A common trope in RP/incel/MGTOW posts is the appearance of “Chad,” who is always a 6’4”, hyper-muscular, male-model handsome, irresistibly suave, and wealthy god of a man. Even though I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who meets all the criteria in this description, RPers seem to be aware of some secret Chad Hangouts from how much they encounter Chad all the time.

Chad apparently always gets your girl too. He actually gets all the girls, no matter how fat or unattractive, even though he barely exists. All RPers know that they would be total playboys and slayers with women if it weren’t for that meddling Chad (which is the minimum standard for women).

In reality, the whole idea of “Chad” is a coping mechanism. RPers/incels want to believe they are “average”, but women have such unrealistically high standards that it prevents them from being successful. In reality, they are below average, either in looks or social skill (I think the latter is actually more of an issue, demonstrated by how much RPers go to extremes in all their descriptions of social interactions). Instead of blaming themselves, everyone else is the problem (including women, Chad, society, feminists, the system, the man and so on). Chad really doesn’t exist in any significant number, and if he does, he certainly is not sleeping with or dating anything but very attractive women (attractive men in real life wouldn’t deign to touch “below average” girls- if they do, RPers are overestimating these men’s looks). The vast majority of men can and do achieve sex and relationships, and most women are not holding out for Chad. Most couples I see are looks matched. Seriously, what RPers claim is not statistically possible- somehow, in their minds, all women have dozens of partners while the majority of men are close to incel. This is just a reflection of their own fixation on attractive “party girls” and projection of their own situation to all men.

Chad is a very convenient mental escape when one wishes to believe that he is a failure only because the challenge he faces is extraordinarily difficult. But it’s not, and the problem is their lack of understanding of social nuance. I believe they likely overvalue themselves and pursue women out of their league, then psychologically spin it so that they are victims of a wicked system.