For 2 years I've been trying to stop drinking alcohol (M28) but in my country every social event revolves around alcohol. A big place where guys meet girls is out at bars and clubs and when I'm out 99% of people drink. When I go to catch up with friends 90% of the time we catch up for drinks or beers on Fri/Sat night.

When I go out and I don't drink I still have fun and hit the d-floor and chat up girls but the whole experience is totally different compared to when I'm drinking. When I find girls that I think are cute, I actually feel kinda guilty and wrong trying to hook up with girls while I am sober and they have had a few drinks. I don't know why and it fucking ruins my night and 100% of the time when I go out sober I go home alone. I never escalate and I feel like my guy and girl friends are all judging me for hooking up with chicks while I'm sober.

I hate pretending to drink and having a short glass of water with lime so I always tell people I'm just drinking water if they ask.

Questions if anyone can answer: 1.Should I feel guilty for trying to escalate girls who have had some drinks while I'm 100% sober? 2. How do I respond when my friends judge me for hooking up with sober girls? 3. Those guys who don't drink alcohol when they go out, how does your night play out usually?