I followed Red Pill Women and was there when the split came about to Red Pill Wives. I only posted once, and I quickly deleted because it was a truth I could not handle.

You cannot have a drunk captain was pretty much every response, and I chose wrong.

After doing everything, I handed over the finances for my husband to control because I was getting abused. At the time we had stocks, a diversified portfolio, I tried to get him to max out his matched 401k (I am a longtime user of reddit).

One example of what I accomplished with the finances is credit card churning where our availability went from 5k to over 100k in less than 5 years. Meal prepping, cooking and sewing, making sure everything was done, even the trash. Nice dinner spreads, taking care of yourself, being available ect.

Well, you mods and women were right.

You Cannot Have A Drunk Captain (and I chose wrong).

I haven’t gotten the financial declaration yet, but it seems as though all the credit cards are maxed in less than 2.5 years...savings gone. I was cheated on with at least one man (many more, probably), and many women as well as sex workers.

I am going through a divorce (I petitioned for it) as I’m hitting the wall and I have a child in wedlock. Take care of your skin, take care of your babies, and still make goals. I actually have pretty good genes, but I don’t look 18, I look about 23-26 (it’s mostly my genes, diet, and skincare routine), but it is very clear my age on my elbows and when I look in the mirror naked after having a child...so it can only go so far 😅

This is a cautionary tale, as I chose wrong, but opening up the finances to someone with at least one substance problem and a very lavish lifestyle, there is little left. I’m not responsible for what he did, but I was responsible, and I still hold my vows, even if he didn’t.

He put my health at risk and I may not get money, but there will probably be a settlement when it’s all over due to what was done to me. Towards the end my child and I were isolated to one room at night and he didn’t want me to even speak to my family (projection because of his infidelities).

I’m okay, but I have a long road ahead, and my life has drastically changed.

I’m not interested in dating, just moving forward.

I need to apologize that I didn’t follow the advice and my cognitive dissonance was a big hurdle.

Please do not choose a captain that has a substance abuse. Everything will be “your fault” and the cycle of abuse happens gradually.

It wasn’t physical, so I want to emphasize that, unless you count that he put my health at risk with being with other people and coming back to me.

Divorce was NEVER what I wanted, but I have to choose my child over a pathological liar, even if it means working many jobs.

I am now going to be a “single mother”, but at least one that will no longer have prototypes of abuse perpetuated to our child.

I know men age like wine and women like milk, but the “women” he was with...weren’t very pretty, smart, or even talented. He told me “He wasn’t looking for a relationship, and it’s all about numbers”. This is what was said to me just last week and I’m his wife and the mother of his child.

This post may be against the rules, but it is the truth; I should have listened and found this community before I said my vows.

I apologize to the women I did not follow your knowledge.

I’m sorry and have to move forward.

On the positive side, I did take care of myself, and even though I do not want to date, I can look myself in the mirror and be proud of being a person who survived yet another chapter in my life, so beauty in, beauty out.

I hope and wish you all good luck, and again, I’m very sorry I did not follow the advice because if I had, maybe things could have been different, but you cannot change someone, only yourself; as a woman, YOU are the gatekeeper to sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

A special thank you to a specific mod a while ago, she was wonderful and we shared many PMs after I was dragged over to the Blue Pill, and may be again. What will be, will be.

Live laugh love

Just kidding 🤣

Do.Not.Choose.A.Drunk.Captain. <———