I've been familiar with TRP for years, but didn't embrace as much as I should have. Like many, I found Coach Corey Wayne and his advice has also helped a lot, but I've come to describe him as a "soft redpill". Now from watching Swole Alpha and starting on AMS (Alpha Male Strategies), I've learned it's called the "purple pill" and it makes sense. I know my heart wants that so bad, but my heart also gets itself hurt and the purple-pilled man shows his cards too early. My last girl, I told her I loved her in one of the most romantic ways I've ever done, but I made the mistake of saying it first. A few months later she lost interest. I got her in the first place by using CCW's advice on making them set definite plans with you and no longer let women jerk me around, but this purple-pill approach is starting to be a huge turn-off to the women I try to talk to.

But the problem is I'm not like these other alphas. I'm not "their" brand of alpha, and I'm worried by being myself I won't get results. I'm bisexual, but lean towards women. Grew up with almost all female cousins and even many of my music tastes could be described as "feminine", but I also listen to a ton of 70s-90s stuff. I don't dress "their" brand of manly. I worked in men's formalwear for years and developed a love for suits, sport coats, leathers, etc. Think the Kingsman movies or Patrick Bateman from American Psycho. Very 50s. On the opposite end I love Hawaiian shirts and dress like the GTA Vice City protagonist in the summers, or I look like a James Dean greaser style when I drive my motorcycle. Needless to say, I'm something of a nerd as well. I am also a professional hairstylist/barber and act in theatre. From my time in hair school I can now outbitch any woman at their own game and have some conceived "gay" quirks from time to time. I'm comfortably and unapologetically me at all times. Due to a combination of factors many women are surprised I like women at all. I get the "unlike any guy I've been with" and "so interesting" compliment all the time. But no one stays and they lose attraction eventually. Longest being nearly 3 years.

I am constantly looking to improve myself and pursue my purpose. I finally act in community theatre, dl charity work for children, learned to cook & eat well, got back to the gym after a major surgery, moved out into my own place, have a motorcycle (next is a car & house). I'm also learning bass & piano on the side. I work a great sales job with a stable company and get paid well for it, working my way up the ladder. I paid off all of my bad debts and am well on my way to financial stability. I even do freelance financial counselling outside of work and my hair clients. I am busy, but have a good thing going.

But with so many female/metro qualities, can someone like me be truly "Alpha" with women at all? To me there's nothing more shameful than completely changing myself just to attract more women, but the dating world isn't going over well for me and it shows now. I am considered to be quite attractive already and while I'm not swole yet I will be. I have no problems getting women or getting laid, but that's only when I heavily lower my standards. I don't want to do this anymore. I want something real, but don't want them to lose attraction.

My city is a bit unique in the fact that our dating pool is VERY poor. Bare in mind this is just what displays from dating apps. Single mothers, obese, polyamorous, sex workers, and women not looking to date. All other women I've met who aren't these things have been in happy LTRs. Any women on these apps that are an 8+ are sex workers looking to push their Onlyfans/premium SCs, or they just want to hook up. This takes online dating almost completely out of the equation, but is meeting women out in the real world any different? If so, how do you even do it without being labeled as weird or creepy? I have no idea how to meet women without online dating anymore.

TlDr: Been familiar with RP concepts, but still have a long way to go because purple-pilled methods will only get me so far. I'm not entirely the "manly-man" type of alpha in terms of how I dress, my hobbies, interests, etc so I'm worried these methods won't work for me. I'm attractive, dress well, take care of myself, stay busy, and try to be all I can be. My city has a horrid online dating pool and I have no idea how to meet women in the real world anymore. Can someone like me truly be "alpha" and turn this around?