"Because you aren't good at listening and then carefully and attentively broadening the conversation. This may in part be because you are cynical with regards to the beginnings of social interaction. Why should strangers offer you anything of real value or take a risk with you until you have demonstrated your ability to handle simple social tasks competently (say without sarcasm or dismissiveness)? So they start off trading in pennies to check you out. You can be virtually certain, as well, that if you find initial small talk boring then the people who are boring you find you, in turn, awkward, charmless, equally boring and perhaps even a bit narcissistic." - Jordan Peterson on Quora.
I find this answer really helped me understand parts of my past self and some introvert communities. When I look at circlejerking introvert communities like the myers-briggs INTJ and INTP ones that have posts basically like "I'm so unable to engage in small talk, people say such stupid things blah blah and that's why I have no friends and I am an isolated genius".Don't even get me smarted on how much people there are self-diagnosed 180IQ geniuses that "just didn't do well in school because they didn't try". Seriously check that sub for yourself, top posts are of people thinking they are the only human beings to ever have thoughts and how they "see things other people don't see" worst was one saying "when I see this picture I see all the tiny minute details automatically and immediately process everything blah blah" very pathetic.. And I find it that way not because I am cruel but also looking within as I have experience with that kind of rationalisation and thinking you are special.
Do you agree with Jordan Peterson's analysis of "small talk"? What do you think? Do you think it relates to yourself or any people/communities(like my example of INTJ hardcore meyers-briggs people that take the test a little too seriously).
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