Another way of framing the point in the title is: you can get away with saying almost anything if you have the charisma and social skills to say it the right way. This is distinct from saying it and also having charisma and social skills to buffer you from the blowback--that will not always save you.
I shouldn't have to sugarcoat anything around these parts, so I won't: many of the men that come to these parts are average to below-average in social skills. This is just a fact, and luckily social skills can be improved upon, dramatically.
Combine this with the "anger phase", and the result is: many red pill types are sour and charmless.
The problem comes when we confuse the controversy of red pill truths with the controversy of red pill truths combined with socially incompetent delivery.
The former are raw and real; the latter are nuclear bombs of social death that can end your career or ruin your reputation.
As a result, it is very important to get this clear in your head and to get this right.
It is important that your public persona or public talks or writing does not appear unhappy, sour, spergy, lashing out, butthurt—if you value your social reputation, always aim to be charming, smart, funny, sharp, sincere. To most humans, the sour and butthurt are unbearably uncharismatic, unbearably uncharming, and if you want to make it in the world this is not the air you want to convey, regardless of how right you are.
It has been noted time and time again that in other forums or subreddits red pill truths can be upvoted significantly when slipped in like a Trojan horse.
The Trojan horse includes: empathic understanding of your audience's mental paradigm and playing to that while gently exposing them to a plausible alternative; not insulting your audience but making them feel intelligent and respected; avoiding in-group jargon like "hypergamy"; framing the point in a way that doesn't brutalise egos or make people feel stupid or spoken down to--among many other skills.
To recall an old saying from memory: Truth without love is brutality. Humans are intrinsically emotional creatures, not just women; we are not swayed by logic alone. It's naive to just lay out the bare bones of facts and expect to be embraced—you become detested for it with a passion you would not believe.
Example right now: You can be indifferent to this if you want--perhaps you don't care how others perceive you or perhaps you're too spergy or socially incompetent to pull it off or you enjoy being the heroic martyr. The mentally weak among you will say "blue pill post", or "concern troll", and ignore the points (do you feel a twinge of butthurt and resistance?) Note right now I'm doing the opposite of the above maxims, to make a point. I could have phrased it very differently and got the same point across.
If you want a happy life where people like you and forgive your trespasses, take this to heart:
Over time you forget the exact words of conversations you've had with people, and even eventually the gist of long ago conversations fade away. What remains is how you made the person feel; that's the imprint that matters.
To the best of your ability be someone who puts a positive spin on things, who enhances people; be the opposite of a whiner and a negative downer. The most brutal truths can be conveyed with humour and skill. That's why podcasters like Joe Rogan are so popular: they don't lie or distort or evade but they deliver their message with social tact, skill and humour.
The language you use is important. To give a quick example: compare "depression" versus "a little bit prone to a depressive temperament", and the more gentle blow of adjective nouns ("slutty") versus the brutality of nouns ("slut"). Resist the urge to shit your pain all over everyone else. To the best of your ability avoid focusing on the ugly parts of life; life is too big and too full to focus on the rotten elements of it. Ignore the irrelevant bullshit.
People become viscerally revolted when others around them advocate slimy opportunism and dark triad-type shit, it makes people think of reptiles and users and exploiters and they associate those traits with you. The result: social failure, you get locked out. Nobody wants anything to do with you.
The assholes that women are crazy about are many things but they're not downers. As cliched as it is, try to tap into the absurdity and madness of the world and learn to laugh at it. Meditate to get the butthurt out of you. Avoid/minimise sarcasm. Even Roissy's (Heartiste) writings contain charm and humour. Writing that is solely designed to puke ugly truths onto a page is revolting to cognitively normal people; it must be explicitly anchored to a greater cause or to bring something better into the world. That's the platform on which even the worst of tyrants rode to the top.
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