Complaints like, "I never meet the right guys" and "only jerks are interested in me" have become cliches at this point. These aren't exactly deluded claims. There IS an abundance of assholes when you look at the guys women meet on a day to day basis.

Men are shamed for approaching women. I'm not even talking about anything outlandish like Me Too or sexual harassment claims. I think what's more impactful is that modern women have made it abundantly clear that they don't like being approached; it's a hassle for them. It's a common complaint that has now reached status quo territory, and it makes some sense. It has to be exhausting to deal with every guy whose eye you catch out in public.

The reason why so many women complain about only meeting jerks, is that jerks don't respond to shaming. They don't care if they interrupt your girls night out or bother you on the way to work. The guys you want to date are the ones who are being made hesitant. You want a guy who's respectful, but nowadays a respectful guy isn't going to be comfortable approaching you on most occasions. He's worried he'll just be bothering you, because that's what he's been told.

It's been decided that being able to play the passive role in meeting the opposite sex isn't worth the hassle. So if you want a successful love life, it may be time to play the active role.