Summary Just as we crave sex, women crave attention and an identity.

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Men fuck because they feel horny. Women fuck because they want to feel sexual, they want the attention on them. A woman not being given attention turns them insane. For example in my experience a female friend of mine (let's say Jane), would often get upset if my other friends were giving attention to another female friend of ours (Emma). Jane started hating Emma, Jane even stated privately to me that she doesn't like Emma because she feels like she is being replaced. Jane was in a weakned state. Jane was feeling insecure, Jane was crumbling. Just as Jane dangles her vagina to other men, we men can dangle our attention to other girls. Male attention is worth more than female attention in a girl's eyes. Jane and I did end up dating. I ended up dumping Jane, for she tried to run jealousy games and all other things. I never responded to these games, and ignored them. I could tell Jane was desperate for my attention. Jane needed me more than I needed her. When Jane was dumped I cut contact with her, she was very depressed during that period. Until she reached out to me and wanted to date again. I told her no, and we can only remain friends. Again Jane's ego took yet another hit, for she has realised that the attention she once recieved from me will never be there again.

Nice one lifetopic, did you come over here to suck your own dick or something? Wtf was the point in telling us this?

The point I was making was that Jane was addicted to my attention. She was addicted to male attention in general. Just as we men get oneitis for girls and their vaginas, women get a similar thing for a man and his attention. We men spin plates to fuck, women spin plates for attention - we just call them beta orbiters. The point of the story was to show how girls will do anything for attention. Girls act like they aren't insecure when in reality they are very very insecure. They love the attention they get, they fucking thrive on it. We can flip the tables and use that attention against them.

Ok nice, girls love attention - we can use it against them. But how so?

Simply put attention is like heroin. If we give enough attention girls become hooked on it, and then once you withdraw. They come back crawling for more. So some basic methods to withdraw attention:-

  1. Don't text often - constant contact kills attraction (It's more of that constant attention is what kills attraction. They'll get used to your attention and now won't value it as much)

  2. Remain aloof/indifferent - make them EARN your attention. If she does something good, reward her with your attention e.g. She buys you a gift. Go reward her, go give her a compliment or do some other kind gesture. But remember to follow the 2/3 rule

  3. Remain somewhat distant. Never be too close to a girl - unless of course she is a properly vetted LTR (you can't instill too much fear into an LTR). Being too close will give her the sense of security that she's finally won you and then she'll become bored.

Ok great you've given us 3 tips, what is the underlying principle though?

Well the general rule is SILENCE IS GOLDEN. This can even be put into day to day conversations. Next time when speaking to someone, stay silent when they start speaking. But prolong this silence by a few extra seconds. The other person will start speaking to fill in the awkwardness. You can apply this logic to girls, they'll start filling in the gaps. Making the work easier for you.

Law 16: Use Absence To Increase Respect & Honor

“Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. if you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.”