I hope everyone is having a wonderful day and doing good despite the quarantine. I absolutely love how this community continues to grow every day.

For those who haven't read my previous posts, I'm simply a guy who made lots of money making and selling projects online. That's it. The money allowed me to travel and meet new people which then allowed me to vastly master most of my business and social skills. I have spent the last few years studying social situations.

Whilst my post is mainly based from business examples, they apply directly to social situations as well.

So what the hell even is "status"?

Status when discussed in social context refers to your “level” or if you would like a more harsh but accurate term; your worth. It determines who you speak to, who looks at you and who respects you.

There are two forms of status that I would prefer to focus on: High Status and Low status.

High status individuals are often the confident, popular types sometimes being the rich and important individuals. These are the people that you often need to have a high level of something in order to go near.

Low status individuals are those who are often the easily accessible individuals. The groups that hold no power or value in a social setting and those who have others reigning above them.

CURRENT low status individuals are those I have experienced to be people who may come from a high status background yet happen to be in a low status situation. For instance, a girl could be an attractive high status model, yet in her free time works in McDonalds for some extra cash. Her status depends entirely in her current situation.

So what the hell does it mean for you and why do you need to know about it?

An unfair but harsh truth is that the world treats high status people better in a natural sense and even stretching the concept further there is no negative to being a high status individual. Once you acquire the natural status, people can merely feel it in your presentation.

I recently attended a mountain top conference event for a weekend. I occasionally like to attend certain events where I have no focused knowledge to gain an extra experience. This event was a leadership training event. I was introduced to all manner of people. Engineers, scientists, doctors in training.

Credit and education wise, I was completely outclassed by these people.

On the first day of the event, we were separated into groups where the goal was to share information about ourselves. I studied my group, watching how the women were secretly trying to "One-up" the others by listing their positions and how busy they were. The most confident people were often slightly arrogant and unfortunately, those were the very same individuals who had the highest status.

In my previous post, I spoke about how to interact with low status individuals.

Here, I will do the opposite.

Interacting with High Status individuals is entirely a mindset AND presentation concept. There is nothing else. High Status people WANT to feel understood. Have you noticed how celebrities sometimes have non-celebrity friends who they are close with? Or high status individuals who are close with people of lower status Or even celebrities who date non-famous people?

It doesn't matter who you are talking to; Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Tom Cruise, Jay Z.

The thing that makes these people talk to you longer than 30 seconds is that they feel understood. If you can control that concept, you essentially bypass any blocks that stop you from furthering your relationship.

Mindset:

You must UNDERSTAND that these people are merely humans and there is no reason you cannot talk to them on equal level.

The Presentation:

I won't lie to you. How you dress and behave DOES have an impact. The fact of the matter is, if you dress well or even decently, people will be open to you. As for your behaviour, it merely needs to be congruent with your mind.

Notice I did not mention confidence or anything else. The reason for this is that it is YOUR personality and behaviour that will gain the interest of the high status individuals. Let me give you some examples.

It's lunch time at the local high school and inside the hall there is a table set out for the athletes. This table is clearly the high status table as everyone who sits there is a high status individual in the school setting. The people in that table are also very large and muscular due to their sports along with being generally confident.

Enter David. He is a chess player but watches dozens of sports in his free time. He purely sees everyone as an equal and treats people the exact same way. In turn, he has watched a few of the athletes play and spoke to them on occasion. They like him which means that he often stops by their table to have a chat. David does not have the physicals, general confidence or experience that the athletes have but they feel as though he understands them, and therefore they are happy to interact with him.

You must always make certain that people feel understood.

Now as part of my consulting work, I often help people with their CVs/Resumes. I have a skill in being able to take any person's CV and turn it into something that can get them arguably any job without even listing direct qualifications. Allow me to explain how this ties in with high status.

When my business first grew, I received my first ever job applications. I was 17 and had absolutely no idea what to do. I had put up a job ad for someone who could draw me a car but was then receiving CVs and Resumes from professional artists with higher qualifications than me. I had no idea what to do and was overwhelmed.

These CVs were often long with the applicant first telling me about their interests, skills and weaknesses before telling me what they could actually do. I then understood how business owners must routinely feel when looking through job applicants.

I just wanted someone to draw me a car. I wasn't interested in hearing that they were a hard worker who's biggest weakness is working too hard.

It comes down to the concept of selling yourself too much in order to impress the other individual. This is the killer of relationships between low status and high status individuals. You do not have to sell yourself to the person.

A high status individual feels more relaxed speaking with a truck driver who couldn't care any less about their position, speaks freely and respects them than a 6 figure earner who attempts to sell their personalities in the hopes of gaining friendship.

Extra:

If you are interested in learning more about social behaviour, I always recommend this toast masters page:

https://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap9.html

Due to the messages and questions I have been receiving I decided to write a short book on the concepts I have learned if anyone is interested. It details everything from status to body language to confidence and business. You can check it out here.

Any help or questions, feel free to message me.

Have a great day guys.