The character of any woman whom you invite into your personal/intimate space is important, even if she is just a one-night stand or casual sex partner.

Imagine a woman with ill-intent in your apartment/condo/home while you are drunk and/or sleeping. She could do you serious harm, for example:

  • stealing or damaging your valuables
  • stealing your identity and other private information
  • installing a key logger on your computer
  • drugging you or spiking your food/drink/medicine
  • physically harming you
  • falsely accusing you and/or ruining your reputation with your neighbors
  • planting drugs or other illegal items
  • using your place for illegal activities
  • secretly photographing you and then blackmailing you, or planting a spy camera
  • spermjacking
  • raping you while you are drunk/asleep, perhaps bareback or in a painful way
  • inviting her MMA lover and his buddies over to pummel you

My intent isn't to make you paranoid, and many of these situations are admittedly extremely rare, but they are certainly possible and have happened to others - and the worse her character is, the higher the probability that something bad will happen.

I used to pay little attention to the character of women I brought home as long as they were attractive. After some close calls, I definitely rule out women who do not give off a kind, trustworthy, and gentle vibe, and I also rule out any women who seem shady, 'hard', or desperate in any way. I may lose out on some depraved bad girl sex, but the resulting peace-of-mind is worth it.

You can't eliminate all risk, but you can at least be smart about evaluating and mitigating your risk, and also knowing the risk level at which you are comfortable.

You can also do a lot to 'harden' your abode so that crimes of opportunity don't present themselves. You can probably imagine many of the things you should do, but perhaps I'll write another chapter on that later.

NOTE: You can flip the genders here and everything should still make sense. However, I would guess that women crave 'bad boy sex' more than men crave 'bad girl sex'.


(This was originally my comment in the field report submission titled, "Yet another tale of caution" by /r/uselessadvantage which describes how OP was falsely accused of rape.)