"Meet the ECs" is a featurette which we will run weekly, or as often as we can find volunteers among our endorsed contributors. It is a question-and-answer style interview which will give you a glimpse into the life of one of our endorsed members. The stories are anonymized, and provided for your benefit.

Awakening to Red Pill truth is a slow, painstaking process, and it can seem impossible to reach the levels of proficiency attained by our endorsed contributors. Our goal here is to remove the magic and mysticism of Red Pill success. Our endorsed members are not super-powered carbon-copy pussy wizards. Their lives are varied, their life experiences are different, their talents and interests are often dissimilar, and everything that they have achieved is also achievable by you, as long as you put in the work. These men are not heroes or role models, they are regular men who have learned how to live free.

Here is the story of one such regular man, /u/FereallyRed.


During the Blue Pill Days


Before you had your awakening, what were your aspirations in life and in love?

Raised entirely by women. No grandpas, no dads, no uncles, no brothers. The only orientation a toilet seat should be is down. The upside to this was that I had no problems talking to women. They were just people, they had stinky shits and left period stains and snail trails in their underwear. So no pedestals. Dirt poor. I remember brown sugar sandwiches. White bread, margarine, and a thick layer of dark brown sugar for lunch. I was driven to get out, to experience the life I knew existed somewhere else. The family was very much a "be thankful for what you have" mentality, the thought of actively seeking more was alien to them.

Much sex was had in high school and college because I wasn't afraid of girls, and I'd been lifting weights since I was 13, and my drive for "more" was palpable even back then. I hated being poor and wasn't going to allow it.

Spent my 20's floating around the country chasing ever increasing salary and responsibility. With girlfriend. Joining alternative sex communities as we travelled. That was the aspiration. Fuck women, make money. Married gf at 30.

What was your biggest Blue Pill illusion/delusion?

LTR. Open relationship, swinger, bdsm, lifestyle people. Sex was always on the table (and on the patio. And on the hood of the car. And on other people.) I believed in sexual equality, and it was getting me laid. But equality of the sexes was my biggest delusion. I really thought it was a good thing that gf/wife could take the reins when she wanted to because we were equals. Besides, she was a strong, independent woman, she proudly wore her badge and enjoyed the fact that most men were "too threatened" by her.


Transitioning


What was a significant life event that contributed to or led to your Red Pill awakening?

Coming home on my motorcycle in the dark from dinner with friends, I was rearended on the highway by a truck running 90mph driven by a drugged out skank. I should be dead. I rode her hood for a bit as my bike was chewed up underneath, then luged down the pavement, losing all the skin on my ass. When I sat up, the truck drove away. (But my bike killed it... cops found it a few miles down the road.) Cue shitstorm. I couldn't workout. Couldn't move without tearing a scab open with a fresh burst of pain, but couldn't take time off work(buying another house) and couldn't take narcs because work. Got fat, selfmedicated with alcohol. Became a miserable fuck.

Wife stopped fucking me. Checked out. This woman who I'd spent 16 years with. Briffault like a motherfucker. She eventually left.

I googled some shit like "why won't my wife fuck me?" and ended up here. and in deadbed, and in mrp.

Kick in the nuts. I spent a year just lurking, reading, implementing. Quit alcohol. Doubled down at the gym. Spun plates like it was my mission. Up to six at a time. That's insane. The sheer amount of bedsheet laundry I was doing was ridiculous.


Red Pill Life


When was a moment where you realized you were on the other side?

I first knew I was on the other side when one of my plates bootycalled while I was lying in bed sweaty and satiated with another girl. I showed sweaty girl the text and told her that I'm going to invite her over to join us, then texted bootycall back and told her the same thing. She showed, we all fucked.

Now of course I've had a lot of group sex,(In fact one of the first few dates my future wife set up was a threesome with her childhood best friend and room mate at the time.), but this as the first time it wasn't using the couples cushion, the lifestyle expectation, or the friend of a friend deal... just balls out.. come over and fuck.

The second time was when wife came crawling back... no more bitch, she's a submissive little girl that needs me again. New rules. I am the prize. I spin plates and maintain subs, she no longer attempts to wear the captain's hat and is happier because of it. We're not co-captaining anymore. The marriage is open on my side only. My life, my rules. I bought the two supercars I'd always wanted without even talking to her about it. My garage looks like a sporting goods flagship store. Pick an activity, I've probably tried it.

How do you derive meaning and purpose for your own life?

Meaning and purpose... I'm still a simple guy, Fuck women, make money remains. The words, at least. Now that mantra means do what you want to do. I'm successful.

What still challenges you?

Challenges. I go dark much more rapidly and deeply than I'd like. I have trouble not taking shit personally when I'm there. I need to work on my internal locus of control. Hyperdetailed delayed cloaked revenge and payback are a twisted pleasure. Like Law Abiding Citizen and John Wick, "kill everything if you are wronged" is a seductive solution in my fucked up little existence.

Without being too specific, what industry do you work in? In what ways is Red Pill knowledge advantageous for you and your career?

Medical career. Absolutely essential to be redpill in this strange mix of tech, people, administration, customer service, regulations and corporate culture.

What's an article, theory post, video, or other resource in the RP community/manosphere that really shifted your way of thinking?

The Three Dysfunctional Captains and First Officers of Married TRP was a seminal piece.

What advice do you wish you'd had, or would you want to pass along to a man who is still waking up?

Nobody is going to hand you the life you want.