CMV: To be successful with women, men are better served by pursuing friendships with men rather than sexual relationships with women

I think that men from middle school through college should focus on building and maintaining relationships with other men.

Men learn masculinity from other men. Men should be focused on team-based activities and competitions with other men to develop their character, useful skills, athleticism, and confidence. This is easier and more productive than trying to develop sexual relationships with women.

I believe that if men develop these relationships and have these experiences with other men they will find relationships with women will come more easily, naturally, and frequently.

It DOES NOT MATTER that you can't lift the most or run the fastest or never caught the biggest fish among your group. Women aren't going to date your friend because he can bench 25lbs more than you. Just like you're not more appealing to women because you're the CEO of a 500 million dollar company rather than a 250 million dollar company. Just playing in the same league is enough.

Instead of burying your head on your smartphone or playing video games or being a keyboard internet warrior get out in the world. If you're 25 and out of school this is going to be harder than if you're 18 and heading off to college. I don't care, I don't want to hear your complaints. No one whines about how it's unfair that to build your muscles you have to lift weights. So don't whine that the only way to develop social skills is to be social.

I believe that a man pursing his own goals and living his own life (with friends and all) is much, much more likely to find casual sex AND relationships easier to come by.

Edit: for the collective retards among you, if you ALREADY are sexually successful and/or have a relationship then you don't 'need' this advice. I am also not telling you do go on a homoerotic adventure with your best bros, forswear women and give brojobs all day and night. I am saying by FOCUSING on relationships and activities with men during your formative years (healthy, pro-social activities) you will meet and have experiences with women as a BYPRODUCT more regularly and successfully than if you are FOCUSING only on trying to get laid or get a GF. If you're 46 and in an unhappy marriage THIS DOESN'T APPLY TO YOU. If you're 28 and spinning plates, THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU.

If you're in high school or undergrad THIS DOES APPLY TO YOU.