Every time cheating comes up in asktrp, people cannot help themselves but moralize.
"Cheating is beta!"
"Following through on your promises is alpha!"
"Why be in an LTR if you knew you wanted strange?"
Some version of all 3 gets posted, and usually reaches the top of the votes.
Sexual Strategy is Amoral
What does this mean? Here at TRP, a founding philosophy is that the advice we give here must not be muddied by our personal beliefs. Just because YOU are personally opposed to taking certain action in a sexual context, doesn't mean it is not an option for whomever is asking the question.
This rule exists because we strive to be objective about the truth, not evangelize. TRP is all about what works, regardless of how unseemly it may be.
On Infidelity
Let's say you're exclusive with a girl. You see some ripe strange when you're at the bar and your testosterone monster starts the porno reel. Shit is involuntary, right? Right.
Here are your options.
Go privately smash that strange, and keep it a secret.
Go smash the strange, and fess up later or get caught.
Try to open up your relationship.
Do nothing.
Break up with LTR prior to smashing strange.
Option 1 is optimal from a sexual strategy perspective. You keep your girl and get what you want.
Option 2 is least optimal - you likely end up with no pussy and your LTR has a free pass to start drama forever because "oh yeah???? Why don't you just GO FUCK SARAH AGAIN" Imagine that in your ex's shrill voice when you forget to buy toilet paper.
Option 3 is volatile - even if it works, she is banging other dudes, and even a one sided open relationship might breed massive resentment.
Option 4 is status quo.
Option 5 gives to get. It's suboptimal from a sexual strategy standpoint.
Why should I be OK with this?
Two reasons.
The first is that you're here at TRP to swap notes with dudes, and see what works (or how others handled the situation). Leave your morals at the door.
The second, and far more important reason, is that women are passively cheating 24/7. Especially any of them hotter than a 7/10.
My best friend, my work boyfriend, Ted who DMs her on Instagram? All part of her web of dudes. Funny thing is, it's subconscious. If you called her out, she would tell you you're crazy or insecure. In her mind, nothing is wrong.
Some guy who upped his game into smashing primarily models did an experiment. He put a key logger on his fwb's phone, and pulled the results after a few days. Sure enough, she had a pile of orbiters and "friends". All were constantly offering dinner, dates, gifts, and all manner of thinly veiled sexual advances. And she was responding to most of them, some in rotation.
Thinking she was just a hoe, he told himself "wow, this girl sure is bad!" Then he did it to a plate. Same EXACT result.
He finally stopped after 10 girls in a row proved his suspicion right.
The moral of the story is that cheating comes in many forms, and there are some all women are going to be doing to you.
Wise up and realize that physical cheating is what it is - genuine redpilled guys aren't going to judge you on it. We're just going to give you the options so you can decide for yourself.
Remember this the next time you see the subject of infidelity.
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