A couple of the loveable teddybears of /r/seduction were very "concerned" about this quick note, so I realized that it might be worth posting here. Anything that a fake male feminist frets over might be worth sharing...


Why do women want so badly to call you "creepy" or "weird"?

Why are women obsessed with finding sociopaths and rapists everywhere?

Why are women so cruel to men when you haven't done anything to deserve it?


Here's a perspective that you probably can't see. It's invisible to you for the same reason that you're alone looking at a screen instead of being in a conversation with real people. It's also the same reason why you're drowning in self-help jargon and hero worship when most people who are doing well "naturally" don't seem to need it.

Here's how to make it simple:

  1. In any place where there are two or more people, you're now in a social situation. Every social situation is governed by unspoken rules of behavior. The rules are endless, but they are based on a few simple principles.

  2. If you want sex from women, this means that they have something you want. Hence, they are automatically in a higher social position than you. This means that you have to play by their rules. If you don't, they will ignore or bully you to raise their social value. She doesn't know you, and it's not her job to care until you show that you are socially "on her level".

You really don't have to read any farther unless you intend to comment on this post.


Why do women want so badly to call you "creepy" or "weird"?

It gives her an easy way to show that she's more socially intelligent than someone else in the room (you), and consolidates her position as part of the "in-group" with her friends.

She doesn't care about you. It's not about you at all. She's merely operating by the rules of the environment. "You" don't exist as a human being until you've shown that other people like you ("social proof"). If you are looking for women specifically, you also need to be seen as someone who is liked specifically by women who are socially similar to her ("pre-selection").

Why are women obsessed with finding sociopaths and rapists everywhere?

Imagine being in demand by everyone who sees you. You're a minor celebrity everywhere you go. And everybody wants something. There's always an agenda behind the friendly smile. If you don't figure out the agenda, you'll probably be taken advantage of, several times per day.

That's the life of the average "beautiful" woman. She isn't treated like a real person much of the time. Women want a hot friend to make themselves look good, and will use fake friendship, gossip and backstabbing in order to get what they want. Men almost exclusively want sex, and many of them are willing to use deceptive tactics and lies to get laid.

If other people don't relate to you as a human being, you have no choice but to operate by those rules. Crusading for equal treatment will be met with blank stares or more lies. So a beautiful woman has to constantly negotiate the thin line between skillfully dealing with people versus acting like a sociopath.

She will often assume the worst from you because she sees it every day. And unattractive women can use shame against you as a cheap gender-based social control tactic (the old "masculinity = rape culture" lie).

Why are women so cruel to men when you haven't done anything to deserve it?

She doesn't care about "you". She cares about her status in the social environment.


You can, however, use her "human herd instincts" to shortcut all the self-help jargon ("you are the prize", "be non-reactive", "be Alpha", .etc,).

Make it simple: learn to tell fascinating stories to a group of people. Learn to be cruel in a way that excludes your enemy from the group while raising your status among everyone else ("wittiness"). Wit is a social weapon that only sometimes includes humour.

See the venue as a social competition -- not as a quest to "get laid or die trying". When you win the competition in the eyes of a woman, she will want to be with you. All healthy humans want sex. All "normal" humans are inherently herd animals (this trait is also at work on websites that allow mass "voting" behaviors). Most people are also self-absorbed to a strong degree, and define themselves according to the perception of the herd (are you a "winner" or a "loser"?).

Make it simple: she wants sex with a guy who similar women find attractive.

Learn to take pleasure in being cruel to other people who try to disrupt you, and not because you "need" a specific woman. Do it because you're justified in socially eviscerating anyone who tries to damage the group's perception of your status. Becoming recognizably strong to a beautiful woman often means staying just one step back from acting like a sociopath. Are you prepared to do that to yourself?

If it makes you feel better, remind yourself that you didn't create this game. Women did, and they've been honing their skills against each other in an endless social competition ever since the onset of puberty, for as long as our species has been intelligent enough to use language.

Make it simple: Focus on the social environment rather than on yourself. Forgot about the "self-help" nonsense because people who are "naturals" often are the opposite of a fake "pickup artist superhero". Learn to fascinate a group and the one-on-one skills will come with time. Lastly, grasp the implications of the fact that this applies in any scenario that involves two or more people.

And remember: keep it simple. Nothing behind a screen is real. Test everything against experience. When you fail, assess your mistakes, adjust your approach and try again. Read less theory and make more mistakes. Accept that mistakes are the path to learning and the herd animal's need for self-help hero worship will largely fade away.