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"rape culture" clearly triggers too many. what i meant by "rape culture" was a culture in which women are for the most part justified in being cautious of strange men, if not all men. that is the crux of my OP. not a debate on the phrase "rape culture."

For those who believe "women being cautious of strange men, if not all men" rhetoric is unfair, etc.. where do you think most women learned it?

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It's acceptable to shame men for just about anything, their sexuality is treated as a threat. Few would care about something you're describing if the genders were flipped.

A comment from the recent OP "Why is it acceptable to shame older men for being attracted younger women?"

On Twitter there's a meme of "men are trash."

I think it started as women seeing repulsive 'rapey' tweets from men and quoting the tweets with "men are trash."

That said, a lot of men, and understandably, find the sentiment unfair and mean-spirited.

A fellow man took it upon himself to ask his male peers, "Where do you guys think women learned "men are trash" from?"

The guys didn't answer.

A bunch of women replied, "OUR FATHERS."

Meaning for a lot of women, it was our fathers who told us that "men only want one thing."

Or that "men are predatory."

Or "don't be alone with guys."

And "don't trust men."

Then as we lived our lives and got our asses grabbed enough times, enough men confirmed what our daddies insinuated or explicitly stated.

Eventually most women learned that men are clearly hyper testosterone driven and we developed our own methods to keep them at bay or within our frame. (Also why none of this sexual assault /harassment stuff of recent is all that surprising to women.)

So, I ask, are women wrong in feeling the way they do? Sometimes I see the same guys complaining that it's unfair to men, also victim-blaming women "well she shouldn't have been alone with men." -_-

Are fathers wrong in being so over-protective of their daughters to the point of painting all men as "predators"?

For men, what are your thoughts?

For women, did your parents, specifically your father, share any of these sentiments growing up?

BONUS QUESTION

  • Can the men with daughters answer? I'm curious if their views have changed since having one?