ready to type (but turn off its internet connection).
  • You should not be on drugs, not in current psychological treatment and not under acute pain or stress.

Step 1 - Identify your last problematic situation

In order not to be overwhelmed by negative emotions and avoiding a feeling of getting "stuck" (more on that later), you need to define exactly what kind of issue you want to work on. The narrower, the better.

Start out by revisiting the last problematic incident in your live. Write out any order or question you give yourself.

Go to the last moment of problematic emotion and report what is happening

It is key to think of the moment as a location, not as a point in time.

Always try to advise yourself in a manner that represents spatial location and movement - this allows you to use more brain processing power.

Once you get a read on a situation, go through the few most intense seconds of the event.

Step 2 - File the first experience as Event 1

Make a headline on your first sheet of paper / your text document. Call it "Event 1".

Answer these questions - use present tense.

Example: "Where are you?" - "I am in my car, driving to my LTRs place."

Questions to ask:

Are you inside or outside?

Is it light or dark?

Is it warm or cold?

Where are you?

Is anyone with you?

How old are you?

What is your primary emotion? (Anger, sadness, joy, etc.)

Is your consciousness fully present or diminished? (If consciousness is fully present file the event as "Emotional Secondary)

If your consciousness is diminished, how has it been diminished? (file the event as traumatic and identify the target and vector of trauma)

What is said during the Event?

What are your thoughts during the Event?

What thoughts did the other people present have?

Do you have any somatic feelings in your body whilst going through the event? (Headache, pain, dizzyness)

Do you have any somatic feelings in your body whilst listing your thoughts? (Headache, pains, dizzyness)

Once you listed all the answers, mark whatever provoked an emotional reaction from you (painful thoughts, mean words, etc.) continue with Step 3.

Step 3 - Dig in

Advise yourself: "Go to an earlier event, where this emotion occured. Report what is happening"

The event you might get a read on may, superficially, not be related to the first one. You might find yourself in a dating situation in Event 1, but Event 2 may be a scene from your highschool chemistry lesson.

Only the emotion and the thought pattern matters, not the context.

Once you got a read on the situation, ask yourself the questions listed in Step 2.

Make sure you stay on track - if you do not find the same emotional patterns, you may have taken a wrong turn ealier.

Step 3 - Dig Deeper

Keep visiting earlier and earlier events. Answer the questions and file them accordingly. Eventually you may notice weird sensations in your body: Headaches, drowsy thoughts, chest pains, even full on throwing up. This usually means you are on the right track and should by any means keep digging.

Never stop the process once you have active somatic sensations, or they might stay with you for days!

Repeat diggin up events on the chain and keep filing them.

If you discover any additional troubled areas in your life, not them in a different sheet / file and work on them later.

Always stay on track of the original Chain of Events.

Step 4 - Find the source

Eventually, you will uncover a very painful event from your early childhood or even in your mothers womb. Wether or not these Events happened acurately as you perceived them does not matter - it only matters that these emotions are inside you and you want to uncover them. File them and answer the questions.

Once you found the earliest Event, keep going through it and list every aspect of it until the somatic sensations subside.

Find out how exactly your consciousness got diminished and what happened during that timeframe.

List all thoughts and emotions (yours and others) until the sensations subside.

You will know this moment, because you will feel tremendous release.

If you have reached this point, stop the process. Do not continue.

Step 5 - Double Checking

Revisit the original painful Event.

See if it can still provoke an emotional reaction from you.

If not, you are cured from this kind of Trauma.

In the future you will show zero reactivity when confronted with a similar situation.

People will not be able to provoke you, whereas you will see their glaring weaknesses clear as day.

Common mistakes:

Overcomplicating - State the thoughts clear an simple. Anything else is a rationlized, watered down version of what is actually going on. ("I am weak" instead of "I feel weak in the presence of girls")

Overloading - If you do not narrow down the topic, you will have to face to many emotions at once, making it impossible to progress

Overanalyzing - There is no need to overanalyze. Re-experience and state what is happening. List the thoughts and emotions. That is enough.