So you've been lifting, dressing well, learning the guitar but still having trouble with the ladies? All the blog posts on game and dominance not helping you that much? That's because you have raised your value but not yet turned into an alpha. Congratulations! You have graduated to high value beta!

Let's say there's a man who is highly intelligent (top 1%), fairly good looking (say an 8), taller than average, upper middle class, well connected, great social skills, in a band, very popular, knows many girls and is a charismatic speaker. You must be thinking: "Wow, he must be an alpha, must be drowning in pussy". I was this man once and the envy of every male friend I've ever had. However, all this was external perception. Reality was that I was simply a high value beta. Women were easily attracted to me due to my charismatic nature but I was unable to hold to anyone of them. It was strange for the men to watch girls chase me after meeting me and then running away as soon as I started chasing them. "Surely, women are crazy! They don't know what they want" was their conclusion.

The point here is that simply improving your value only increases the initial interest from women. It does nothing more. You will still have trouble moving ahead.

I accidentally figured how to get around this by getting lost in my mission. The girl I was with was late often up to 60 minutes and I would tolerate it. Once there was something pressing that needed to be done with my mission, so after waiting for 10 minutes I simply left. When she came late as usual, I wasn't there and she threw a fit. I decided the heartache wasn't worth it and simply cut all contact without explicitly stating anything (what is now known as soft-next) and focused on my mission. After all, there is always a hotter girl out there (abundance). After a month or so, she sent an emissary to make peace and renew our relationship.

Having a mission automatically ensures you behave in the proper way with women. Without a mission, your game could be mediocre for years

I was a bit attached to my first girlfriend who had all the general bitchiness and drama of any late teen woman. When other women expressed interest, I would decline and say that I had a girlfriend. Some women who already knew would still hit on me. I spent years not pursuing these opportunities. Once during another soft-next, I went out with a girl who I had just met hours earlier. Then another next week. In a month, I had three plates.

Never commit to one woman, especially when you are young. You need the experience.

Being with multiple women allowed me to perfect my game. My methodology was fairly simple. Impressive first meeting. Show attention. Withdraw attention. Soft next on bad behavior. Within a couple of years, I had the confidence that I could get any woman I wanted ... and I did.

Confidence comes from repeated success. Practice, practice, practice

Long story short, I stumbled my way into success. A natural is simply someone who had higher number of opportunities due to good aesthetics or connections or social status. Most of us learnt by observing ourselves and the actions of women. There is one key attribute I had that was a big differentiator and that was I had state control. It is generally hard to piss me off, make me jealous or otherwise faze me. I achieved that using monk mode, the details of which I'll describe in another post.