Original post by /u/bsutansalt.

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APPROACHING

When reopening after the pre-open just be friendly, qualify their earlier behavior, and then disqualify the rest of the venue. These are actually two separate skills, so play around with different types of qualifiers and disqualifiers. Also, you can actually roll them together and mix them into your opening statement as well. A very basic version of this is, “Hi <name>, I didn't get a chance to tell you earlier, but you were super polite/friendly. I think that's awesome. Between you and me most people here are stuck up.” Now they will hook because you've just framed her as good, everyone else as bad, and she'll naturally want to fulfill that social expectation, at least in the short term. Presto! They just hooked! Give another qualifying statement if you feel it's necessary and then launch into your opinion opener of choice, hopefully something not “community” and real from your life. An example of my follow-on qualifying statement is, “Hey, you seem really friendly. I just wanted to ask you a quick question....” and then I would launch into my opinion opener.

LOCKING IN

Locking in is such an important piece of the puzzle, but yet so many forget to do it, or worse they're afraid to! It's much easier to just take the power position in a group setting (i.e. the head of table, center of the group, at a club with your back to the bar) and accept that moment of awkwardness than stand in a bad spot for 10 minutes gradually working your way over while your investment raises and hers stays low. A moment of awkwardness is quickly forgotten whereas an extended period of being locked out of the group essentially will lower their perception of you for a long time to come. Just move against the wall, put your foot up, and chill back. Let them face you and you face out away from them. This is really one of the best positions to be in. I found there are lots of little tricks you can do with body language to adjust investment levels in the group.

INVESTMENT

In The Blueprint, Tyler Durden speaks about Reactivity, that the person who reacts more is the more attracted of the two individuals. This is because the person who is reacting more is more invested. If there is any simple way of saying what attraction boils down to it’s investment. The goal of every interaction should be to cultivate investment by the other person as much as possible. The more invested, the more they’ll become attracted and attached to the outcome. In RSD speak this means being the least reactive person. However, being the least reactive is only half the equation. Adam Lyons finished the puzzle by adding the second half, which is to get them investing in you.

When initially talking to a woman, don’t directly face her. Just lean back and let her carry as much of the conversation as possible. Essentially you want to speak and interact the least amount you can get away with. No more are the days of the man carrying 90% of the conversation from the start. Just get things going, sit back, and enjoy the ride as they talk themselves into being attracted to you by investing!

After you’ve approached the girl, let her invest for a while, then you’ll want to move things forward to a "close" of some sort. If for some reason you cannot bounce to another venue or instant-date on the spot, you’ll want to get her contact details. The method by which you do so is just as important as how you open and get her invested if you wish to see her again, but we'll get to that later in the Closing section.