I’m a 22 year old women who came out of a five year long term relationship a couple months ago. Yeah. I’m sure as hell not dating anytime soon. But there’s a lot I’ve learned about myself and what I can or can’t withstand and what I want in a partner. So it can’t hurt to set boundaries and learn more. Plus I have curiosities and want hope that there’s people like me.
I saw a post on Instagram of a woman asking if it’s possible to date without sex, and a guy responded saying yes as long as he gets sex somewhere else? There’s also the MGTOW and feminism movement being a rise and is acceptable, how do you weed out those people, especially if they’re extreme?
I’m not big on casual sex. I have a extreme sex drive. And love to do acts. But for me it’s something I have to wait on. I don’t know if I want to wait till marriage or just wait for months. I’m not dating, but figuring things out before I ever do so.
I see that it’s a big thing while dating, for another person to have sex with others until things are serious. I have a hard time with that, because I don’t try to talk to multiple people when finding a partner. Theres multiple posts here that talk about hookup culture and how men value it in college so I just want some perspective.
What do you all think. For the longest time I’ve felt like there was something wrong with me and not liking hookup culture. But some agree. Others don’t. It becomes hard to think it’s possible to find another who feels the same, especially a man. I hope I don’t sound condescending towards men. It’s just as hopeless for us as it is for you guys sometimes lol
Any advice on dating with the wants of a long term relationship but not wanting casual sex would be helpful, any success stories etc
Thanks for reading
TL;DR Want advice on how to deal with dating and to see if there’s people who agree
EDIT: There’s a lot of people commenting on having a sex drive, and me not seeking casual sex would mean that I have minimal sex drive. No.
Libido/Sex Drive definition: the urge to seek sexual desire or Desire for Sexual Activity.
TO DESIRE IS ONE THING; but to act on those desires is another thing entirely. I choose to wait for someone despite my libido. Plenty of people do it. Just as people with a lower libido have casual sex, it happens though less likely.
Things aren’t so black and white.
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