Why do feminists defend a woman's right to state and enforce her own preferences, but call it sexism when men do it? Why is it outright okay for women to say this, with no criticism from feminists?

https://imgur.com/a/pAQu0yU

But if a guy says no fat / small chested women on his profile, it's considered offensive?

Why do men have to be apologetic about their preferences but women don't?

Disclaimer: When I was single I went for chunky. Fat women shouldn't get pissed on any more than short men.