Being a white man in Asia taught me more about being a woman in the West than anything else

I recently had an extended business trip in China for several months for a secondment to a Taiwanese manufacturer.

I was instantly thrust into a higher SMV, taller height (I'm just under 6"), significantly inflated status as I was fortunate enough to get some C suite perks like access to driver and executive car.

Being a white man in Asia taught me more about being a woman in the West than anything else.

Almost instantly you notice long stairs from others passing on the metro escalator, people (including men) send you sexually explicit messages on social media, you get free drinks and access to night clubs.

Unfortunately I'm not interested in Asian women. I've always liked taller (6" +), elegant, North European women.

Being constantly hit on by people you don't find attractive is flattering at first, then frustrating.

You begin to register low key disgust at the constant unsolicited advances of others you find unattractive.

This is what it is like to be a woman.

For most women, if you don't have a threshold status or appearance, your existence don't even register.

Women are apologetically eugenic. They get to be because for a small window they're constantly showered in attention.

It's why men born 5'7", perfectly average in height feel inadequate on some fundamental level.

So what can a man do with this knowledge?

Focus on what he can control. Himself, his status, his vocation, his relationships.

Build yourself to be the best version one can be.

If you're handicapped, accept the reality and do the best with the hand you're dealt, or choose to not play the game at all.