One of the most important concepts people are fed for their entire life is 'love', 'commitment', 'marriage'. You are told that you want these things from every direction even before you understand what exactly they mean. By the time you are an adult questioning "What, what exactly is love, does it exist?" is greeted with strange looks and uncomfortableness from all around. Chances are you have spent 95% of your life watching television shows about commitment, love, finding partners, the second you turn 18 you are expected to find a girlfriend and get into a relationship, most people are openly shamed following this by not only their peers, but also family members if they have been in able to achieve a partner.

My point is that the concept of 'love' and 'relationship' being of utmost importance is so widely spread that most people are programmed like robots by the time they are old enough to get a girlfriend that their entire personal success is based on this. It makes them behave in strange ways, men, knowing the social pressure will do basically anything to find that love. They will often quickly find that the relationships they get aren't that fantastic, quite often they're horrible and they leave them with senses of unfullfillment and misery, but because they're programmed to know that is the sole goal of their life by hollywood and their peers they quickly jump on the bandwagon again, ready to find the next available woman to wife up.

Its no real surprise then that people have trouble accepting the mantra of not needing a relationship, not needing to have your worth defined by women, absolutely not needing to raise children and support a family. Its something that I think even many members here struggle with a lot, they kind of redivert their focus but they still aren't entirely comfortable with removing the goal of finding women and a girlfriend from their life objectives, it kind of simmers under the surface. But I still persist the only way a man can truly be happy in life is to not care about the judgements of women and the goal of attaining that relationship. It will almost always be a let down, your needs will never be met in any meaningful way and its just a continuous failure loop that will drain you dry and take up years of your time.

The true objective for men should be to do what you want to do, if that means earning a modest income and living a comfortable life supporting yourself go for it, if that means chasing hobbies and interests of your own then go for it. But I think any 'life goal' which is pre orientated with picking up women or dating women is always going to leave you feeling empty.