I Fucked Up a ONS and Now I'm Laughing at Myself

L3onard3 · 2019-08-05T16:34:30+00:00

Pick a shittier movie. There’s a post about this somewhere.

YouNeverKnowAnyone · 2019-08-05T17:52:41+00:00

Sounds like a good movie. What was it?

effyouasshole · 2019-08-05T17:40:11+00:00

How do I prevent that situation from happening again?

Next time, pick up an 8/10 dude from a gay bar. The movie probably won't distract you from the raging boner in your pants telling you to escalate.

NoReallyItsTrue · 2019-08-05T18:06:21+00:00

Uh, what is everyone talking about? That's some macho something-to-prove compensating bullshit if you think you've made a mistake by not having sex with a woman and instead enjoying yourself by watching a movie. There is nothing wrong with preferring watching a cool movie to having sex. As a community that preaches self respect, I'd expect the response would be more like "so what?"

AnIslandForYourself · 2019-08-05T16:39:56+00:00

Was that movie so interesting that it distracted you from fucking an HB8 next to you?You must have some weak ass sexual thoughts for this to happen.You could've watched the movie while an HB8 rode your dick and even teased her and had some fun by commenting on the movie as she was riding.

Set an autism reminder on your phone "don't forget have sex with girl sitting right next to you".

PotatoWatt · 2019-08-05T17:37:42+00:00

bro, here is what I got from this:

You actually care. Otherwise you wouldnt be posting here. Stop lying to yourself. The only way to stop faking stuff is to face it head on and take the beating, the pain, the failure and embrace it. Know that it is part of life. And then you will grow.

Its harder than faking it, but the reward will be much better. Like you can fuck fatties and not work on your body? Sure. But if you work on your body, you will fuck much hotter and cuter pussy and the rewards will pay for the pain.

Stop acting like you dont care. You do care.

I myself just did that shit a few months ago, I dont know how I even manged to fail so hard. I did worse than you, I fucked up over the course of SEVERAL netflix and chill with the same chick. Now imagine that shit. Stop changing the focus to "the movie was too interesting" and be responsible. You were a pussy about it. Now you regret. I know it hurts. And I can tell you this: It will hurt even more in a few weeks.

How to stop that from happening again? Imagine you are a toddler, someone tells you that the stove is hot, to not touch it. But eventually you forget that shit because who cares, and you touch it. It hurt like a motherfucker. And from then on, you will NEVER again touch the stove.

The only way for you to never fail again is to fail so hard that you spend nights crying how much of a pussy you are. Thats how you can prevent it.

You either meet a girl you really really really like, and fail hard and then you spend months just learning how your mind works and then you will learn and mature, or you fail a bunch of times with 'lesser' girls and it will do the trick aswell.

indian_booty · 2019-08-05T17:09:58+00:00

Could you expand on how you established attraction, with emphasis on how your confident was (mellow or high) and your conversations to wrap her in?

proplfax · 2019-08-05T17:10:27+00:00

i'm way too horny to ever forget to take my dick out. questioning your test levels or you have some serious anxiety you're playing off.

AngelusAeternam · 2019-08-05T17:28:22+00:00

This is hilarious. Drink less next time

prince0verit · 2019-08-05T23:12:14+00:00

https://pics.me.me/when-you-invite-her-over-for-a-night-of-movies-21575686.png

AnyDoughnut · 2019-08-05T18:37:34+00:00

"How do I prevent that situation from happening again?"

If the movie was good and that interested you more than banging her then you did the right thing. Just because we have dicks doesn't mean we need to always be thinking with our dicks. Though if you really did want to bang her but are using the movie as an excuse for not making a move then you need to work on your confidence and assertiveness.

almagest · 2019-08-05T19:05:08+00:00

We've all been there - I had a girl over to "watch a movie", started making out with her then fucking WENT BACK to catch the part we missed while making out. She left a few minutes later and I never saw her again. Don't blame her.

Laugh at yourself, learn from your mistakes and move on.

jbpostv · 2019-08-05T20:36:24+00:00

I think there's something telling that you didn't feel compelled to sleep with her. Its one of two things:

You have sexual blockage. Something I definitely struggle with. For fear of rejection, the anxiety that often accompanies escalation and sometimes the power that accompanies rejecting someone, you've developed sexual shutdown as a soothing defense mechanism. You can't drown in a river if theres a dam upstream. Problem is you can't go fishing either. Try to think of your attraction and sexual arousal as a wavelength of energy you deserve to feel and enjoy. Practice by having sexual thoughts about women you're making moves on early on and embrace the horn-doggedness of the human male. A lot of subtle anti-male social conditioning makes guys feel like creeps for feeling aroused by a woman in person and acting on it.
You weren't in the mood or she didn't really excite you. Maybe you were tired. Maybe you have dating fatigue. Maybe you're a bit depressed. I don't really know for sure but if you didn't feel like going for the kill thats ok. You didn't want it and you didn't want it. Don't hold yourself accountable to pursue sexual opportunities if you're not interested in them.

TyroneTheDriver · 2019-08-05T20:56:26+00:00

I mean... yeah you goofed... but....

just call her again.

If you do it twice in a row ill give you $20

machimus · 2019-08-05T23:52:39+00:00

Hey, I mean getting laid is great, but you shouldn’t be ashamed of doing what you really want to do, even if that’s not (gasp) getting laid every single time and seeing a great movie instead.

goathunter05 · 2019-08-06T01:53:31+00:00

Lmao just say "yo sorry bout the other night, I was just so into the movie I forgot to make a move"

nobody_thinks · 2019-08-05T16:48:09+00:00

listen to your gut bro. there couldhave been something about her that was a major turn off and your subconscious checked out. boner test is a real thing.

(this is granting that it was not fear and you are not hamstering).

ghjklzxcv123 · 2019-08-05T17:29:02+00:00

You dont even care about an hb8. Abundance is real bro.

CaptainKidd96 · 2019-08-05T18:32:37+00:00

What's the name of the movie? I am genuinely curious.

xddm2653 · 2019-08-05T19:08:04+00:00

What movie OP? It was 300 wasn't it?

Terminal-Psychosis · 2019-08-05T19:27:45+00:00

Sounds like you just weren't into her much.

Or maybe you're gay? heh

More fish in the sea, n all that. You'll remember this next time.

fredo_o · 2019-08-06T05:57:18+00:00

I almost fucked up like that, took me half an hour before I made the move. Then back to movie then she made the move and you know how it goes

Better luck next time and pick a crap movie

Fuckovski · 2019-08-05T17:08:53+00:00

Get your testosterone levels checked bro, that’s not normal.

uptimex · 2019-08-05T18:00:34+00:00

Quantity, I guess you were internally not ready for sexual relationship with her. It is okay, try it out more times and it will happen. But you should be honest with her that you are here to have something, movie can be watched later. It is weird sometimes when you try something during the movie.

[deleted] · 2019-08-05T19:37:33+00:00

Movies are a shitter idea for a date.

Rimefang · 2019-08-05T21:00:53+00:00

Ayylmao

strpnzo · 2019-08-05T21:07:12+00:00

Watch discovery channel.

alphafili · 2019-08-06T04:12:09+00:00

Remember the bigger picture.

XXXMersenne · 2019-08-06T08:16:31+00:00

Your motivational see-saw hadn't tipped

You need the leverage from these experiences so you're more proactive later. You probably didn't believe you would sleep with her so it wasn't on your agenda - of course to avoid the direct perception of this realisation you got 'carried away' with the movie.

Insert coin & try again and Nice one for getting that far in the first place.

Cryptoguru777 · 2019-08-06T09:27:36+00:00

We all have 'bad' days. I've had so much sex lately I literally have days where I don't want to have sex. You could have something on your mind or just tired. Doesn't matter. If she bailed on you for this alone good fucking riddance.

Revoc123 · 2019-08-06T17:01:22+00:00

I get this totally 100%. I have had a few situations where my sexual brain turns off completely, usually as a result of fucking another girl that morning combined with drinking and feeling guilty that im cheating on the girl I fucked that morning.

Trust me it is better that you let her bounce without trying to fuck and escalating only to find there is a limp spagetti noodle that wont get hard until right after she leaves... it has happened to me twice both with women who were incrediblely incredibly hot. I beggeed both come back... neither one did.. then suddenly im focused on working out, not drinking and viola... im rotating three new chicks passing out orgasms like I have a score to settle and my pad is once again overrun like the shoe department at Nordstroms.

travlingsomewhere · 2019-08-05T17:59:20+00:00

I did this before. I met up with this girl at her house and we went in her room. She said her mom had a “closed door policy” where the doors HAD to be shut. So that should’ve been my sign. We ended up getting in her bed putting on a movie and I fell asleep. Lol

SerbianChadnik · 2019-08-05T20:01:03+00:00

If you're together, alone, at home, sex is the only thing thats on the table. Escalation can be difficult outside, in the bar, on a date, or in the club, but when youre at home (especially if its yours) at least for me it comes a lot easier because you can be certsin she knows what is supposed to happen. "Netflix and chill", lmao.

Title	I Fucked Up a ONS and Now I'm Laughing at Myself
Author	thesatellite23
Upvotes	132
Comments	85
Date	August 5, 2019 4:32 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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