Men are not inherently better at being leaders. Like with most things, I think there are just most men at the extremes. Basically, most men are equally capable as women, but if you look at the extremes, you will find more men. (higher male variability hypothesis)

RPW seem like they're putting themselves in a vulnerable position. They're encouraged to put up with their husbands' bad decisions just because "the man knows best". Thing is that there is no evidence that the average man is a better leader than the average woman. Like I said, the most difference between men and women exists if you look at the extremes, not if you look at the average person. There are many men who are worse decision makers than women. There are also men who are lazy and have no desire to "lead". Just look at one ridiculous example here of putting up with a man's bad decisions for the sake of RPW. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/chw95o/what_is_a_red_pilled_woman/ev0wo08/

Even on the larger issues, I have found a little generosity goes a long way. The biggest test was when my husband wanted to buy a car we couldn't afford. My natural instinct would have been to fight him. This time, I did a calculation: the price of a new car in return for matrimonial harmony. The choice was obvious. I gave it my blessing. He bought the car. We were broke, but he was deliriously happy and, in turn, exceptionally nice to me. A few months later, when the house was in darkness because we could no longer afford new light bulbs, he decided to sell the car. Things have a habit of turning out OK in the end.

RPW say that they find good leaders and if they're honest then good for them. However, most men are not like that, many men tend to be ridiculous manbabies who can hardly take care of themselves, let alone take care of anyone else. The idea that traditionally men were the leaders of the household is kind of an exaggerated myth anyway. If you look closely in tradcon societies, you'll find many cases where the women make most of the decisions when it comes to household matters.

RPW just devalue themselves by adopting a "man knows best" mindset, even if that's obviously untrue. They also put themselves in a vulnerable position as dominant men are more likely to be abusive. This nonsense serves the male imperative, not the female imperative, which is also why we see more men than women voting for tradcon or far-right parties.

If we accept the RP theory as true, then it is AF/BB that better serves the female imperative. Putting women in an inherently vulnerable position does not serve the female imperative. The so called "patriarchy" is a strategy that men made up in order to control hypergamy. RPW promote the exact same strategy about controlling hypergamy, even though it's obviously more male-friendly than female-friendly. Feminism is actually closer to serving the female imperative than RPW. It would make more sense for a true Red Pill woman to be feminist.