I started typing this as a reply, but it turned into a post. So here it is, on the topic of being a soft landing.

  • Make him your #1 priority. There are many subtle and not so subtle messages we send out every day that let people know where they stand on our list of priorities.

  • Give him his space when he needs it. A simple way of respecting his space is to ask before invading it. If he's reading on on his computer or in middle of any other alone activity, ask whether you can interrupt at the moment. Make sure he knows that you're perfectly fine with him telling you "not now".

  • When you converse, nothing else exists in the world! Put down your phone and look at him straight in his eyes. Listen to him, not just to what he's saying.

  • Believe in him even when he doesn't believe in himself. Women have this power over men. Your belief in him has the power to cause him to rise to the occasion, your lack of belief in him through being critical (etc) can cause him to falter. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy. When I was 23, I took on something major and life changing. My wife constantly criticized me, to my mother in law I could do no wrong. My wife made me feel like a failure, my MIL made me feel like God's gift to humanity. She believed in me even when I didn't believe in myself. Ultimately, that prevented me from failure. It worked.

  • Be supportive. He will have difficult days or time periods. Being is soft landing means you're okay listening to his struggles. Be critical and he'll never open up when something is bothering him. Be supportive and he'll feel safe opening up. Have him rest his head on your breasts before, during and after he shares his struggles with you. It's extremely soothing and will greatly assist in what you're trying to accomplish.

  • Make him feel desired. His touch should bring you delight. Frequent enthusiastic sex is very important. Small touch outside the bedroom will also express desire or lack of desire. If you ever need to turn him down for sex and you can't go the route of a BJ etc, express desire while turning him down. Tell him how much you really want him but you just can't because XYZ. Desire when sex is off the table is extremely potent. Never underestimate it.

  • When a man walks through the door after a long and stressful day at work, the best thing that can happen to him at that moment is when his wife drops everything and runs to the door to spend a minute or two in a full body hug and long closed eyed kiss. This specific time is extremely powerful and sets the tone for the rest of the evening. It will make him feel very desired and that he's you're number one priority. And it only takes a minute or two!

  • Having supper ready when he comes home or at a set time every day, is a great way to care for your man. My grandparents ate supper at 6:00 every night. You could set your clocks on it. She'd set the table and sit and eat with him. Nothing else existed during that time. My parents have many children. Sometimes when dad was at work until late, mom would feed us during our regular time but when dad came home, she'd sit and eat with him at least for part of supper (most of the time).

  • Spend time together. Don't leave it to spontaneity. Set a time of day depending on whether you're a morning or night person. My parents have tea or just sit and talk before bed every night. We were never allowed to be present during this 20-30 minutes a day. They still do this to this very day.